Even though I hate hearing it, but "Don't find love, let love find you". It's like, isn't the person that approached me looking for love? I think that saying is a bit twisted though.

"everything happens for a reason"!!! No it doesn't. Life is random. Things happen that suck--from not getting a job to breaking up with a boyfriend. Let me just be upset about not getting what I want rather than forcing me to assign meaning to a crappy situation.

I'm waiting on a proposal, so I hate to hear "Be patient, you two will have a lifetime together! Enjoy this time of dating..." No! I'm 28. He's 31. We've been together over 2 years. I would like to get married and start a family now. Not in a year.

I hate hearing "There are other fish in the sea." I know it's true and everything, but at the point just let me be sad about loosing my special fish ok!

well while i do believe everything happens for a reason its annoying to hear... though the worst is you will meet him when u least expect it. whatever

"Good things come to those who wait."

False! God things come to those who actively work toward it, not to those who sit around waiting for something to come their way!

He's just not that into you - although it's probably true, you're not in my situation right now, so how do you know that? let me wallow a little while, ok?

Ugh...I hate the "Good things to those who wait" line, too....as if I didn't ALREADY know that I had to wait, you telling me about it is making the situation SO much better. Lol!!

Now that I'm married, people are constantly asking when we're having kids. When I tell them that we don't want any kids, I always get "You'll change your mind!" or "But you're going to miss out on so much!" Look, we don't like kids, we don't want kids, so mind your own business!

"Good things come to those who wait" you have to get up and do something if you really want something. Waiting is not always the best.
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I'm in college so everyone is always saying "enjoy this time while it last". I think my life after college will be better, I'm just excited to see who my husband is, and where life will take me and meet my future family.

I agree with javsmav: NOT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. When someone says that, it seems like they're just trying to get me to shut up about my problems. Plus, I don't even believe things happen for a reason.

I agree with misscgo. I'm in college, and I hate when people say "This is the best time of your life". While I definitely am happy and enjoying myself, I don't understand how people can say that to me. Are you telling me it's all downhill? And college is actually very stressful for most people and you're at a tough point where you have to figure out what to do with the rest of your life. Thank God no one ever said that to me during high school. I would've punched them in the face. High school will probably always hold the spot as worst part of my life.

Definitely with smp7328 on this one...

"He's just not that into you"

Hands down. I die a little inside every time I read that in the comments on this site. Unfortunately, at least 4 people have to say it in every thread, regardless of the situation.

I TOLD YOU SO!! grrrrrrrr...

"when god shut's a door, he opens a window"
...yeah, so we have something to jump out of

Hahahaha, havok!!!

You know what I hate hearing.."Life isn't fair" Well guess what? I'm not just going to be okay with that. EVER. And I also agree with everyone else about the "love comes to those who wait", "there are other fish in the sea", "it happens when you least expect it", "enjoy being single while you can" BLAH BLAH BLAH!! Sometimes i just want to eat Ben & Jerry's and wallow in self pity without hearing all that crap

I have to agree with the "It's the best time of your life" saying regarding college. I went into a 2 year depression when I graduated. Not just because I missed the parties, but I also missed going to class, my professors, having intellectual discussions in class, and going to the football and baseball games. Once you're out of college, the burdens of the world fall on your shoulders. It's tough.

"Build a bridge and get over it".

Annoys the living crap out of me every single time I hear it....

I hate hearing ALL words of wisdom. I believe we each have our own path and should be allowed to pick the life we choose. If I make a mistake it is mine and makes me a more well-rounded person bc of it.....

I'm with Bbkf. I'm in the same boat. Hubs and I have been married for several years. People don't accept our decision to be child-free. Strange.

That I can start the rest of my life ... once I'm married.

Everyone here had awesome ones. I hated hated hated hated hated (can i say HATED) when people gave me ridiculous "advice" or "words of wisdom" such as "good things come to those who wait" or "don't look for love. It will find you." or "things happen for a reason". Just dont say anything - how freaking hard is that???

I agree with the other posters who hate "Everything happens for a reason." UGH. I hate that. I guess that advice helps some people who feel the need to search for meaning, and that's fine. But I think that, sometimes, stuff just SUCKS, and that's that.

Oh! This reminds me of something else.

At my 10 year-high school reunion (back in 2002), most of the girls were married. And I can't tell you how many times this conversation occurred:

Random Classmate: "So, are you married?"
Me: "Nope."
Random Classmate: "Seeing anyone?"
Me: "Not at the moment."
Random Classmate: "Awwww. Don't worry. You'll meet someone great someday."

UGH! I wanted to smack all of them. I'd just gotten out of a pretty crappy relationship right before the reunion and was THRILLED to be single. And I wasn't looking for anyone else anytime soon. GOD, did that bug me.

Whiplash you should next time tell people who say silly things like that (with a blank face) "What do you mean? I'm not worried?" and wait for their reply.

Words of wisdom are just a candy coated way for someone to tell you that your not doing what they THINK you should be doing. Which I can't stand. Just somebody pushing their feelings and beliefs on you.

My BF and I are constantly getting crap from everyone because 2 kids and 11 years later we're not married. But we are very happy in our situation and consider one another husband/wife and can't understand why society tries to force marriage on people. Especially considering the track record that marriage (and a good amount of the people who try to push it on us) have now days. People act like being married is like a life time warranty or insurance policy your missing.

Bengalspice: "That I can start the rest of my life ... once I'm married." Oh my god...if anyone says that to me when I get engaged....

I agree, I also hate, "everything happens for a reason."

I also try NEVER to give the advice, "you can do better," after a friend gets into a fight with a boyfriend, or breaks up. That is not what someone wants to hear, and it makes it sound like the entire point of dating is to "do better."

The most annoying advice I got was from two nosy aunts during college to "date around" and not be tied down to one guy. True, it would have been a great time to do so, but I wasn't going to break up with my boyfriend just because of that. Plus, I liked having sex and wanted to be in a relationship if I were doing so, try explaining that to the aunts!

After a huge argument,a break up or anything like that with your significant other and people tell you "Stop thinking about it, you'll feel much better." Well...if I could stop thinking about it, I would!!!

When you stop looking for love it will just show up!

"the lord never gives anyone more than they can handle". really, is that a universal truth? so all those suicides you hear about, those are just for fun?

also "everything happens for a reason", well no sh*t! but WHOSE freakin reason? and don't say "jesus"!

I hear you citizenkane. People told me to be patient while waiting for a proposal, too. But you've already been patient, that's why you're still with him! Maybe you just need to vent that it hasn't happened yet and you're ready. You don't need other people telling you to be patient when you already know that.

I just thought of another one - Karma's a b*tch. I think i just got bad karma from saying it! I have the WORST luck in the world. One week a bad breakup. the next week my transmission goes out. the next week a bad ankle sprain. seriously. all bad. And I don't think I did anything that bad to deserve all that bad "payback" karma. Life just sucks sometimes. I just have to deal.

This trite little gem is not specifically related to romance, but the axiom is repeated ad nauseum, and is certain to be casually tossed your way whenever you endure an unfavorable loss and those familiar have difficulty relating:

"It was never meant to be."

Really? According to whom?

I cannot count the number of times I heard this after suffering a miscarriage. Public notice: This is the *wrong* thing to say!

duck duck goose, I cannot believe people have said that to you! That is so unbelievably tacky!

I am with the "everything happens for a reason" crowd. I get tired of hearing that as well.

Thanks, pop.

They meant well, so I wasn't angry with their insensitivity. (Tacky is an appropriate characterization.)

"Everything happens for a reason" drives me batty!

Yup, everything *does* happen for a reason -- it's called determinism, fool. Sometimes, the reason is "you're an idiot and you screwed up!"

to assume only makes an ass out of you and me. grrr, I get really irritated when I hear that and have to work to like the person that has said if afterwards.

These things aren't exactly words of wisdom. "Platitudes" would be the right word for it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Platitude

When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years, my grandmother kept telling me, "what's meant to be is meant to be." No! It was my *choice* to end the relationship, and had nothing to do with fate or "what's meant to be." Some people don't consider being single a valid lifestyle choice; it's just a temporary state that you might be thrust into between relationships. But I choose to be single, and I couldn't be happier.

agree with everyone above!

Also one that used to bug me is "never go to bed angry"
my ex used that one to keep me up all night and fight. ugh.

I hated hearing college was the best time of my life. If that's all I have to look forward too I'm going to have a miserable life! I hated college and most days wouldn't even get out of bed. Now that I'm done I'm so excited and life has been wayyyyyyyy better than my college days.

just was reminded of another one "you can do anything you set your mind to".

I read all these comments, and with all of these platitudes said "UGH!" very loudly in my head. They are all terrible. I think "You'll find love the second you stop looking" is the WORST though. Each time I hear a story of someone who found love when they "stopped looking," they are always like, "I had given up dating forever, and then all of a sudden I was grinding on the dance floor with a new guy." You don't all of a sudden grind on a dance floor. That doesn't even make SENSE. Stop the lies.

I HATE categorizing times of my life as being "the best." That is the most depressing notion I have ever come across. If this is the best, then what will the rest be...just passing the time away. Dangerous mindset. Anyway, when people tell me being in college and having the freedom of designing your own schedule is the best time of your life, I usually ignore them.

Pretty much anything that is cliqued is annoying to me. Don't tell someone something like that when they are down.

I am 21 and engaged. My mom still tells me, though she loves my fiance that I should be "dating around", etc. She says I should have had a boyfriend who was over every single day, picking me up for a date, and then we should have broken up and I could date someone else. No. My mom dated around, got married at 25, and divorced 20 years later. Dating around is not going to improve my chances of finding a guy who in 20 years won't up and leave -- didn't help her one bit.

AVA MARiE,
I get that too. I've been with my guy for almost 6 years (we are 22 and 21) and my brother used to tell me I should be dating around and not just staying with one person (esp now that we are in college). Gah I hate that! What about the fact that I know I've already found the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with? What am I supposed to do waste a couple of years b/c you think I should? No way am I going to do that!

one thing that i hated when i was single was... (after a break up) "he's wasn't good enough for you." why doesn't anyone ever say anything at the beginning... or the whole "you're better than she is anyway" (when he leaves for another) - yeah, i know that but the guy apparently doesn't. LOL
people can say the stupidest things some times

ANY "word of wisdom" that I haven't requested myself is UNWELCOME. If I don't ask for it, what makes you think I need it/ want to hear it? God, some people are arrogant!