I don't see it so much as a turn on as just good manners.

It's a total turn on to me, and to aimeeb's point - it's a turn on because they have good manners

chivalry makes me melt...i love it

my boyfriend always opens doors for me or carries heavy things like my bags and I love it! who wouldn't want that!?

I favor chivalry coupled with sincerity.

If a man tries to leverage these conventions to fabricate a smooth, suave persona intent on playin' the ladies -- it's unseemly.

When men are genuinely in agreement with the principle of respect and consideration toward women, it is desirable.

I'm totally old-fashioned! I love a guy to be considerate and sweet, but at the same time, I don't expect chivalry and act like a spoiled brat. I do what I can for my boyfriend, too!

I love it...such a turn-on.

I love it. My boyfriend won't even have me get up to get a drink myself or put a dish away. He does it all.

Definitely a turn on.

Hot, hot, hot!

I absolutely LOOOOVE IT! I still want to know WHO the MAN is * Blushing* because I like to feel Feminine~

My boyfriend is chivalrific. He was in the beginning and he still is years later. It's great!

Excuse me LadyChaos? How does thinking that I'm a strong, independent woman who is capable of doing things herself mean that I want to be beat?!?! No one has ever slapped me & I would be out of there so fast if anyone even tried that to hit me.

I said TURN OFF, but that does NOT mean that the guy can be rude. Just like I would help my friends carry things or hold a door open for them if I get to the door first, I expect the same common courtesy from my guy. But opening the car door or pulling a chair out for me? oh hell no! That kind of crap pisses me off. I'm not stupid, I can do things for myself.

I just don't like double standards and that's what it is to say one day "oh, please, open this big heavy door because I'm a weak little girl" and the next day to say "pay me as much as you do a man for the same work" What do you want? Do you want to be treated equally or do you want to be taken care of? Personally, I'd rather take care of myself. Again, this does NOT mean that I date inconsiderate boys. My boyfriend always helps me out when I need his assistance and treats me well, but he doesn't do ridiculous things like help me out of the car or stand up when I get up to leave the table.

I think good manners and being considerate are always turn-ons for me.

Chivalry, or good manners, works both ways. I don't think it's a sign of my weakness if a man holds the door for me; and if he's carrying something and my hands are free, I have no problem holding the door for a man. And he can run to open every door ahead of me for the rest of my life, and I'm still going to insist on equal pay. You can't put a price on good behavior.

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Stephley, you hit it on the nail. And javsmav, like Stepley said, you don't have to be a weak person to appreciate someone being raisesd right. Trust me, my boyfriend is very much so chivalrous, and I am to him right back. It doesn't make me too weak to open a door...obviously, I open doors when he's not around.

i totally agree that it's a turn on and good manners~!!! men need to take note!

According to the Oxford American dictionary "chivalry" means "courteous behaviour, esp. that of a man to a woman." How could that be a turn off to anyone? Being polite, respectful, or considerate definitely doesn't offend me as a woman (or as a feminist). If anything, I wish people of any gender would behave that way more often. Good manners is never a turn off.

I actually expected the results of this poll to be a little more even, as opposed to the landslide that it is... but I suppose I don't see chivalry as just basic good manners; I see it as men who go out of their way, even slightly, to treat women nicely.

so hot

I agree with javsmav.

I believe we are equal, women and men. I act nice to all people so that we get along. Why would men have to be extra nice so that we would get along? Huh. I'm imdependent and I can take care of myself. Carrying my bags when there is no need (sometimes you do need help) is just silly.

Good manners are different, because I think both sexes can have the same manners.

Sorry, but we as women are not equal to men in every way. While I too don't want someone treating me like a delicate flower constantly, I think its a huge turn on when a man looks out for my physical safety. Maybe that's a little off-topic, but women are generally smaller and more vunerable to danger than men, and when I think of chivarly I think of the male friends of mine who always make sure I get home ok late at night by walking me to my door or taking a taxi with me or whatever, even when I insist I'm fine. Maybe its condesending, but its also realistic; I'd rather admit my own weakness than end up a statistic.

Turn on! Good manners are essential

Love it.

If it's genuine it's great.

Chivalry is the way to go! I hate seeing me and teenage boys not giving up seats to women. I think that is the worst. Not only were the men not raised right but young boys not being raised to have good manners? It's not an insult to women; it's polite. I hope my own son will be respected as a gentleman. I hope he offers his seat to any woman, young or old. If that woman chooses to decline...fine. It's the man that makes the gentleman, not the woman who accepts his chivalrous intentions. My son is eight and loves to get the door for me and even comes around from the back seat to open my driver door even when I tell him it's not neccessary. He carries bags and uses his manners. I haven't drilled all these in him. It's his nature. To me that speaks volumes about the man that lives in my baby's 65 lb body.

I think duck duck goose made an excellent point.

I think that outdated chivarly can be contrived as well, like forcing the woman to walk on the inside or outside of the sidewalk (whatever that rule is) or laying down a jacket on a puddle when a woman can walk around.

I'm all for good manners, but anything over the top like that just isn't practical or relevant anymore. I would never want any man to ruin a jacket when I can long jump at least 8 feet still.

Yes yes yes oh gosh yes. Always a turn on. The first day I met my boyfriend, we were walking back from the same grocery store and he insisted on carrying my bags for me. Simple, yeah, but I loved it!

Totally a turn on! And chivalry is one of the criterias that I am looking for in a man.

Turn on! However, chivalry is not a one way street. I take care of my hubby just as much as he takes care of me.

All for it. Love it when my man pays attention to my safety & comfort. My gf and I were talking about how nice it is to date a chivalrous man; you can feel totally comfortable wearing "girly" stuff - incl. shoes that are harder to walk in - because your man's there to help out. Niiiice.

I said "other." I was going to say turn on, but I know folks where he's too chivalrous, and he just seems like a pushover doormat. Further, he needn't pretend like we live in 1943. Good manners are hot though.

Chivalry is wonderful! Why would you dislike it??

depends on if the guy is trustworthy.

I consider "chivalry" to be assistance that men give to women in situations where the assistance isn't necessary: carrying a woman's bags when she could carry them herself, opening the door for her, pulling out her chair, "walking" her short distances, etc. These used to be common manners, but in my experience, the only time guys have ever been "chivalrous" to me is when they are trying to "court" me (i.e. get in my pants). Plus, they always have this arrogant attitude of "look how great I am, I am opening the door for you" ::eyeroll:: This makes me uncomfortable and literally turns me off.

I do, however, appreciate it when people give me help that I genuinely need, or when people have good manners that are considered important in our society (like calling if they are going to be late, or saying thank you). If I lived in a place and time where chivalry were part of the daily experience, I think I would appreciate that too.

I agree that there's a double standard. If women want to be equal in every aspect then we should either take on chivalrous roles or not expect them from men. I happen to enjoy my boyfriend's chivalrous moments, so I make sure to return the gesture in a different way that he can appreciate.

I agree with the double standard. Like I said, I'm old-fashioned. That goes for decision-making, career, etc. At some point, if my husband wanted me to raise children and stay at home, I might have no problem. This said, I've changed my mind a lot since dating my boyfriend (He doesn't open car doors or pull out chairs, he even sits before me when the waiter pulls out the chair). I'm more independent, and I don't get babied. Therefore, I expect more respect.

Once upon a time, when I wanted to date a Prince, I expected to be a housewife with an apron, kids in ironed clothes, to cook everyday and to be "subordinate." In return, my husband would be pulling out my chair, making my decisions like ordering my food, opening my car door, etc.

I mean, I DON'T agree with the double standard!

I don't understand how good manners and a man treating you like a woman is a turn off. I like being treated like a chick. I also open doors for guys and plenty of them have been surprised and said thank you. If I had a boyfriend I would open doors for him too.

Sure I believe that women should strive to be independent because the world is hard and you know you can always rely on yourself but at the same time, I also like it when a guy is courteous.

One time at work I got a flat tire and this guy from work helped change it for me. I thought that was really nice. Its kind of sad that feminism has killed off chivalry for the most part.