Take the advantage of him unable to come while you are on top. That way it can go for longer for yourself. I think this happens in a lot of relationships where - especially when sex is new (and i'm not sure if that is both of your cases) - that you just want to get to sex and maybe that's what he is thinking. You have to tell him without side stepping the issue that maybe tonight should be your night and sort of inflate his confidence by saying I absolutely love it when you are touching me __________. You have to state that you want more satisfaction and better earlier than never. And you can always say I really love having sex with you it is amazing but i was wondering if we could play like highschool and fool around for a while first or stuff like that. I hope this is understandable I think I was just jabbering along for the most part.

Communicate, girl! Make sure he meets your needs first.

He sounds sexually selfish, which is unfortunate because I think many men are this way (especially young ones). Tell him that you need a lot more foreplay and cannot orgasm in the missionary position. Be very specific about what you want differently. Men are really dense, they will not understand unless you are very specific. You could start it off as a sexy conversation about preferences. Perhaps you could tell that you really enjoyed such and such time and you love it when he ___. Starting it off with a compliment will make him feel not criticized. Do not be afraid to speak up, because otherwise you will never get your needs met. He is not a mind reader! If he still doesn't care or change his behaviour then he is not worth your time.

Give him about 15 minutes and then get him hard again. He should last longer the second time around. Dont let him get away with being a selfish lover. Talk to him, tell him he's not satisfying you. I'm sure he realizes he isnt letting you finish but since you're not complaining...

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

You've had sex twice and you feel like a pattern is developing? Hmmm. Communicate with him, but in a sexy way. Like, Oh, I am dying to try this with you.

If the guy doesn't give a sh*t about pleasing you in bed, then dump him. But at least give him the chance by telling him what you want.

It's only twice, don't get discouraged YET. You gotta communicate this, girl.

In the beginning, instead of pointing out where he goes 'wrong' in your book, suggest this and that to him. Example: You seem to know you can get off easier on top, then be on top of him, then you orgasm first, then SWITCH to the next position. And there are many other techniques you can suggest (in a very seductive, alluring way) before going to bed with him or the days before you guys decide to have another fun in bed

Like pop says, if he turns out really selfish (not even entertaining your ideas), then you know now that he's not compatible in bed with you and you probably want to reconsider the whole relationship (if sex is top priority for you ). I really believe in couples having great sex, by the way, so it's totally understandable if you decided to move on IF he's not trying to compromise with you in bed.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

Talk to him... maybe talk a little dirty to him and see how he reacts... suggest a new position or something!

Communication is key. Like another commenter said, have a sexy convo with him about preferences and then let him know what you like. If he still won't follow what you say, be more blunt.

if missionary is boring for you, then don't let it get to that point. keep rolling over him to be on top or go down on all fours on the floor. it's a two way street!

You definitely can't blame him here or even blame the relationship b/c you haven't taken any steps yourself to rectify the situation. If you want better sex, then open up your mouth and tell him what you want. If you are too timid to be speaking openly to your partner about sex, then it's a good indication that either you (two) aren't ready for having sex or that the relationship needs a lot of working on outside of the bedroom first. You're being intimate with this person so you should feel comfortable enough to let him know your wants and desires, plus it's usually a turn-on for guys anyways. He may not even know you want foreplay or that you aren't enjoying yourself. Remember guys don't think like us and unless you give them a kick like "hey I'm not getting off here!" they may not even realize there's a problem. So darling, speak up!

nothing like a whole lot of anticipation for a quick, disappointing nut!

lmao.

all you got was a dirty butt!

looks like you're gonna have to do some on-the-job training . . .

i, myself, like experience workers. if ya resume don't match your performance, then ya gotta go. lol

You have to talk to him about it. I don't really know a man who wouldn't be up for some new positions and fun stuff like that. If he's inexperienced he might not really know what he's doing and only does what he knows. Try experimenting. It's only boring if you let it be.

I don't think she ever said it was only twice...

It could be he doesn't realize he isn't pleasing you or does but doesn't know how to. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and tell him what you want, esp tell him in a sexy way like, "I've been fantasizing about you going down on me until I'm begging you to be inside me then drawing it out and teasing me..." or whatever works for you.

And don't let him get away with it being over when he finishes if you aren't done - even if intercourse is a no-go, he can finish you with his hand, his mouth, or hold and stroke you while you finish yourself.