Definatly it is normal. You put your heart out and he didn't return it. And even though you stated you wouldn't date him now, maybe a part of you gets jealous when he is talking about his new girlfriend. I think for you to not feel so resentful you need to keep your talks platonic (like about the weather, how the job is going) and keep any relationship talk out of there until you feel better about the situation. The only part that I do get confused at which doesn't really jibe with how you said you are over him is when you said that you get angry at him when he is not hanging out with you. To me that goes along with how somewhere you are still jealous and not 100% completely over him. I suggest a healthy break from the friendship so you can really define what is goign on with this relationship.

Dude... you're jealous.

You can try to convince us and yourself all you want that you have no romantic feelings for him anymore but obviously thats not true. You feel sick when he mentions his girlfriend and are often angry or irritated with him, probably for no reason? Sounds to me like you still have feelings for him and you're jealous that he still likes her and you're angry that he doesnt have those feelings for you.

You might conciously realize that he is a bad choice, he is never going to be with you and that you're torturing yourself but still, obviously, subconciously... you are totally 100% completely and entirely... jealous!

You need a clean break from this guy. I went through the same thing in highschool. Madly in love with my best friend, told him how I felt, he rejected me and ended up dating one of my really good friends (I introduced them because she was in one of my classes and a good friend of mine... BAD IDEA) and I still hung out with him but was totally hurt etc etc. so finally I smartened up and made a clean break. Not talking to him very much for a few months and definitely not seeing him at all. It helped me work through my feelings for him without him there to tantalize and tease me and now, years later, I cant even imagine kissing him... yuck... nevermind dating him.

Get away from him for a while. For your health. He'll understand.

"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

You can't be friends with this guy. It may make him feel better (a.k.a. not guilty), but it's a horrible thing to do to yourself. Let him know that you need a break from your friendship and you hope he understands. Then cut off all contact with him for 6 months. Once you've moved on, you may be able to rebuild a platonic friendship with him. But for now, the desire for something you can't have is eating you alive.

And I don't believe for a second that you'd say 'no' if he dumped his girlfriend and asked you out.

I agree you should take a break from him.

You're starting to resent him. This happened to me about 5 yrs ago w/ my guy best friend. We started liking each other then we started to date after 2 months things started to fall apart and out of nowehere he tells me that he doesn't like me anymore that he likes this other girl that we both knew. At first I was like ok that's cool I was hurt of course but I tried to play it off. Eventually, I started getting jealous, angry, and I started resenting him. Needless to say we are NOT friends anymore. We see each other but we haven't spoken a word to each other in over 5 years. I agree w/ all the ladies above. You need a break from him and maybe eventually you guys can be friends again but you need to first MOVE on from him. You deserve a guy that will LOVE you back and make you happy. And you have to accept the fact that he might not be "THE ONE". Good Luck and Stay STRONG!

I totally agree with the posters above. You need to stay away from him. I just finally made a clean break from "that guy" in my life a month ago. It is hard as hell but I know I will be better off for it. Stay strong and you can totally do it! You can private message me if you want to. I totally understand what you are going through. Take care girl! Hugs!!!

What happened to you totally sucks. I've been there too. And I agree what the people above me have said - it might be for the best that you take a break from him. Once you've cleared your head and gotten over everything, then you guys can really be friends again. I hope all goes well with you and I do hope that you guys can remain friends ! Good luck

What the hell??!

you're jealous.

you're trying to front in front of him, as though things are great.

your "friendship" has to stay strong, because that's better than nothing (since he's not into you).

you're p*ssed because he's your BFF and i'm sure he tells you how great Kelly's stir fry is and what not. so you hate that b*tch, even though she IS great.

look, get over it. cut back on your time with him and hang out with some other friends (assuming you have more). go out and have fun. meet new people. go on a trip with these friends. get a life. when your mind is occupied with other things, you will eventually get over this crappy feeling you have.

Yea!! Of course you are going to feel resentment. Being rejected is one thing but being rejected for another woman is even worse. I think it's normal to feel resentful of him. And maybe that resentment holds jealously as well but thats all normal. I say this every time, but maintaining a close relationship with the person who made you feel this way in the first place is VERY unhealthy. The only way you can move on is to take a break from the friendship for a while. He should know that it's hurting you what he is doing! I don't think he's much of a friend being so careless. That's just my opinion.

I was in a similar situation, and I must say, it took me completely cutting him off before I was remotely ok afterwards. I mean no matter what, he's there for me, but instead of going for just some other girl, he went back to his ex who hurt him before, then did it again. So when he came running back my way, I gave in, and he still pretty much played me in the end. Granted, he came to my rescue during a sticky situation last summer, but still...I felt that it was time for me to let him go after he refused discussing his feelings (sober) with me, and would constantly disregard my like for him.

Anyways, my point is: let him go. It's the hardest thing to do, but its also the healthiest.

I agree with Asia84. It sounds like you are having these resentful feelings because you are denying your true feelings about the situation. Of course you are going to feel resentful and jealous, you were rejected and that is a normal way to feel. No, girl you are not over it in any way! If you were, you wouldn't be feeling this way towards him. I think you are expecting too much of yourself, trying to act like this whole thing hasn't hurt you bad. It would hurt any girl. I agree with the other girls that it is time to spend some time apart from him, start going out and having fun, and please meet some other men. Start dating, it will boost your confidence. Good luck girl.

It sounds like you still want him but your feelings have shifted a little bit and you've given up on ever being with him. Now you just see him as a guy in a long term relationship who you can't have. That leads to feelings of anger and irritation.

I agree w/ EVERYONE here.

Distance yourself until you know you're over him. Have fun with your other friends.

Good luck to you.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

I hope you have taken the advice from these ladies. I know how hard it is to take a break from someone you care about so much. But, let me tell you, you HAVE to be strong and do it. Talk it over with a friend and let them be your accountability partner. When you get the urge to pick up the phone, call the other friend. Take his number off speed dial and replace it with a friend. I even changed his name to Punk because 1) that was my nickname for him and 2) I thought he was a punk for not working things out with me. I've been down a very hurtful road and trust me, it's not easy. You have to have a certain strength to work out your feelings if you keep him around. I did that for a long time, setting up boundaries for myself. Eventually I put up the boundary of no longer making the effort to call him and we stopped talking. I realized that I did all the calling. That break was the best thing to ever happen to me. I found time to truly forgive and move on. He's doing his thing. I'm doing mine.

"Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends."