I said undecided, because in real life if I was your friend, I would probably think it was funny (especially if he had been mean to you in the past)...but if I were his friend, I'd be SO mad at a girl who did that to my friend. I'm not saying what you're doing is right, it's actually pretty mean. You can feel power from doing other things, just cut the cord already and move on.

Do not toy with emotions like that. When an ex comes back and really wants to try work things out, they are probably putting forth some emotional investment. Toying with his feelings like this will only lead to you causing him more pain and may have unforeseen circumstances. If you are not going to work with him to get your relationship back on track then please do not mislead him. The worst thing that a woman can do to a man is play with his emotions giving him false hope that they can get back together and then one day just act as if it was never going to happen

Sorry but I'm undecided too. I actually did this to an ex a few years ago after he cheated on me with my friend. When things w/ her didn't work out he realized what he had with me and tried to come back. Honestly, I LOVED playing w/ his emotions and then after everything was said and done I left a voicemail on his cell phone telling him everything. It felt sooo good. He was such a jerk so I can relate to what the girl is saying.

it totally depends on why you broke up and what kind of guy he is
a guy who cheated totally deserves to know what it feels like to have a broken heart
otherwise, after an amicable breakup with a good guy, this wouldn't be forgivable
not enough details are given for me to decide!

There are just two situations in which toying with his emotions are 'ok' in my opinion:
- He seriously hurt you in the past (cheating, or maybe he was the one who suddenly broke up) like commenters above said
- You've decided you want him after all (for a second chance), but you're lengthening the 'chase'

If you honestly have NO intentions of not getting back with him...NOT FORGIVE. Sounds like a self-esteem problem if you are being mean to someone else to feel better about yourself.

It is so wrong to mess with people's heads.. call it toying if you want to - I call it bullying, and I abhor bullies.

You are so wrong! But at the same time...work it girl, men do this to women ALL THE TIME, hehe.

well if he did u wrong, then GO FOR IT
if it was amicable, dont do that

Are you so pathetic that you need this little power trip to make yourself feel good?

That's so sad. Get a life for God's sake.

just remember that's karma will come back to bite you.

Worst case scenario....he turns psycho when he finds out and wants "retribution"...the "physical" kind...the YOU "laying on a ditch" kind...

dramatic...yes...possible...yeah, it's happened.

OH...and KARMA is a b*tch!

Unforgive. I think you need to grow up. I'm glad you find STOOPING to his level exhilarating because to the rest of the world it's immature.

When a guy does the same to you in the near future, I look forward to reading that story!

If he never cheated on you, you are possibly turning him into a guy who hates commitment...ruining him for other women.

Stop being immature.

oh by the way, try to keep yourself physically safe. considering he is your ex. he probably knows your address.

This doesn't sound healthy at all...and I'm mostly talking about you. Move on, and stop playing games. What's the point indulging in such negative behavior. Plus, it could be dangerous for you...physically. It's time to grow up.

I have been cheated on by an ex, and he came crawling back, after he realized how stupid he was to let me go....

I had absolutely no intention of getting back with him ever, and I will admit that for a second I thought about how good it would feel to hurt him the same way he hurt me...but then I realized...I am a grown ass woman, and why would I lower myself to that level? What good does it do? If that brings joy to your life....well then I would suggest that you get a life.

Last time I heard that line from a friend about her ex, it was actually a cover for her because she did want to get back with him, even after all the crappy stuff he did to her. She made it sound just like you are, that she was just f'ing with him for revenge, but then it quickly turned into jumping back into bed with him.
If you're done with him, then be done and move on completely. Don't waste your time screwing with his head. Not healthy for either of you.

i'm also undecided. it depends on if he did anything in the past to deserve it. And I'd be careful to not take it TOO far.

i hate it when people do that. total crap. it's games like these that really screw people up.

Enjoy it while it lasts.

Um, lame much?

who broke up with whom?

Undecided...
We need to know a WHOLE lot more of the story than that to be able to effectively vote on this question...

Yes, who broke up with whom, and what were the circumstances. That is the question.
I took a slice of revenge once. It felt pretty good. He broke up with me in a horrible shocking way. Left me for the bosses daughter. Then wanted me back. Ok. Well, hmm lets see. I started with expensive dinners and dates. He paid for everything. I would ignore some of his phone calls when I knew he needed to talk. I told him there was another man at the time so I wasn't sure if I could commit, but I'd be happy to give it a try. Meanwhile bosses daughter is living with him.......
This old boyfriend in question was rich and cold and competitive and the new boyfriend had millions.
This only heightened his sick sense of winning and I used this to my advantage. Later after a while I made it more and more clear I was losing interest and slammed a door in his face. Never saw him again. Oh well.

you are a self centered fool, i know its ages ago now but how would you like it if it was the other way around,
my ex has been toying with my head for like 3 months now and im just sick of it and im going to just give up,
if you still love someone, DONT TOY, DO

My ex toyed with my emotions for 2 months i had hope for two months she played with them on purpose as she admitted what was sick was HOW LONG WAS IT GOING TO LAST because i was being cheated on .. she delibretly caused arguments with me and made out it was all my fault my hearty broke each day every day i was crying each day because i thought i f*cked this up and i tried my very hardiest as i possible humanily can to try and fix things .. but i found out 2 months later the whole time i was TREATED LIKE sh*t i was actrully being cheated on.. this is not somthing to be forgiven HELL f*ckING NO . it left me with depression and i already suffer from phsycological harm or somthing ? my emotions were ripped in half 4 months later she still picks me up and throws me around like a toy there is no humanity in this girl and 4 months later after everything is clear. she still says its all my fault ? yet im the fkin victim !!! she cheated on me and toyed with my emotions giving me hope, and then throwing it back in my face each day !then saying its my fault ? im a decent guy when you look at it ? I HAVENT DONE ANYTHING WRONG and not once did she take responsibilty of any of her bad actions.. not once :| so now ive explained my story i can honestly say ive LIVED THROUGH the torture !!! its unforgivin !!!!!!!!! it actrully messes up your mind don't do it its the worst thing ive ever experianced in my life im afriad to ever meet a new girl!.