When you're in a relationship, it's assumed that you only have eyes for each other, but come on ladies, that's just not reality! Of course, we're going to look twice at a hot guy walking down the street, the same way men check out beautiful women — it's just human nature, right? Sure, an excessive wandering eye is a bit much, but ladies, let me ask you this. Do you get upset if your significant other does a double take when he notices a good-looking woman walking down the street? Do you tend to take it personally or do you accept that it's just a guy thing?
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1i dun like it
2I consider that totally disrespectful whenever they do!
3I know he does, and that's fine. If he does it in front of me, though, that is definitely not OK. That is just plain rude.
4Yea...definately not cool to look at other chicks. He should be looking at ME!!
5wow, if it makes you feel inadequate or you take it personally, i think it shows low self esteem. It's just people watching and an appreciation of beauty...i mean he's with you for a reason! but if he takes a look at a hot woman, it's only natural! (hell a hot guy or girl will get my attention, and I still look at my boyfriend as one of the most attractive men I've ever seen)
you don't want your man to be afraid to notice another human being, and what, just because she's pretty you would feel threatened? I hope you aren't doing a double standard here then. Not to mention, I'd feel worse if he were checking out an average looking or 'ugly' woman, I mean who they check out reflects their taste and it says a lot about his taste in you:)
Now don't get me wrong, if you're talking and he's so mesmerized by this beauty walking by that he stops walking or completely turns around or he falls out of a chair..unless it's like Alessandra Ambrosio, I'd be giving him a smack up side the head...with a grin of course lol.
That's why the girl's getting checked out anyways...she's hot, she takes care of herself, and (as far as he can tell from looking at her) she's not full of drama and wouldn't be upset if he were to glance at another woman:)
6Doesn't bother me at all.
7Obviously, men check out other women...women check out other men. Just human nature. But I DO think it's rude and disrespectful to do it in front of your significant other.
8Double standard much? If a woman is attractive, he's welcome to look twice- but only twice :]
9I don't care if he looks at a hot girl, but I will care if it becomes a distraction or he begins comparing me with her or something.
10i don't mind - as long as he's just looking!
11Heh, I squeeze his hand or elbow him in the rib so he doesn't miss the eye candy walking by.
Of course, he's wise enough to always say, "She's cute, but she's no Ms Petite42." Smart guy that he is!!
12First of all, your guy should know better. I would'nt say that I would feel inadequate or take it personally if he looked at another woman. He should know better though. Look when I am not looking. Thats what I do
13So long as it's just a harmless look, it's fine. Hey, I'm always going on about hot guys I see (and then say that they looked freakishly like him), he thinks it's "cute". There are too many gorgeous women out there to NOT appreciate them.
14Besides, I know for a fact that he's more genuinely attracted to factors like intelligence than appearance, so I don't feel threatened.
We both glance at good-looking people and sometimes say, "Oh he/she's cute." It's not a big deal to us, because at the end of the day, he's with ME, and I'm with HIM.
15I don't mind him checking other girls out, or noticing if a girl looks hot. However ANY guy that does the whole double-look, stop and stare type thing, single or not irritates me. Meatheads/idiots in general are irritating, I just think that is so cheesy!
16*double-take
17I'm more likely to be bothered if the woman being checked out is someone I consider either gross and trashy. If she is a classy, good looking broad than I can understand how she might draw attention.
What bothers me more though is being the girl that is checked out by a man in a relationship. Most often it happens when a couple is walking down the street side by side with their arms around eachother, and I'm coming in the other direction. Some boys will give me the once over and/or make lustful eye contact while their arm is around their girlfriend, and I feel if I accidentally lock eyes with them than I'm somehow a participator in bold game of deception. Though in reality, the dude is probably just reassuring himself that he can still draw the attention of other women.
18Mine doesn't actively look but every now and then, a person will catch his attention, male or female. He's smart enough not to do a double take and is rather subtle about his glancing. I would never know if he didn't have the honesty to occasionally point out an attractive person to me and state how much more attractive I am. I do the same. "Yeah, the guy is attractive but my honey is hottest!" At the end of the day, the most beautiful person in the world to us is the one that we're sleeping with each night.
19avettafawna, I know exactly what you mean. In fact this seems to happen MORE often when they have their girlfriend around. Sometimes I see the g/f notice it too and looks hurt. That's when I feel really bad.
It happened to me once with a guy with a girl HOLDING A PRAM and child, can you believe it. that brute
On-topic: It's natural to look, so I don't mind. He is a very subtle glancer and thinks I don't notice, but I do and when he does. I cutely nudge him to let him know I know. But I really don't mind. After all, doesn't it feel harmlessly good when other hot guys still check us out
I also point out hot girls to him to make it look like i'm not jealous, except of course secretly i am
this is all part of a healthy relationship, keeps you on your toes and not taking each other for granted.
20I guess I have confidence in my relationship and I dont mind when he does it on occassion.
21When I've been in relationships I don't mind it a little bit. It used to make me laugh when we realised we were checking out the same girls.
22I'm on the fence. Most guys, I could care less, I'll check the girls out too. But my last boyfriend, it did bother me only because he was an ass and mentioned numerous times that he wasn't attracted to me sometimes. So for him to say "oh that girl is hot", I'd get insecure because I figured he would have rather been with her than me.
BUT If i am in a healthy, secure, relationship, i dont care!!
23I dunno...I really couldn't care less because I trust my baby though. I mean, like, if he was to totally check a chick out head to toe and turn to me and say "Holy she is SMOKING!" Yea, I might have a problem.
But he's a guy, and they look. Come on, I check out chicks too!
24If I feel secure with him, then no. If I don't feel secure, then it drives me nuts.
25I check out guys all the time, so he can do it as well, look but don't touch.
26I expect him to check out women, he's human. But don't expect him to do it when he is out with me and when you do check someone out don't make it obvious keep it to youself. Also only strangers. Don't be checking out my friends or the neighbors!
27My fiance and I see to be quite different. I never check out guys, and my fiance never checks out girls. I mean, my God, guys pass me all the time, I don't look, let alone look twice. Hot or not, how would I know? My fiance is the exact same way, in fact he has only been physically attracted to one person prior to me. Oddly enough, I was only physically attracted to one person prior to him. We may be weird, but whatever works, works.
28My fiance and I see to be quite different. I never check out guys, and my fiance never checks out girls. I mean, my God, guys pass me all the time, I don't look, let alone look twice. Hot or not, how would I know? My fiance is the exact same way, in fact he has only been physically attracted to one person prior to me. Oddly enough, I was only physically attracted to one person prior to him. We may be weird, but whatever works, works.
29Whenever he checks out a hot babe- to me, it means he has a healthy sexual appetite. But don't get all glutton with the eye candy: if he's making it overly obvious or making a point to let me know he's looking at her- I'm seriously wondering about the security of our relationship.
30Don't care. It's like being at a museum- look, but don't touch. And don't use cameras with flash.
31melizzle: that made me lol!!
32It doesn't bother me at all when my guy looks at attractive girls. It says that he's got good taste, and hopefully he thinks I'm as pretty -- or prettier -- than they are! In the end, I'm the one he's going home with anyway, so it really doesn't matter.
He's usually not looking for good looking women anyway, but moreso for the gunts and camel-toes. We're very politically incorrect that way ...
33It doesn't bother me. I even point out hot chicks to him because I can appreciate beauty in a woman. And I've never really been with a guy who has been so distracted by another chick that he's not paying attention to me. I'm sure if that was the case, it would bother me.
34Do it on the sly. Don't let me know you're checking out other girls, I'm not enough for you?
35I don't like for my man to check out other women. It doesn't make me feel inadequate because honestly, when someone's attractive, I don't think it's normal for a person not to notice. I mean, our eyes are constantly scanning, and once in a while, someone good-looking will enter our peripheral vision. However, since we started dating, I don't notice my boyfriend checking out other girls. If anything, he might notice things like, "She's flat. Her legs are so thin, you can stick a watermelon between them and she won't notice. WHOAH, she's fat." All critical things. When I pass a gorgeous woman and say, "MY GOD, that woman was a goddess," he'll perk up and start looking around. And I don't think he's lying about not noticing.
36Yes.
37It's tacky as hell.
38I don't really care for it.
39He doesn't really look that often anyways.
I'm okay with it, as long as my husband doesn't ogle over another woman. That's taking it too far, in my opinion.
Besides, my husband is a typical male - he's very visual. Why else is he with me??
Also, my husband has to deal with it on his end. I get looked at a lot by other men, even when I'm out with him. One time, a newly-introduced acquaintance said to him directly, pointing at me "Is she your wife?? She's beautiful!" My husband is comfortable with it, and isn't insecure. He knows my heart belongs to him, as his belongs to me.
So basically, we're secure with each other, and isn't fazed by that stuff.
40we would check them out and rate them together LOL
41I take after my parents on this topic. Since I can remember, they walk around, and my dad's the best husband and father of all time, but he also knows how to appreciate a woman's beauty (or "set-si-ness" as he calls it). So if my fiance checks out another chick, it's no biggy...especially if he includes me and I get to oogle her, too
42Well, I can't blame him for looking at other girls but when he really is CHECKING THEM OUT it's another thing.
43Or when he compare me to other girls. I HATE that. It make me feel so ugly and useless.
I understand that if someone nice looking walks by, you will want to look. I look at other guys when I am not with my bf. But if he is checkin someone else out while he is with me, I throw a fit! Have some respect for the person you are with. Browse on your own time! I think it is rude and tacky to do it in front of the person you want to be with.
44I think that is extremely RUDE and DISRESPECTFUL to have your husband or boyfriend oggle other women right in front of you. My husband did it to me...I called him on it. We were at an event where the dress attire is very casual... a chick shows up dressed like she was going "clubbin" ....she obviously wanted the attention..had everything showing. My husband turned his back on me tried to act like he wasn't oggling but I wasn't born yesterday. If I made and attempt to dress that way....he would have wanted me to change. So... why was it okay for her to look all slutty when he would tell me I shouldn't wear something like that. I have decided...whats good for the goose is good for the gander... next time we are at one of these type of events... I will just wear something very revealing and see how he likes the guys checking me out. I already know he won't but...turn about is fair play. When he says something... I will just remind him of his over the top oggling. He says he loves and respects me but his actions showed me different....sometimes you have to turn the table on them in order for them to get the message.
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