Leaving a toothbrush and other necessities at your new boyfriend's place is one of the first milestones in a relationship. For many people this step comes and goes unnoticed, but for others, crossing the threshold from overnight guest to part-time housemate is something that has to be acknowledged by both parties.
Though it would be nice if there were some standard etiquette for this, I think — just like when it comes to whose place you'll stay at more — it really depends on the individuals and the circumstances. But ladies, what are your thoughts? Should he offer you a toothbrush when he’s ready for you to keep one at his place or should you just bring one over when you're ready?
Diesel
7 For All Mankind
Opening Ceremony
It's never been a big deal to me or any of the guys I dated seriously in the past. I had a few drawers in my ex's bedroom to keep clothes and stuff and I stored some toiletries in his medicine cabinet before we moved in together. When I did finally move in with him (after about 2.5/3 years of dating), it didn't feel like that much of a change since I slept there almost every night anyway.
With my husband, he moved in with me fairly quickly into our relationship, but we were both ready for it and knew we were going to get married. It was something we both wanted.
I just think that if one of the people in the relationship is wary of it or not ready to take that leap, then it's probably best to wait until you're both on the same page.
1Hmm...toothbrush didn't seem to be a big deal for us. He just bought one for me when I started staying over...I don't think either of us saw that as some kind of milestone in our relationship...I think I will feel differently if I start keeping my cloth in his closet.
2I don't remember how it happened ... but I think because he started staying with me one weekend out of the month, I bought him a toothbrush to keep at my place. And then when he moved back to the city, he bought me a toothbrush because it was assumed. Before that I always brought my own toothbrush everywhere regardless.
3tomato, same here.
4My boyfriend lives in the dorms, so I can't ever stay over. He has two roommates, and they're never both out at the same time. However, I've always had my own place, so a few months after we started dating, he asked me to buy him a toothbrush. It was never a big deal, and he doesn't leave clothes here because he always wears what he comes with or brings a change of clothes...I'm too much of a clean freak to leave clothes at my boyfriend's house when I can take it back home and put it in my hamper.
5I don't think a toothbrush is really that big of a deal... but that might just be me, because I live with my parents in the summer and he has his own toothbrush for when he stays over. It's just easier that way.
6Now clothes, on the other hand, would be a big thing...
It shouldn't be any problem if you're there a lot and need to keep items at his house. You just go with what seems natural and let things happen when they happen.
7haha this so reminded me of Sex and the City in the episode with Carrie trying to leave stuff at Big's place
8This reminds me of a story I once read: http://www.fray.com/drugs/toothbrush/ .
I'm not sure when the toothbrush showed up at my boyfriend's, but he offered to let me pick it out and he would buy it. He even offered one of those fancy-schmancy vibraty toothbrushes.
9My boyfriend just bought me one when we started staying over with each other. Before that, I just brought my own.
10I left my toothbrush at my boyfriend's house after having spent the night a few times - with a cheque stuck to it for $5, memo'd "toothbrush rent".
11He got a good laugh out of it and it made it less of a big deal!
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