You moved in with your boyfriend and for six months things were great, but the past three have been rough to say the least. Many people said it was too soon for you guys to take this step, and now you think they may have been right. Your boyfriend is rarely home nowadays and when he is, you’re usually frustrated with him.
You guys finally sit down to talk about what’s been going on. He admits that he’s been spending time outside of the house because he feels like you’re always upset with him. At the end of the conversation you both realize that you love each other, but you just aren’t ready to live together. You still want to make it work but if you stay together, it’s like you’re taking this huge step backwards. How would you handle this?
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This is why i don't believe in living with boyfriends.
i wouldn't have moved in with him the first place.
but if i became a donkey and did such, i would just move out and go back to the way i was living before.
but in reality, there is this thing called a lease. you can't just up and move out. and i would be stupid to move out and let him stay in a place with my name on it. i'd be responsible for anything that goes down, even though i'm not there.
also, you kinda have to look at the red flags.
apparently, i'd be this b*tch, and instead of my guy dealing with it like a man, he runs away . . .not a good sign for the future.
see, because even if i worked on my naggin', it still shows that he runs like a little oy when things get rough.
1It might have been to soon for you guys to move in but at least you were able to see that before it completely destroyed your relationship. If you really feel that moving out is the best way to handle this situation and the best way to save your realtionship then do so. Maybe you guys just have a little more to learn about each other like how to deal with each others nagging and so on. This might be one of the best decisions you've ever made
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2I'm with Asia, I would not move in with my boyfriend. If we're not ready to get married, then we're not ready to move in with each other. But if I did make this mistake, then obviously someone would need to move out (and fix the lease so that only the person living there is on it).
3I moved in with my guy, but I kept my apartment...and it is still there for those times when I need some alone time, and when my closet at his place gets too full, or when we fight, etc. Yeah, I guess this isn't really dealing with any issues that we have, but before I moved in I spent the night there all the time anyways. Plus I was out of the country for about 6 months before then.
My friend and her boyfriend got a 2 bedroom apartment. They each have their own rooms and bathrooms, and things are working out great for them. Of course they sleep in one room at night.
I think moving out is not taking a huge step backwards. In the long run, it will probably make your relationship better. You're not going to love each other any less if one person moves out...and if that is the case, then it wasn't meant to be!
4You kept your apartment?? Must be nice. Most of us can't afford to.
I'm kind of in that situation, and sometimes want him to move out but every couple I know that lived apart after living together broke up. So, yeah I think it's a step back. But time will tell...
5I got lucky HayleyStark...my parents come visit me often from Indonesia and they think the hotels in LA are overrated and way too expensive for the product they offer. Sometimes my mom stays for 2 months, so she lives there.
6Sooooooooo your parents pay for the place year-round now?
7I think that you shouldn't live with your boyfriend until you are BOTH mature responsible adults. How long were you together before you two moved in?
8Honestly, I think it's pretty difficult to take a step backwards and not have it affect the relationship. It's tough to go back to how things were...not even sure it's really possible.
You should definitely not move in with a significant other until you are absolutely sure it's the best thing for both of you. If one if more ready than the other, it probably won't work.
9I'm with emalove. It's going to be hard to take a step backwards and not have it hurt your relationship. You are going to be reluctant to move back in with each other later when the time is right. See if you can work things out first before you have to take this step. Maybe you need a better attitude and both of you need more space. Do you have a separate space for each of you to have alone time? These are things you'll have to workout either now or when you decide to move in together later and it would be easier to do it now.
10I kind of did this backwards...I had both male and female roommates, and one of the guys and I kind of fell for each other. We did weigh the issue of dating someone you live with...but it worked out okay for us. Our apartment is parting ways, so I need to figure out what we'll do now...live by ourselves with each other, or look for more roommates...
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