I always catch myself arguing about semantics and stuff when we get into a fight. Like, "you said it like this, which means this" and he'll be all "but I just said it wrong, I really meant that," and then I'm all "well, you don't know how to talk, then."

I'm trying not to do that anymore, but it's sort of a natural tendency in me to be picky about words.

I often find myself in exactly the same situations as Jude. I am constantly nagging my boyfriend about silly little things that don't matter, and we're both the type to not want to go to bed angry, which I'm sure doesn't always help our situations.

I just did this last night... I shouldn't have talked to my boyfriend when I was a little upset last night (even though I had no reason to be -- I was trying to calm down), and then we ended up in a really big argument. We both said dumb things. It's not over yet.

I definitely don't agree with the "don't go to bed angry" thing. Sometimes the very best thing is to sleep on it, let your emotions settle and get some perspective before you discuss issues that are really important. You don't have to go to bed seething, but I just don't even get the concept here. Yah, go ahead and hash out every wrong that has ever been wronged for hours on end...that's way better than going to bed angry.

Yes, I tend to over talk, but I don't think it's a problem. My husband thinks it's a good thing (overall ), as I'm open and truthful. I argue fair. I'm principled and rational, and I try not to insult and take digs at him. I'm really good at it, and sometimes, I make him feel stupid. In case in point from a recent squabble:

HIM: Look, I'm not stupid.
ME: I didn't say you were stupid. I said you were "presumptious." There's a difference.
HIM: That's like saying I'm stupid!
ME: Uh, no. You're not stupid. You're not a stupid man. You were over-presuming something, that's all. We all do that sometimes.

We continued on, and resolved our argument. We're okay now.

I used to do this soo much, my current boyfriend would just break up with me. He put up with it for a while, but when we would talk about the same problem for twelve hours, he just couldn't take it anymore. I'm not one to normally do it, but I can admit that before, when I was stressed, in a new relationship and depressed, that side of me came up. I think it's just a form of nagging. Nowadays, I state my problem concisely, and my boyfriend responds, instead of ignoring or just making my problem sound juvenile, which is why I would keep bringing it up before.

I'll do this sometimes. When I'm really giddy/ worried/ upset about something, I will, but I'm getting better at it. I've started asking myself, "Have I told this person this story? Would I like to be subject to repeats of the same thing, like a broke record?" But, I have a feeling it won't go away anytime soon.

Sometimes, however not very often.

I am so guilty of this, I am trying to work on it because over talking tends to make it worse.

my boyfriend gets so mad, because i wait until he's almost sleeping every night and then start asking him questions!

Guilty...

OMG this just happened the other day and it was sooooo stupid!
We agreed that when something bothers us, we NEED to talk to the other person ASAP otherwise it will just be an explosion one night!

I don't but my SO does. Luckily, I can just say, "I don't want to talk about this anymore", and he stops.

At times I've been known to over talk.

I overtalk things all the time and end up going on and on and getting onto different topics of things that bother me. It's never gotten me into trouble but it's too hard to avoid doing it.