Get her to write up a pros and cons list about the guy and have her rip up the pros and only keep the cons list so everytime she thinks about the guy she can read the cons and remind herself that he was a loser.

Find angry girl music that is close to her situation and pick out a "break-up theme song" that you guys can listen to over and over again while drivin down the street gettin checked out by boys.

Go get new hairstyles, new outfits etc. Always fun and makes you feel sexy.

Have a major girls ONLY night where you all get dressed up, have pre-drinks at someone's place and go party your face off at a club downtown getting hit on by lots of hot guys. If you're underage.. go bowling, still lots of fun especially with a big bunch of friends.

It's really hard to break up no matter how long you've been together, especially if you're the one who got dumped. Just create lots of fun distractions and have something that when she's alone she can refer to (cons list) to keep her from stressing. Dont let her mope around the house, she'll feel much better when she's out. Let her know that you're there for her but he was a waste of time so theres no reason to mope around. There are tons of guys out there and he was a loser.

"No man or woman is worth your tears and the one who is wont make you cry"
"You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find your prince"
"Don't fall for someone who's not willing to catch you"

etc etc etc...

Excellent suggestions, Fallen.

Good luck with your friend!

Great suggestions Fallen!

I'd probably just tell her, "Okay, sweetie, if you need to rant and cry or just have fun and try to forget your break-up, I'm ALWAYS here for you. Just tell me what you want me to do."

If she's crying in front of you, you probably can ask her if it's okay to give her a hug IF you're a hugging kind. I've had people cry in front me before, that's what I usually do, but if I'm not too close (or if it's a guy), usually I just put my hand on their shoulders and tell them that everything will be alright. Then offer them a kleenex.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

She's definitely lucky to have a friend to talk to. When I went through my break-up (and still dealing with it) I didn't/don't really have anyone to talk to.

Tell her she had 3 days to cry, now her time is up and it's time to move on. Invite her out to do fun things, and if she says no, go anyway, without her.

I actually have a friend who just broke up from a long term relationship, WHILE attending the funeral of his best friend who'd been shot and murdered earlier in the week. Myself and a few of his other friends have kept him afloat by taking him out constantly and getting him to meet new girls and make new friends. The idea is to 1) put the person in a situation where they're not stewing over their loss, and 2) get them thinking and hopeful about the future (be it a new guy, some new friends, whatever). They don't actually have to *date* somebody new, but I think it goes a long way knowing that there are other, probably even better options out there.

maybe share with them a story about your last break up and how you felt and how you moved on. sometimes it helps, especially if its new to her, to hear about someone else coped and got through it. and fallen has some great suggestions! let your friend have her good cry- but then keep her busy! if she has a place to go or a thing to do on a friday night, she'll be less likely to stay home moping. go out with the friends and fireath had a good point- try to make some new friends! you don't need to push her to date but if you both meet some potential new friends while out, it makes it fun and gives you something to look forward to.

In my experience, the best thing to do for a friend is to help her get her mind off of the guy. Go out and have fun - let her realize that the world still spins, it did not end when they broke up. Who knows, she may get hit on a few times, too. That should boost her confidence and help her forget about this guy. If you can afford it, plan a small girls-only weekend trip somewhere. This will allow her to think about the trip she is planning, and to get excited about it.

I hate break-ups...

Fallen gives some great advice! I had a roommate who would give me 2-3 days to cry and mope over a boy, but then she would make me go out with her and we'd have fun and it helped SO much. She needs to find some activities to keep her busy and her mind off of the situation, that really helps a lot. Just don't let her mope!

Fallens tips are wonderful. If you ask her what you can do for her she might be able to put into words what she needs. Just be there for her and help her through it the best you can. She's not looking to you for a solution just knowing you are there for her is all she needs.

I agree that keeping her busy is the best thing. Exercise is great too, especially fun active things like taking classes. Go out together, get dolled up and practice flirting with some hotties. Male attention is always great after a breakup. I would let her talk and really listen. Then you can help her focus on all the positive things in her life. Obviously he was not the right guy and you can now tell her all the things you really hated about him and why he wasn't right for her. Also, encourage her to make fun of him, it adds humour to the situation and that's always good. Laughing is better than crying. You sound like a great friend, I wish I had someone like you when I was trying to get over heartbreak! Good luck.

I've got this exact thing going on. Except one of my best friends got dumped for the first time yesterday and then my other one got dumped for the first time the day before yesterday. And one of my other guy friends got dumped just before that. And this weekend is Valentine's to make it worse. I can't tell you what to do very well, but I CAN tell you what I've done that seems to have worked and what I'm going to do.

What I've been doing is listening to them right now. The friend who got dumped last night showed up on my doorstep crying. So I invited her inside and for two hours we sat and talked and she even laughed a couple of time through the tears. She's been calling me ever five minutes this morning. She's babysitting and what she'd planned was to grieve this weekend, so I think it's gotta be pretty tough to act like everything is okay. At the same time, it's probably good for her to have something to do.

The friend who got dumped the day before has just shut down. She's upset but she's acting like a robot. It's like she's pretending there never was anything. She cried for five minutes and then she took off. Now it's like there's nothing. I'm just being there, and I hope eventually she'll be okay.

The guy friend is on a mission for our church a couple of states away and he's trying to do that and be heartbroken, too, and it's not working. I'm writing him cuz that's all I really can do from a distance.

Tomorrow is Valentine's and so the two dumped best friends are going to sleep over at my house and the next day we're making ice cream and cupcakes and then we're having a picnic on my living room floor. That should help them with being dumped just before Valentine's, the most romantic holiday. The guy friend is too far away for that.

I'm also giving the ex-boyfriends (who are best friends) a hard time. Not being mean, really, but I am letting them know that I'm not okay with them and that sort of thing. More of a cussing them out thing. I only say what my friends give me permission to say because of that rule "don't badmouth the boyfriend in case they get back together" so I'm only sympathizing with them when they say "guys are stupid."

From here on out, the plan is to let them cry as long as they want, but don't let them hide from the world just cuz they hurt. And be there when they need someone to talk to about anything but the breakup or if they just want to curl up and cry. Whatever they need that I can give, I will do. In time, they'll be okay.