I have zero interest in what's in my fiance's email, MySpace, or computer stuff--I'm just not very snoopy. I wouldn't share passwords, just because one needs one's privacy, and there is really no reason for one's girlfriend or boyfriend to have one's passwords, or vice versa.

Ditto everything Jude said.

i agree, Dear...i don't see why you would need to share them. i wouldn't want to give mine out (even though i'm very honest and wouldn't have anything to hide) and would never expect him to share his...that being said, if i needed to get into his email for a specific reason (ie: he was sick and he needed me to email his boss, or was away and was waiting for an important email or something) then i would expect he wouldn't be uncomfortable giving it to me...if he was, then i might think something was up...but i also wouldn't find it weird if he changed it shortly after, because some things just need to remain private, if only for piece of mind.

furthermore, the problem with snooping is that it can become an addiction (hello, facebook stalking!) and you end up nitpicking over stuff that's not threatening, or you make up terrible situations in your mind that aren't true because you don't have full information. i just don't think anything good can come of it!

My best friend has my passwords to my facebook account and uni account, email etc and I know hers aswell. We swapped at first for functional reasons at first, I don't mind if she has them, I don't even mind if she snoops. I'd be annoyed if she sent random things to people and pretented to be me, but I know she isn't going to do that. My little sister knows them aswell I think.

My fiance knows my passwords. I know his. We both could care less because, like you said, there's nothing in my inbox or my Facebook that I wouldn't want him to see. Even though I know his password for various things, I never check his stuff just because I trust him.

For those of you whose friends/significant others do have your passwords, I'm really interested to know why. I know michelle c said "for functional reasons"--like what?

a girl went missing at a college near my house, and on one of the facebook groups created to help locate her, someone made the following comment:

"if it's true that she had a boyfriend, then he should know her email password and he could give it to the police"

and i was so shocked by this comment that "he should" have it...she's in college, and their relationship wasn't even official, based on these reports, so i don't see why he SHOULD have it? i think it's the exception to the rule that you'd have them for any other reason than by accident or coincidence

like, for instance, i have told people that my phone voicemail password is my best friend's phonenumber from childhood, so if you cared enough to track that down, you would know it - i've also told people that my email password is a nickname from highschool, but no one would know how to spell it... also, my ex's password was the name of his favorite sport and my new boyfriend's password is the brand of golf clubs he uses...i only know this because they've casually mentioned it, but for all i know, it has more letters or numbers also attached to it

I have given out my password, but it's usually been when I am nowhere near a computer and needed certain information, like "hey I really need the address of that building, can you go into my email and find the message from so and so with it? this is my password." Other than that, I don't see why anyone would need a list of my passwords. Ditto for my boyfriend's passwords.

Sharing is not always a good thing...

My ex-bf gave me his voice mail/email password when he was away from the State, so I could check if there's any important message for him. I can honestly tell you that was a mistake. Though it seemed very sweet at that time, I became obessive with checking his messages...espeically when we got into fight or something...

Now I refuse to know/share my current bf's password TO anything! I don't want to be the obsessive bi@tch anymore.

My SO and I share everything including passwords. You never know when it might come in handy. I can think of a couple of times where I have had information that I needed urgently sent to my email and I couldn't get access to a computer.

I've shared some passwords with my boyfriend--like the one to get on my computer or my opentable account in case he wants to make a reservation. Never an email password. I think it's strange that that would be assumed. Once when my ex was sick he sent me out to the drugstore to get some medicine and gave me his debit card & PIN to pay for it. I was like, holy crap, you trust me that much! I would never give you my PIN.

I have no idea what the hell happened to my last sentence

But here is the correction if anyone cares....

Now I refuse to know/share passwords w/ my current bf. I don't want to be the obsessive bi@tch anymore.

Nope, no password sharing here. It's bad enough that I have to read the stuff thats public on his myspace, facebook, whatever, I don't even want to see the messages that are private!!

Have definitely argued about this before. I think it shows a lack of trust not to share with someone you're been with for years and years. He asked for my computer password once so he could use it when I wasn't there, but he still won't give me his. He has serious privacy issues, even though there's no reason to.

My boyfriend wouldn't know how to use a password if I shared it with him. He very rarely uses a computer, and never goes online.

Although not the same, I do know his pin number and the code to get in to his voicemail, and I've told him mine but he never remembers it.

I do have my husband's password, but I can't actually remember why he gave it to me. Anyway, I wouldn't ever use it unless I thought something weird was going on....in that case I would definitely check his email first. My dad found out that my mom was cheating on him when he was looking at her email (he's not a snoop, he was looking for a piece of important info and couldn't get a hold of my mom).

We don't share passwords because there is no need. I don't hide anything! but well, I have enough of my own things to remember!

No. Some things are just for you. I think if you suspect your bf or gf is cheating then its up to you to confront them about it. Its best to do it that way than to go behind their back.

I agree Dear, what's really the point. I mean c'mon...

i know all my husbands passwords, but it's really useful because of his horrible memory. he often asks me for his passwords -- since he never remembers!

i never check anything of his without asking first -- and i seriously have no desire to read any of this boring emails.

he knows my passwords (well, at least in theory -- the man has very short term memory) and i don't think he's interested in the least in my inbox as well.

Me and my boyfriend don't share passwords. I guess there /are/ things on my computer I wouldn't want him to look at but thats just because we haven't crossed those bridges yet. i.e. my porn.

wow what a HUGE no no!

I don't see the need. Hell, this could evoke trust issues. When someone is given an opportunity, i dont put it beyond them to not exercise it or take advantage.

Yes we have each other's passwords. Bank accounts (we share an account and I know his signon and account password and he knows mine), emails (if I need to check his for him or he for me), pin numbers, etc.
If something were to happen and someone needed into my accounts (bank, email, university) then someone needs to know those things. Well, it's no longer my parents who know it so it's him. We've been together for 5 1/2 years now and I trust him and he trusts me. It's not a matter of checking up on each other.

Oh and he doesn't have myspace or facebook like I do so I don't have those passwords... I think he knows mine though.

Oh for example. He is enrolling in a class for next fall and waiting on permission from his advisor. He is at work right now. Well, I checked his email for him and found the advisor had given permission so I let him know and he asked me to enroll him (which requires password too) b/c he needs to get enrolled NOW! As in can't wait until he comes home. Besides he's lazy and I take care of that for him usually.

My husband doesn't have a MySpace or anything like that...he DOES have an email account, but only because I set it up for him. I do know his password, but I'd never have a reason to check it. HE doesn't even check it...haha.

He doesn't have any of my passwords, I'm sure he would be completely uninterested in reading my emails anyway.

We don't share passwords, I don't see the point.

My ex-boyfriend gave me his email password, haha, mistake.

I really think it depends on the type of person you are and the type of relationship you have. I know some of my husband's passwords but not all of them and I would never login and check anything w/o him asking me to and the same goes for him with me.

I knew someone once who gave every single one of his passwords (phone, email, myspace, etc.) to his girlfriend... She has him on such a tight leash that he is running out of friends. She pretty much screens all of his emails and messages...it is sad and pathetic.

My hubby and I know most (if not all) of each other's passwords, and I don't really see why it's a big deal. It's not like we sat down and listed them off for each other, but every once in awhile we'll need the other one to check something in an account when we're not at home. Plus, most of his passwords are very similar (which you're totally not supposed to do), so once I learned one I could pretty much figure out any of them. Honestly, though, it doesn't make me any more inclined to snoop into his accounts. I think if he was weird about me having access then I would be more suspicious than if he's willing to let me see everything.

My fiance and I know all of eachother's passwords. Sometimes we tell eachother just so that we can ask if we forget. Neither of us are snoopy sort of people, but we often do things like call from a car to ask the other to check for an important email, or log on to pay a phone bill that the other one forgot about until the last minute. I agree that there's no need to know eachother's passwords, but for us it's become a convenience.

My bf and I know each others' Facebook and email passwords, as we've both had to call each other at one time or another to ask the other person to retrieve a message for us - or in some cases, answer really urgent emails while we were out of the country and didn't have access to computers/internet cafe. I can honestly say I have no interest in snooping about his personal business, especially his emails, and we often leave our inboxes open to each other whenever we're at each others' house (not on purpose, I mean it just happens to be up on the screen). I don't share my bank details, and neither does he. But I have on numerous occasions asked him to "hack" into my email account to retrieve an address, etc. I didn't have written down. I just don't think it's a big deal. If I was worried I could change my password.

I believe that if he is the right guy, he will trust me enough to have that privacy; I wouldn't give my password to anyone (ex: bf, bff, husband etc...)

My boyfriend has mine because when I use his computer to sign onto things, he has to type it in for me...He doesn't like other people to touch his things on his desk. So, he saw me typing in my password when we started dating, and since that's my generic password for almost everything, he remembers it. I once said it wasn't fair that he always types in my passwords regardless of whether we're on his or my computer, so I felt I should know why he insists on not telling me his. He reluctantly did, though I said I didn't really want to know...Just to know he was willing to tell if I asked. Then, he went and changed it. So, I guess he got his privacy back, and I stopped feeling guilty for knowing someone's password (It's creepy!).

I say no sharing passwords. Reason: I went snooping and will always regret reading what I found.

my boyfriend and i both know eachothers passwords for the most part...not all of them. like other people, its just not that important to us and we both have nothing to hide.

I have some extensive experience with this. Occasionally my boyfriend would check his e-mail at my place and forget to sign out. It's not like I thought about it and wanted to snoop. I just casually took the opportunity to look a few times whenever that happened. The first time I did this I found some e-mails from a woman he had been seeing right before ( and I mean almost right on top of) the time he began dating me. I was really hurt because he had told me they were just friends and all the sudden every memory of that time became sour to me. I wished I hadn't found that out because he wasn't still seeing or even talking to her. Unfortunately it got me on the path of thinking that since he lied about that, what else was he keeping from me that I needed to know. It caused some distrust on my part but I didn't do much about it. The next time i had a chance to see his e-mail months later I found out something much worse. he had been e-mailing and calling another one of his ex girlfriends behind my back for nearly two months. She had even come to town while I was out of town and they had dinner. He claimed nothing happened and nothing in the e-mails suggested that something had happened but I was really pissed just the same. That's when i installed spyware on his computer to get his passwords and monitor everything. I should have broken up with him at that point because once you go there trust is totally gone. Still for a long time I had all his passwords and checked his e-mail regularly. I know mine is more a lesson about what happens when you snoop ( and of course when your boyfriend lies) but the truth is that if you have those passwards, you're going to use them and in the right type of relationship you shouldn't even want to.

i know his passwords, but i don't use them to snoop. i'm fairly secure with what we have. he would rather not know mine... he doesn't want the opportunity.

I probably wouldn't ever share it with a significant other because if the relationship ends on a sour note how would I know what he would do with that?

However, my mother, cousin, and best friend all know my password because I trust them with it. The only reason I gave it to my best friend was so one day she could check my email for me while we were on the phone because I couldn't check it.

i have my bf's password to one of his email accounts that he gave me once to check something for him. i later asked him to change it so i wouldn't be tempted to snoop. ha, but he didn't because he said he didn't care.