I'd suggest talking to her gently about how you feel. A certain amount of growing apart is natural in the ebb and flow of any good friendship, bit it would be a shame to build up resentment or distance yourself without first giving her a chance to address your concerns.

People not only grow apart, but also grow back together. Yes, many friends we have will eventually drift completely away, but there are also many friendships that go through cycles due to life events. It doesn't mean you can't still enjoy the time you DO have together.

I would definitely talk to her about how you're feeling right away. Don't let the resentment grow any further. Tell her how you feel and then see what she does. She may have no clue that she's hurting you. Some day down the road you may both be in the same place again, married with young children - or whatever - and you don't want to miss out on future good times with her, by letting her friendship slip away now.

I completely, completely understand what you are going through because I am going through something very similar! I recently finished school and left my male best friend behind. He and I were inseparable, but over the past month we've talked on the phone less than 5 times and haven't seen each other at all, even though we only live an hour apart. Like you said, you have to respect that classes, etc. are important, but it is SO hard to just lose them in the shuffle.

I definitely agree with everyone else, talk to her and tell her how you're feeling. Sometimes when you are so busy in school, it's easy to neglect people who are important to you - even when you love them just as much as you always did! It's not hopeless. Write her a letter or email if you feel it will be easier to explain yourself. I hope things work out for you! Change is so hard and depressing sometimes.

I would try to save your friendship. Talk to her about how you feel then try to set time so you two can get together at least once a week or so to have just a girls night. Don't give up on her just yet.

I'd make the effort to reach out to her and express your feelings. Hopefully, the two of you can figure out some way to spend a little more time together and reconnect. It's normal to grow apart a little as you get older, but it shouldn't be like this. Talk to her and tell her how you feel!

Definitely talk to her. Friendships should not be this expendable.

I'm in my 40s and will it help you if I tell you that friendships really do ebb and flow? And that I have several gf's from high school and college with whom we may have lost touch for awhile, as our lives shifted, but inevitably we ended up finding our friendship again?

Let's see...

My best friend since 7th grade: our lives drifted apart in college; recently, she moved to my town and after 20 years, it's like no time has passed!!

My college roomie: we had a falling out senior year. We didn't talk for 5 years, when she called me because she was getting married and having a crisis. Now, even though we live many states away, we are in frequent contact via phone, email, and visits.

I could go on and on... I had 10 very close gf's in high school, and all of us are still in touch. There will be a few years in between contact sometimes - for example, when babies arrive you get so busy... but inevitably, we find our way back to each other again.

Of course, I'm talking about the true friendships... the "soulmate" type friends... not necessarily the "well, you'll do because you're available to hit the bar with me and be my wing-woman while I scope out men..." type.

you know... me and my bestie saw very little of each other in the past four years while doing our bachelor degrees. So little, in fact, that you can count on two hands the number of times we saw each other. Now that school is over for the both of us, we have rekindled our friendship and it's stronger than ever.

Another friend and I grew apart when I was dating a particularly jealous guy, but now we are hanging out again.

Another friend I used to see on a regular basis while I was on the off with the other two, but she now lives with her guy, has a full time job and I get to see her very little. Friendships DO flow and ebb. What makes one a lasting one, is that despite the time away you make a point to reconnect and try not to hold grudges, because life happens.

you're at a stage in life where these things happen . . .it'll happen again when folks start getting married and poppin' babies.

don't be a drama-queen about it. just tell your BFF that you guys should designate certain days (that may shift and alternate depending on class/work schedules) to go and have a BFF-day.

this could be Sunday brunch with shopping. or a monthly spa day. whatever . . .

i have an array of friends (some married, some have businesses in other countries so they are never here, some going crazy after a bad divorce/break up, etc), but all of us make time to have lunch, or what not.

every year we have a "no matter what" vacation. all of us go, and it usually works every year.

just make the initiative. understand that she has things, just like you have things.

Unfortunately, these things happen. I would chill out about it first. For example, I would wait until I wasn't so upset about this particular event. Then I would just be straight with her and say how much you miss hanging out.

Imho, friendship is salvageable as long as both are putting in equal amount of time to maintain the relationship.

And yeah, try to chill out because you guys are in different phase of life now, and talk to her too, express your feeling without demanding anything, then see how she will do after knowing how you feel.

Good luck to you.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

if this is a seriously close best best friend, then no matter where you guys are in life, you two will always be close. my best friend has not been in the same city as me for the past 7 years, and yet she's the one who knows me the best, and vice versa. weekly phone conversations and occasional visits go a long way.

i think because you and your best friend hung out a lot together, part of that "let's go out!" factor helped define your relationship. i totally understand that you miss that, but don't be confused about whether that dictates your closeness to someone.

I'm going through something similar myself. I'm married and living a completely different life than her. She's all about partying, hooking up and she still lives with her parents. Even though I'm busy I made time for her in my life and even let her move in with me, the hubby and our roommate (who she was hooking up with). Eventually she stopped hanging out with my hubby and I even though she doesn't drive so she'd be at the house all day. I kicked her ass out and told her that I'm here if she wants to make an effort to be my friend. She's never going to reach out and I'm okay with that because she's not the same person who was my best friend a long time ago, that girl wouldn't have done this to me.

A lot of people have said this and a lot more are going to say it but these things happen... if you don't want to lose her, just talk to her and tell her so.

I'm going through a similar situation right now. My friend and I are just on separate planets right now,
I'm married, finished with uni., just moving on to a different part of my life, while she's still at home, dropped out of school, and just making really bad choices in life.
When we've spent time together, it just felt really awkward and strange on my part, like I didn't know who she was anymore. We we talk on the phone or IM each other, it's strained and I find it tricky to communicate with her.
I still care about her and wish her the best in life, but at this point, I'm not going to make much of an effort. It sounds selfish, but we're just changing. If she was having a crisis, then I would definitely be there to help out however I could.
One day, I'm sure things will improve between us, but I'm not going to force anything or allow myself to be forced either.
Friends grow and drift and re-unite.

WOW IM IN THE EXACT SAME POSITION WITH MY "BEST FRIEND" RIGHT NOW, BUT SHES HAVING A BABY BUT STILL.

& IF YOUR FRIEND IS PUTTING HER BOYFRIEND BEFORE HER FRIENDS (OR MAKING YOU FEEL THAT WAY) THEN SHES OBVS NOT A DECENT FRIEND. BROS BEFORE HOS HUNNY.