Before you're "boyfriend and girlfriend," it's perfectly acceptable to date other people. But even if you really like someone, it's not uncommon to go through the motions with someone else who you don't fancy all that much — you know, just in case! I like to call that backup plan a "cushion date." While I understand the urge to avert loneliness, some would say dating someone you're clearly not interested in is wrong, so ladies, where do you stand on this subject? Do you think it's OK to "cushion date"?
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Where Do You Stand? "Cushion Dating"
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Yeah - I mean as long as you enjoy the person's company, what's the harm in "cushion dating?" If you're doing it just to avoid loneliness; I think it's a bit sad really.
1I think it's ok.
2I did it.
Before my current bf and I became exclusive, I went on other dates with other guys. He got pretty jelaous (which I knew he would!) and we started to become exclusive not long after
I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as you are both clear on what the situation is then why not!!
3No. I don't see the point in dating someone "just in case." You should date someone because you want to spend time with them, not because you're worried that someone you like better might not work out.
4I wouldn't date someone that I had no interest in. It is a waste of time.
5No i only dated men that i was interested in and wanted to spend time with.I've never dated any man as a "just in case" substitute for another one.
6Not sure I would do it again, but definitely has kept me from jumping into something too serious too quickly.
7Isn't that what friends for?
8its TOTALLY acceptable. I mean, we as women, like to have plenty of options, right? I'm sure men do the same. Trust me.
9*eye roll*
I think that stringing someone along is mean.
I think keeping your options open is fine.
Not sure where "cushion" dating falls in those 2 categories - sounds like a little of both.
10I'd do it just for the free dinners! lol j/k (sort of)
11I think it gets too confusing for everyone involved.
12I don't know why you'd want to date someone you weren't interested in at all... but if you're interested in more than one person,then why not?
13I do think that as soon as the other relationship starts having potential or you become emotionally committed to one, you should cut the other off--it's not fair to the other guy to just string him along.
I meant as soon as the other guy you were dating starts having potential, not the relationship--obviously I didn't mean you should cheat on someone
14I did it...Just because I couldn't deal with my break-up, and I thought forgetting about it as quickly as possible would alleviate the pain. I dated as much as I could, but in the process, I did 50% of hurting to the guys, and I got hurt by 50% of the guys. Eh, it wasn't that great.
15What's the point in dating some other guy that you aren't interested in. Who is that desperate? Really!!!!
16Sometimes in my life, I had "cushion dates." It's also known as self preservation. When you're reaching a critical decision with one person there are still no guarantees. I think its a healthy thing to do, and will propel two people together faster since the boyfriend will see the other dates as potential threats to his relationship and stop it by asking for a commitment. Then also the girlfriend will realize that there is no one who makes her happier than the boyfriend in question. Hopefully everyone involved is playing nice, but as they say, all is fair in love and war.
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