I don’t care how much you love someone, you’ll eventually get into some arguments. However, what you fight about really depends on your specific personality traits, pet peeves, opinions, and personal histories. Not to mention that each particular type of relationship brings along its own set of complications and circumstances. So ladies, do tell, when you argue with your significant other, what's it usually about?
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Relationship Protocol: What Are You Most Likely to Be Arguing About?
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1its usually the tone of voice or the implication of something
We argue about cohabitation and marriage a lot ... because we can't seem to communicate in a way the other understands. It's really frustrating to hit a communication brick wall.
2Politics and social issues (like how someone acts in a certain situation).
3we usually argue because i ask him to do something and then half hour later its not done so i do it myself and then he gets mad at me.
that or i think he's giving me attitude and i give him attitude right back
usually small, stupid stuff
4we used to argue alot about his selfishness. i had to be very patient with that trait.
5About how much he works!
And how I can never spend quality time with him!
And then he says I can't get mad because he is making money to make our lives better...like how I am suppose to fight that one!
6Money.
7My family
8Who gets the cats if we break up.
9We usually argue about my lack of involvement with his church and the reasons why I don't want to be involved with his church.
10he doesn't like the fact i keep a box of old photos and letters from ex boyfriends. we argued about that monday; i tried to tell him it's my past for a reason. i'm sentimental, what can i say?
11pop that is too funny!!
12Politics.
13I'd say his "issues." And we'll leave it at that, ha.
14Dumb stuff. There isn't really one specific thing. It's usually just miscommunication or a certain tone of voice from either one of us--if one of us is in a bad mood, we tend to hear attitude in the other's voice that isn't really there (or that might be, but isn't a big deal). We both have fairly hot tempers.
15Usually she is barking at me for some thing I never did right, or I am not good enough at this, blah blah blah....
16The amount of time he spends playing his computer game. All of his free time is on the computer. Also that he drinks like fish and smokes like a chimney!
17Random, useless things.
18We always argue about money and the silly household chores.
19We aren't much plagued by dramatic eruptions of arguments.
Our most recent (and most persistent) pulse of persnickety frustration relates to family expectations.
I often remind him that it would be beneficial to our family if he would attempt to go just a bit easier on the ducklings.
He is not a viciously critical person (not at all), but he becomes impatient very quickly, and never more often than in his dealings with our boys. When I notice his frustration brimming, I enjoin him to please calm down, take a moment, and consider adjusting his perspective or altering his methods.
I know that it bothers him, because it feels (to him) like I am criticizing his parenting. But I'm not; I'm only trying to develop a more workable solution for our family dynamic.
But it's not too bad. He openly admits that he's a rather grumpy goose, and in calmer moments he generally agrees with my methods.
20We have one TV, so we fight about what to watch almost daily.
21How untidy he is and how SLOW he is. I know I have serious problems when it comes to the house being clean, but seriously, we've been together for 11 years! You would think by now he would do the right thing....even if it's just to shut me up.
Also we fight because if he says he's going to do something or I ask him to do something....getting up to do it 10 minutes later is just not fast enough for me. I am a very impatient person......SO I do it myself and then he's like WTF??!!!
We tend to get b*tchy if the other is cranky and then it leads to attitudes.
22No screaming matches just disagreements when it comes to his extreme over protectiveness of our daughter and his inability to ease up on it a little.Otherwise there's really not alot of arguing going on between us.
23We argue about the amount of time we spend together and when we should go to bed.
24about how much time he spends on the damn x box... and that he screams at it....
25About how I am ready to get engaged and he is not and that I am really tired of going to other people's weddings that have been together a third of the amount of time that we have.
26kristinh--totally agree with you-- love my fiance to peices but when i am "cleaning" that means now. so if i have a whole house thats clean except for the part you were going to do... i am going to get mad!
glad im not the only woman who goes thru that with her man! lol
27His mother constantly calling him.. And wanting him to call her every night. And his having a curfew when he stays at their house overnight (we live in NYC and they live 150 miles away..and we're 24!!!!!!!!)
28I don't think I'm in the wrong to want to build our own lives together, while he doesn't want to hurt her feelings by not calling every night. I think it's weird. She does this with all 3 of her grown children..
He forgot to tell me that while we were on a family vacation we were attending a funeral! Luckily I had appropriate clothing and a future sister-in-law who wears the same size shoes! It's usually stuff like that or my mom
29We usually fight about money, and how he leaves wet towels on the bathroom floor!!! Ugh that annoys me so much! I always step on them and my socks will be soaked. Wet socks are so icky! No matter how much I ask him not to, he does it all the time! Men.
30I seem to need much more freedom than he does, so we usually argue about issues that result from that.
31We have so much in common and enjoy each other so much, but our personalities clash when it comes to important stuff...
I am uber-emotional and need support from someone, while he handles things internally.
We also argue about our dogs - they are his world and I don't see what the big obsession is. I love my pets, but I don't constantly think about how I can make them "happier."
The other problem is our lives have been consistently inconsistent. There has always been a point where someone is going to school, someone is changing careers, someone is moving - and I know that everyone has constant challenges and changes, but we've yet to establish some common ground of normalcy with anything...
321. How we can't spend much time together. So, we're still in college, and we're not even at the point of internships or research projects. Yet, he manages to have more homework than anyone I have ever known, and when he's not doing homework, he has work. The thing is, he has the same classes as his friends, but they miraculously have 50% more time than him. He also only works 16 hours a week on his computer, so he gets to set his own time and work at home. How does he NOT have any time for us? I barely see him 2.5 times a week! (.5 is the one-hour dinner we have before we part ways).
2. His deafness/lack of consideration. I call his name out at least five times (my voice getting progressively louder), and even when we're only three-feet apart, he can't hear me. I know he doesn't do it intentionally, but...c'mon! I don't call him just to say I love you, sometimes, I'm balancing things and need his help. Other times, he has gotten me mauled by people because he'll hold my hand and lead me straight into a crowd of twenty people. I try to steer myself away, but he just grips my hand harder, thinking I'm trying to break away. HAHA, oi! I can't tell you how many times I've been hit, bruised, stepped on, tripped on and tripped because of his inability to notice his surroundings or hear my cry for help. He also steps on me a lot because he looks in the opposite direction of where he's walking.
3. He is indecisive and seems to make tragic situations worse because he's so bad at handling things. We got in an accident, and when I kept asking for my cell, he kept asking if we should call his dad...When we were in MY car, insured by ME.
33We have disagreements but nothing that ever escalates into angry arguments/fights. We made sure when we first started dating that we discussed all the important life decisions and values to include the way we communicate and compromise with one another.
We, of course, have our little annoyances and are quick to resolve them out of consideration toward one another. We also have the occasional issue with conflicting schedules which result in one of us being whiny and mopey. However, there are other priorities to fulfill other than just accommodating the one who is more needy for attention and affection at the time. Once those priorities are finish, then we can get to some lovin'. It's a good thing we're both understanding.
34We don't really argue- sometimes we have heated discussions about politics (i'm a little more liberal than he is in some areas) but we respect each other all the same. Also, he travels a lot for work, so sometimes i whine about that, but it's not really arguing...
i gotta say, it's really easy living with him. he's the most unselfish, caring man in the world. he makes it easy for me to love him.
35man, i can never get those smiley icons right!
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