there's nothing like being watched to turn your life upside down.

The Peeping Tom is UnDave?????
Yes these stories make me nervous - I hate trying clothes in stores now because of thinking about hidden cameras while looking at my awful thighs in those miserable mirrors.
I've heard more creepy stories here in California than I ever did in DC - landlords putting cameras in tenant bathrooms etc. Maybe these people don't move to more aggressive crimes but they can really shatter a victim's sense of personal safety so they should be dealt with seriously and not just given slaps on the wrist.

Yeah, it's really hard in this day and age to get video images of women in scantily clad clothing, never mind nude.

I don't think that was the best emoticon for that statement. Frankly, it's just confusing.

It's was a guy like that on public transportation just taking pictures of women's butts or their legs. A lady punched him and took the camera. Violence on public transportation.

oh my whistling/hiding neighbor has totally sent me into panic attack city. i have had two already today. it's totally a disgusting feeling. it's not just him that's making me have attacks, but he doesn't help.

Stephley - you weren't supposed to tell anyone!! How can I continue when everyone knows it's me?

This makes me nervous, because I can never remember to close the blinds before changing.

They all but put up your picture Dave!

The description is similar, but I don't live in Venice. If I did, I wouldn't be on here, I'd be admiring the beautiful archetecture from the middle ages...

I guess we'd have to call you the Wrong Way Peeping Tom. Venice, CA is more of a middle aged fantasy.

I always forget to close my shades Jude! It is such a bad habit.

It drives my fiance crazy, especially as I also pull the "forgot to bring a change of clothes into the bath, and have to run out to get them afterwards, in front of open blinds" thing at least every other day.

I live in a gay neighborhood, so I guess I sort of figure, "No one cares."

I had a class mate that filmed women's butts for a project. I freaked out on him and told him how disgusted I was with what he had done and what a violation on those women had occurred. Unfortunately people saw me as being uptight instead of him making a poor choice in films.

We became friends, and he always said he feared me after that day.

IF your cute, can I come watch you run? (Said only for Stephle's benefit)

I do the same bath routine. Or I turn the blinds the wrong way, and do not realize it until I pull up to my house at night, and then come to see everyone can look into my bedroom and watch me undress.

And women wonder why they get looked at all the time. We're trying to figure out what house you were at when we saw you naked

I briefly scanned the title of this article and only saw the top part of the picture...had to do a double-take and read closer. I thought the picture was Tom Brady!

UD, I said, I have awful thighs - I don't run but you'd want to.
I'm careful about pulling the blinds, but that may have something to do with having a very pretty daughter (I've already noticed men watching her on the street and she's only 12).

Do you think anyone who's dated Giselle could even see the rest of us?

I think I'm gonna have to lock up my daughter when she gets a little older, and not let her go on a date until she's 30, and married.

Dave, the temptation to do that is great - one guy followed her on to a bus but got off as soon as I made my presence known. My girl is 5'6" already; I'm not quite 5'2" - mother henning someone so attractive is totally new to me and scary.

Hey you guys should play Hall & Oats while you read the article much more enjoyable.

awww Stephley, i know how it feels to be that 12 year old girl who gets harassed. Teach her that she doesn't have to take it! Give her some self-defense courses or something.

My mother never did that for me even when i complained about it and i wish she had taught me another way to deal with it instead of "it happened to me when i was your age, just ignore those idiots and get on with it..."

I still have crazy hangups about leering guys to this day...i think i'm a bit more sensitive about it than other girls.

There is currently on the Appalachian Trail near Boiling Springs, PA, a homeless man who goes by the name of "Shorty." His actions have been reported to the police. One morning, a backpacker in a shelter was about to wake up, but saw "Shorty" messaging his, uhm, you know, and staring intently at her. She pretended to be asleep until he finished and put his apparatus away. Then she got up, packed up and booked it to Boiling Springs to report him. Rangers at this very moment are out looking for him.

And I'm going to be backpacking in that area soon. I have a nice sharp knife and I'll be more than willing to 'help' in any way I can.

Lorena Bobbitt where are you?

I personally have been stalked but not been the object of a peeping Tom. Or in my case a "peeping Mac."

SENTENCE? 1000 hours of community service and 100 hours of counseling and living at a half-way house for six months to six years.

What's going to happen with all the free video? Probably some limitations on the definition of "free speech." Lewd and lascivious conduct knowingly placed on the internet is going to cause havoc with ISPs who are going to have to shut perps down or give info to the State or Feds.

Peeping Toms are just like burglars who break into your house/privacy. They are stealing innocence and trust. And in my opinion, deserve no mercy.

It's hard to teach a girl to be self-protective but not scared - stories like this Peeping Tom don't help. It's hard to tell her that the body she finds sooo embarrassing is seen very differently by males.

i have to agree with you on that last paragraphy Auntie. The neighbor of mine who feels the need to whistle and stare at me has completely stolen my peace of mind, and makes me think twice about walking outside at night, at least not very far from my door. He totally changed my dog walking habits, and I no longer make quick runs out to my car unless i seriously have to. I mean, I feel creepy walking outside in the daylight for goodness sake. and I'm really pissed off about it, actually! it's infuriating how one stupid loser can change your habits and make everything uncomfortable.

stephley I know what you mean. when my mother fussed over me about those things, I was mortified. I refused to even accept that somone would look at me like that. i got mad at her and pouted. We had big blowouts about it!

I have no idea why girls get embarassed about their bodies, but then again, I'm not a girl, so I'll bever understand.

Dave, I remember getting boobs in the 4th grade. i was like, why can't my life just be normal? you're at an age when physical appearance is pretty much the last thing you care about. It's more of a burden than anything. by the time you are old enough to appreciate the attention, you learn that guys are going to use you for it. some of them, at least. And then there are others who want to hurt you. it's a strange thing to reconcile in your mind.

Kris, I had the exact opposite experience than you--I remember, uh, not getting boobs until I, uh, bought them--and when I was younger I craved the attention, but when I got it, it's actually just tiresome

Sometimes it's scary and uncomfortable to be a woman!

i used to work summers for my dad in the stockroom. I was probably a freshman or 8th grader. there was a delivery man, in his 40's probably, who came every day. He was very nice to me, and I thought he was fun and told great jokes. then one day he kissed me on the back of the neck. the fun was over. the innocence was over. I still remember the song playing on the radio back there. I had to go tell my dad, which was terrifying. dad threatened him within an inch of his life, and his job, if he ever touched me again. i hid from him every time he came in the store after that.

I guess there's really nothing you can do about him is there? Whistling and staring aren't crimes.

Jude, until you bought them! that cracks me up. good for you! now you can feel confident in that area.

nope, whistling and staring aren't crimes. I wouldn't think much about the whisling, if he didn't try to hide after he whistled. but it sure isn't comfortable.

Exactly, Kris

Kris I'm worrying about you. My roommate has chronic panic disorder. Do you know about the breathing exercises and stuff?

I had a guy stalk me off of myspace once. He looked up my name in the phone book called me and proceeded to act as though we were acquaintances going off information he was getting from my web page.

I knew something was fishy because he said yeah you have a dog named Roxie right. Roxie was my old room mate’s dog in my old house who I just happen to have a photo of on my web page. Long story short I said sure come on by.

We have a secured building with an intercom system but I tell him when you get here give me a ring and I'll come down and let you in.
I sit by my window with ph. in hand waiting for this nut to show. I see a guy walk up about 6'4" dressed in black, black sun glasses, & black cap. He dials on his cell ph. and my ph. rings. I said to my room mate oh uh uh honey; I don't know this fool from Adam. I pick up the phone and say dude I just saw you from my window and I have never met you in my life. He says oh o.k. Never heard from him again. I think I scared him because I told him I saw him, so now I know what he looks like.

Trouble is Dave, men don't say politely say 'you look nice today' they press up against you in line at the store, lean over as if they're taking something from the shelf and whisper lewd things - when you're just becoming a teenager, that's very hard to deal with -it's not pleasant when you're older but with luck by then you have more confidence. I was short and busty at 15 and always wore one of my dad's fatigue shirts to keep my chest covered. If your friends aren't as developed and not experiencing the same things, if you complain to them sometimes they act as if you're lording it over them: nuns were always willing to suggest that we were trying to entice men with our filthy teenaged ways.
And I did have one neighbor who, despite everyone telling her there was a peeping tom in the area, exercised in her underwear in front of the window with the blinds up every night.

you are sweet HF! I don't really know about them yet, because it's just kindof gotten worse really fast in the last month. but i really wish I had known today at lunch. I felt totally numb, and I couldn't even type I was shaking so bad! I tried to call my mom and talk to her, but she wasn't there. so my dad set in to preaching at me about investments, adn stuff I need to do to my house and car OR ELSE!! and I just panicked. it was a hallmark family moment, I tell you!

Ha! Jude I did not get any boobs until I hit 21. I did not buy them, but they came in and now everyone thinks I have had a boob job! You go girl, because I know how much it SUCKS to not have breasts. It makes you feel much less feminine. I hated it.

Totally, cine. It's not even like I ever get super-cleavagey or anything. I just like knowing that they're there!

I freak out when I lose weight, because I don't want them to get too small. I have this weird thing about them, since I have not had them for too long And I was always made fun of for being flat chested. I was a very late bloomer, but I figure that is okay, just means that I get better with age.

I lost 25 pounds recently and those were the first to go!

Oh, and I show off my cleavage, not in a slutty way. I just can't help it. I am so proud of the girls!

My butt is always the first too go. Luckily I have some boob to spare, but I hate feeling like they get too small.

Butt stayed, boobs gone.

My butt's slowly growing, which makes me happy. The older I get, the more I like the idea of having some curves.

Well if we mix and match we could create the perfect woman