It's a common notion that couples should first raise a pet (a dog, a cat, or any animal that needs constant love and attention) before having kids. While I see the importance in making sure you're ready to take on the responsibility of caring for someone who relies on you, I've never looked at this popular step as a requirement before starting a family. Sure, it seems like a natural progression, but where do you stand on owning, loving, and caring for an animal before having babies? Is it a necessity for you or do you not understand the hoopla surrounding this common practice?










Maine New England
DKNY
Early 20
Speaking only for myself, I don't think it's necessary. I knew I didn't want children, and owning pets (which I happen to do) had nothing to do with my decision.
1I don't think it's necessary, I just think it might happen to most people naturally.
2We plan on getting a dog (once we get out of this apartment!) and it'll be before we have kids simply b/c we need to wait about 4-5 years before the kids.
I don't think I've ever even heard that couples should share a pet first.
It seems like a natural progression to get a pet before a child if you want a pet. But animals deserve better than just being "kid practice". Don't bring an animal into your house
unless you really want a pet!
3I don't think it is necessary. We totally want a pup and will get one when the time is right. We also want children and will attempt to conceive when the time is right. They are totally different beings to look after.
4I also don't think it's necessary. It might ease you into the being more responsible route, but if you both want, a child will entail so much more beyond what is required in raising a pet together. I think they are independent of each other and definitely not indicative of whether you can or cannot raise children together.
5My cats love my boyfriend so they're kind of both our pets but really more mine.
6im totally with you kia and oliveoyle! my boyfriend and i own a dog and two cats, but we never planned on it and it just happened because it was supposed to and the time felt right....and that will be how we will do kids too...it will be the right time.
7I dont think its necessary. In fact we are putting off having an animal (dog) until we have had children and they are old enough to treat it right. (meaning I have seen a lot of small children being cruel to animals, unintentionally - pushing, stepping on etc.)
8I don't think it's necessary. I have had friends that bought pets while dating in the first year of the relationship, and then it doesn't last and then they fight about who will get it. I think you need to be dating someone for a long time and be pretty committed before buying an animal like a dog or cat because it is a lot like a child.
9my husband and I just got a puppy... def a child preparation tool....
10Caring for a pet is dramatically different than raising a child. (No more or less important, but definitely different.)
It's a different sort of love and requires a different kind of commitment.
Apples and oranges.
11That actually sounds slightly ridiculous to me. Whatever would someone with allergies to everything on four legs (such as yours truly) do? And I think (though, disclaimer, I'm speaking as someone who has never owned a pet, nor do I have a child) that having a pet would be a bit different than raising a kid, too. Like, you can keep your dog in a little penned area and go off to work, leaving it home all day... not such a good idea for a four-year-old.
12I don't think it's necessary either, but most couples I know DO get a pet together when they move in together.
13i dont think that its necessary per say but i do think that it helps a little. i mean obviously dogs and kids are alot different but havin another living, breathing creature who relies on you is good preparation...but as my fiance says 'the dog didnt come out of you and its not made of our genes!' haha
14I think it's in your best interest to do this. If you can't handle a pet how are you going to handle a kid. I think that it really teaches you and you can see if you even want the responsibility of having a kid, now or ever.
15Ditto to what Jennifer76 said. People should take an animal because they want one. It's not a toy.
16I don't think its necessary either, but i've always had labs growing up, so naturally I would want for my bf and I to buy a lab puppy someday, before, or after, having kids.
One thing though, when you have a pet who's the "baby" for several years, and then you have kids, the pet can get quite jealous. I've seen this happen with cats and dogs of friends of mine.
17of course its not necessary!
18but thats exactly what me and my boyfriend did and it worked out great. i just graduated from university and he surprised me with our puppy and we're taking care of it together. (its a husky so obviously you can't really compare it to a baby)
Not only do I think it's not necessary, I think there is absolutely no comparison between being a pet owner and being a parent.
19We have a cat. We decided to get a cat before we were married (we were living together). I can understand how the concept of caring for a pet could progress to caring for a child. Sure, it's not the same thing, but generally, conceptually, I can see it. I feel a little more equipped to even consider having kids after seeing how we both react to having a pet. I know that a cat is not a human but, it is more of a life-commitment than never having gone down the pet-road at all.
20One's completely different from the other. So looking at it as a "practice tool"? That's no good. Especially if the poor creature is going to be dumped or neglected as soon as the couple spawns their own DNA replicant.
Yeah, only get a pet if you really, truly want to take care of the animal for the rest of its life. Animals are living, breathing beings with feelings. Not just tools or toys.
I think people should be prepared before deciding to become parents, but there are other ways. Parenting classes and/or one of those "baby-think-it-over" dolls, maybe? Constant babysitting for family and friends who'd likely be glad for the relief?
21My boyfriend and I don't want kids, and he's told me he definitely wants some African parrot, and I definitely want a small puppy or a kitty, so having pets is definitely not a prep tool. However, having a puppy might make me give into my maternal clock someday.
22my ex and i got two kittens together
and then i ended up loving them more than i loved him
ouch! hahahahhaahaha
23We got a puppy because we wanted a puppy. I don't think it's a "necessary practice" at all. Though I can see the benefit- it does teach you to be a little less selfish, while it is still completely different than having a baby.
24I can see why it would be thought of as 'testing the waters' so to speak when you and your signifigant other own a pet together. Something like that can really bring to light your differences on discipline (bad dog no biscuit) and steadfastness with rules (no rover not on the carpet!). As for it being practice? Absolutely not. If it's anything I would say it's more of a cooperation and compromize project... well only if you BOTH wanted the pet (and those that get pets that just want one for the sake of having one should be dragged into the street!)
25I think it makes sense.
But mostly I just think it is something that should happen naturally, say both of them really want a pet and so they get it...
And then they realize how much work it takes, then they both make the connection, like, WOW this would be SO much worse if this was an actual human baby!
And then they both realize what the hell, they want to have a baby anyways so they go through with it.
I also think that it could maybe DELAY the whole having a kid thing, i.e. uh, now that we know how lazy and selfish we are as a whole, we should put off having this baby until we are REALLY an old, mature, boring married couple.
Also, I dont recommend getting a pet with anyone unless you are SUPER serious, to the point of being engaged, because in the event of a break up, the whole having shared custody of the pet thing is really super annoying.
26It may be a good stepping stone for those couples who both want a pet, but def not required for child rearing.
27It might help if you're an only child with no cousins who's never had to take care of another living creature before, but definitely not necessary.
That said, we have 2 dogs and aren't planning on kids -- the pups are enough work for us.
28Not a necessity, but I think our raising a dog together has taught me a lot about how I would be as a mother, him as a father. Our daughter (the dog) goes to her grandmother's house everyday, and he and I call each other every afternoon to see who is available to pick her up from grandma's. It is so cute to see how he acts with her.
29I think it makes sense but not necessarily the case. I think animal lovers just do it naturally. For me, I have always had dogs, the hubby has always had cats. So, now we have two of each and eventually will have kids.
30I don't think it's necessary for child prep, but I definitely think it's a good way too learn more about each other... responsibility, etc.
31I would not call it necessary. My ex-bf and I got a puppy together, although i was already 4 months pregnant. It was supposed to be his dog once he moved to an apartment where he could have her, but I fell in love and kept her.
32My boyfriend and I own a cat but we don't see it as practice for the real thing. We wanted a cat because we like cats and wanted one to play with and keep us company. It is a similar concept. For example, changing the litter could be likened to changing a diaper. Grooming the cat could be likened to giving the baby a bath. Obviously, babies require much more care and in a different manner. Pets aren't babies but they are a commitment, require a certain amount of care and attention, and definitely need love, some very important things to consider when having children, so the principles could be the same or similar. Some might need that extra practice, others not. Regardless, I know that when my boyfriend and I do have kids, he or she will have an awesome pet to play with when older!
33I already had 3 dogs before I met my bf and he has in a sense "adopted" them. We have a fourth dog, "together", if you will. With four dogs' and a horse's mouths to feed, lord help me if I have a kid in the next decade!! Although to the point, I can see how having a pet together would let you see how your partner handles responsibility and discipline. Definitely a good thing to know before you bring a child into the world.
34Don't bring animals into a relationship that isn't marriage.
I had to re-home my gorgeous kitty when my ex-boyfriend broke up with me and I had to move out.
35I want to get a cat when I get married!
36just because I really want one, not
for child prep.
I took a Parenting class for that. lol
You know what happens with couples with pets? That dog or cat becomes thier baby. They treat it like a baby. Talk about it like a kid. It goes with them everywhere. Everyone around them could puke about it. Then they fianlly have a real baby. And you know what? That dog becomes just a dog. That cat becomes a pest. Pushed out in a yard and forgotten.
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