i have been known to do this. i learned that there is usually something else bothering me and that's why i am rocking the boat. if i start feeling myself getting feisty i stop before i create a argument and address what i am really upset about.

although, i don't catch myself and i start a rockn' the boat! lol!

I am guilty of doing this sometimes to my guy. But, mostly I just like to push his buttons and see how far I can go but I stop before he gets really mad.

I do this too..

Usually I take something that has been slightly bugging me ( not too much) but just bring it up anyway. For example, I have been trying to encourage a little more repsonsible drinking patterns when my SO gets together with family celebrations back in his hometown.. Since a couple of times ago things have gotten out of hand, he pushed this limits this weekend and I basically went over the ins and outs of why I am uncomfortable with the excessiveness of drinking.
I know his family was around and were probably keeping him safe, but I still brought it up, just to keep in mind my hopes for his future decrease of alchohol comsumption

Is it just me, or is this "women commonly find a way to stir up trouble" insulting to anyone else?

I rarely do this, especially now that I'm married. But it did remind me of this thing that happened this weekend.

My husband, mother-in-law and I were shopping. We were at Anthropologie, so naturally he was sitting on a couch waiting for me to be finished (since there aren't guy clothes there) and he was talking to his mom in Russian (they're from Ukraine). So this girl walks up, interrupts my mother in law and says "I heard you speaking another language, what is it?" So my mother in law gets pissed (and bored as she later said) and walks away. Well the little girl continues to talk to my husband flirting with him about how she can speak russian (she can say hi and what is your name) so I see her and I walk over and my husband says immediately, "this is my wife, Stephanie" and I give her the devil smile and she blushes and walks away.

So the point being, I rocked the boat afterward because I got totally aggravated with him and then my mother in law and I made fun of him the whole night because the chick had a cold sore and we were making these terrible jokes and I was really letting it get to me, when really he did nothing wrong.

alerixon, I thought the same thing. This is sexist. I know the statement "not all women do this" is included, but still it's implied that it's a woman's issue. I think this is an issue that all people are capable of, men included. I've never even heard this presented as a female stereotype until now.

Yeah, I was not aware of this female character flaw. Personally, I enjoy smooth sailing.

I really try to never do it, but I know all my female friends are guilty!

I don't think I would start a fight just for the hell of it, but I do point out things that I don't like often... hehehe...plus its healthy.... I guess...

i have a habit of doing this...

I think I semi-unintentionally do this just to bring a little bit of drama/excitement to our otherwise pretty smooth relationship. Usually its nothing big, I'm just quiet and he thinks that the world is coming to an end for some reason...

I do this also. I don't know why. Sometimes I just let every little thing bother me, and I can't let it go. I realize it's stupid even as I'm saying it, but by that point I'm too embarrassed to be like "Yeah, this is stupid, I'll stop now." I bet my husband would appreciate that, though. I'm working on cooling it down

that's not rocking the boat sryako but whatever

I used to be guilty of this big time. I think it was just insecurity on my part. I was always so afraid that if something good happened something bad was right around the corner, I would try to force the bad to happen just to get it over with. Now I feel more secure in who I am and I feel that I work hard for my happiness and I deserve the good things that come along. Besides there is enough crap that comes along with just living, I don't need to invite more

I do it, I'll admit. Just like Sydney C, I do it sometimes to add a little excitement when things are going, well, TOO good...
But I am conscious of it and try to stop before I start. Not a good habit to have!

dear sugar, u sound like my husband. i hate fighting, and id much rather prefer everything to go smoothly and lovingly.

but if he did something that bothers me or hurts me, hell yea im gonna bring it up, as does he.

so lets call it a relationship behaviour rather than a woman behaviour.

Nah I don't need to create problems, trust me! Ha.

Um...no. This is just odd to me.

I would never intentionally cause any problems between my hubby and I...we get along great and I like it like that!

Some days I just wake up grumpy and hating everything, and when that happens I'll pick a fight with anyone I know. I've taken to just declaring my grumpiness as soon as I feel it, as a sort of warning.

My boyfriend does this, not me. I think he thinks it's funny. It's annoying.

No never we get along great!IMO it's very immature and I don't see the point in purposely causing an argument because things are going good. Call me crazy , but I'd prefer not make myself or my husband miserable.

"Is it just me, or is this "women commonly find a way to stir up trouble" insulting to anyone else?"

It's not just you.

Hell no. I'm not self-destructive. I'm all about peace and harmony in our relationship.

However, if there is an issue, I would get into it. But the objective is to resolve it so we can get back to the good place in our relationship.