Yup, i've dated one. Finally after 9 months I gave up and dumped him.

did it once and I will NEVER do it again!

Of course I have, during the time when I wasn't looking for any commitment myself. It worked out well for everyone.

I am one...

I think I used to be much more of a commitment phobe than any guy I knew. Every boyfriend I've had has wanted us to get married. A couple of them were really annoying about it.

I was "soooo in love" w/this one guy on and off for like 6 years. We finally dated and I realized why this seemingly awesome guy never had a gf. He was so freaked out. We only lasted about 3 months when I decided it wasn't worth it...

I'm usually the one with commitment issues.

I dated a guy a few months ago... wanted to elope even before we went on date, should have know right then. After 3 weeks he texted me if I had planned my dream wedding. I replied no and he responded by saying, good we can plan it together. I ended it right then and there.

I'm usually the one with commitment issues.

I dated a guy a few months ago... wanted to elope even before we went on date, should have know right then. After 3 weeks he texted me if I had planned my dream wedding. I replied no and he responded by saying, good we can plan it together. I ended it right then and there.

ok, this is a twist...I'm a (past)commitment phobe!!! I've had many relationships in the past where I just could not commit! Everytime I thought about it I would freak out. After ruining some serious relationships with great guys who wanted a future with me I dated a fellow commitment phobe and it was the worst combination ever! Being with someone who could not commit to a future made me think about what I wanted for myself and actually helped me work through my issues, while the situation was painful it really helped me learn about myself and why I was acting that way. While I'm now single I have developed personal goals for myself and know what I want.

My fiance was a commitment phobe when we first started dating. It took him a really long time to actually commit to a serious relationship. It gets frustrating, but I deal with it. I just gave him an ultimatum one day that he had to commit to me or else I was going to go find someone else.

Luckily, he's gotten over most of his issues and we have a normal, happy relationship now.

I'm in that situation right now ... but we're trying to work things out and figure out what each of us really wants.

Same here bengalspice. It's tough but he's worth it as is the relationship.

I'm gonna third that as well...It's extremely hard sitting back and waiting for that ultimate committment, especially during wedding season :annoyed:

Uh, what is with my emoticon thingie? I thought it was supposed to be 'annoyed' but apparently it is walking like an Egyptian???

I am the commitment phobe in all my relationships.

Lol Sydney C! I've done that before (the emoticon thing).

I am in that predicament with my boyfriend. He says he does eventually want to get married in the future, but I get the vibe that he's afraid to commit. I'm still young though so I'm not in a big rush to get married, but if he asked me, I would definitely say yes without hesitation.

i've had that, after 18 months of undefined dating, i ended it. too much energy and time invested on NOTHING!

I think we all have at some point.

I haven't - in the past it was me, if anyone. I'm only 23 though, so I don't see any of it as commitment phobia as such, just more as dating some of the wrong people! If it's not right, it's not right - I can't help if they feel more strongly about me than I do about them.

My best friend is going through this at the moment though. She's been with her successful, charismatic boyfriend for two years and she's only wanting more commitment but he's being elusive and slippery. It's frustrating for me watch - I don't think he can ever be what she needs him to be (which is fine if this is the case, but he has to let her know!!). She's amazing, drop dead gorgeous, sweet, smart, anything you could want, so I think that's why he's not running altogether. They're at a definite gridlock though and something needs to give!

urban chic 101, I don't think dumping that guy necessarily makes you a commitment phobe - that should send any normal person in the opposite direction! Yikes.

I just dumped one. Ugh. I realized that I'm only 23 but I wanted a commitment sooner or later. He sucked at thinking and planning past today.

Seeing one now, his excuse that we haven't made anything official is that we live 30 minutes away from each other...but I know the real reason! LAAMMMEE!!

Briefly. He didn't want to commit to even being a couple.

Im too old to make excuses so i wont, im not going to waste my time with someone who doesn't even want to be with me. Self-esteem in tact.

Yup and so have all of my ex-boyfriends...

My current boyfriend was a commitment phobe at first. When we started dating, he hadn't dated anyone else and we were first years in college. He didn't plan past today. It made/makes sense, but now, things are completely different. He says seeing me around his family during the holidays made him realize he would like to continue this tradition for "years to come". It was sweet.

The guy I dated before I met my husband. I am so glad I don't have to deal with that anymore!

You should be asking this question to my husband. He thought I would be a run away bride.

I've always been the commitment phobe... I'm sure dating me sucks.

Where is the option, "I am one."

I have ended all of my relationships because I am terrified of commitment but somehow get attracted to guys who have no fear of it whatsoever.

I've always been the commitment phobe. I had to get over it if I didn't want to lose the guy I'm with now. It's been hard but I did it and he's totally worth it. Every once in awhile the old me trys to creep in but I am now able to shut her out.

I actually haven't.

*points at me*

It used to freak me out to even officially date someone. I wouldn't mind hanging out or something, but once the whole 'boyfriend and girlfriend' titles came up, I got super scared.

Yup and I got out of it ASAP.

LOL NOT SUPRISED THAT YES HAS THE MOST ANSWERS HERE.

I'm with Jude C. Every boyfriend I had proposed to me. I was not ready to be engaged. I was young -- I'm talking about high school, college, etc.

Ironically, later in life, the man I truly wanted to marry dragged his feet about proposing. He said he wanted us to marry, and that I was The One for him, but he just didn't pop the question. Eventually, he did, and we're happily married now.

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can't believe the percentage of YES!!
TYPICAL guys huh

I think I might be involved with a long distance commitment phobe. We've seen each other a few times and have talked on the phone almost every day. We've known each other almost 3 months now and have changed our statuses on an internet social site to complicated and he's told me that he's never changed his status before. However, he keeps telling me he wants to do things to make me smile and make me happy, which he does by sending me YouTube clips that are really cute and romantic.

But now that we've changed our statuses, there's been 2 times that he's been funny, it seems like he wants to fight, but then backs down. My best friend thinks that he's a commitment phobe, while my other friends think he's not. We haven't met either one of our friends, besides my best friend and her husband. Should I dump him or wait a few more weeks?

Yeah, for 8 months. Every time things got really really good for a while, he'd suddenly go all moody and stop calling/texting. I love him so I kept giving him chances, but eventually he broke up with me because he didnt love me. I told him he never gave it a chance - he's never been in love, or even held hands with a girl in public before me, and he's 25 - but he said even if I was right, he couldn't see it. blah.