Nah, you did the right thing. This guy needs a dose of reality.

Nope.

*Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, just be sure to give it AFTER your conditions have been met.*

In my world, you're a rat.

You did the right thing. And the reason so many crimes happen is because people are too chicken sh*t to rat out the criminals, so being a rat is not a bad thing.

i. personally, dont do revenge. i swear by karma. but urs is kinda fun and we all knows he deserves it, so i wont judge

If he knew he was pissing off someone who knew this much about his illegal activities then he deserves it.

technically you were reporting illegal activities- that makes you a good citizen.

i personally agree with sun-sun, i believe in karma! i also think the best revenge is looking good and living well. not trying to hurt the other person.

you totally did the right thing. You do something illegal, it's bound to catch up with you, especially if you're a complete jerk.

I'm not one to play the karma card but I'm usually not a big fan of "revenge." I think it rarely makes people happy. That being said, it's not like you took a baseball bat to his car or posted naked pictures of him on the internet. You were reporting illegal activity. I think that makes it more forgivable.

You did nothing wrong. You did your karmic duty.

And "karma" only circles back around when people take action with the Universe to make it happen. So, in my opinion, people who sit there and say "Let karma take its course" are naive. Karma only does that when you prompt it to.

Good for you for taking action!

You reported what was wrong and he derserved it. Just let Karma take over now.

*deserved

he deserved it for what he did to you, but he also was screwing the system, so why should he be allowed to make unclaimed $$$? good for you

DESERVED!!!

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

I love how everyone is treating you like a concerned citizen or a well-intentioned whistle-blower.

You got hurt and hitting his pocketbook is the only way you knew to strike out at him. So be it. But let's not pretend you were trying to improve society here.

Personally, I think revenge is just undignified.

You hurt him where it counts!
Good for you.
Now please never speak to him again.

Sounds to me like you knew the entire time he was cheating and this wasn't a surprise, you accepted it and stayed with him. So I think, yes, you went too far.

Yea, I am with kendalheart 100%.

He deserved it.

Re: kendalheart's comment- I think it's a bit unfair to assume anyone (women or men) can gather the courage and strength to simply leave someone they once loved/thought they loved...I work with victims of domestic violence, and everyone goes "well, why doesn't SHE 'just' leave him?" and it's so much more complicated than that...

That said, I hope that after reporting this guy to the IRS, you have finally let go and come to terms with never. ever. speaking. to him. again. I think this incidence is justified (note: "justified" not "the right thing to do")..and like someone said, it's not like you posted naked pictures you took together on the internet...you killed two birds with one stone: served yourself (obvi the primary reason) and your fellow tax-paying citizens!

i agree with popgoestheworld. you sound a tad immature. there are better ways to deal with people and you need to learn some coping skills.

No, let's not look at his illegal activities that make the industry suffer. Oh hell no, I think being in debt (country wise) is just dandy!

All is fair in love and war (in this case, money). He shouldn't have messed with stuff like this, and he was pretty dumb to share this information with you, only to do things that would make any person want to rat him out.

Fair game.

First of all saying "you did your karmic duty" is BS. What you did is very simple...retaliate with malicious intent. He did you wrong so you return the favor. Weren't you ever taught that two wrongs don't make a right?

You need to instead of taking the I'm a scorned woman stance...just be a grown-up and move on. Count your losses and move onto someone who is better for you. If every woman who was cheated on reacted in this way there'd be havoc and mayhem everywhere. I'm not justifying this piece of sh*t's behavior...I'm only saying you could've taken a higher road.

Your were maliciously vindictive, but honest in your method. So. . .sanction the action but reprove the intentions, I guess?

(You're definitely a narc. But that may not necessarily be a bad thing; it all depends on your own personal values.)

I support you 100%. He created an injustice (both with his love life and his career). You brought the justice.

WOW, I believe you went to far! You should of just left him in the beginning when he was cheating on you left and right!! Now you stuck in a runt. What makes you so sure that he wont begin to say that you were in it as well? Good luck

You stayed with him...

I too agree with kendalheart.

I would have done the same thing. But not to make society better. To hurt his a*s. Serves him right!

People saying "well why didn't you just leave him?" obviously have never been in a situation like yours. It's not that simple. Obviously you two had a history, and it's hard to leave someone when you've been through so much together. I don't think revenge is always the best answer, but I think you were justified. He deserved what he got.

I'm with popgoestheworld.

I don't think reporting him was wrong, but you did it for the wrong reasons. You were fine with his illegal activities while you were together, weren't you? So don't even try to pretend like you were taking the moral high ground here. You had one purpose and one purpose only, and that was to get down low, dirty revenge.

DEFINITELY agree with pop when she says revenge is undignified - no matter how you go about it, it'll always be petty and degrading to your own character.

to the ones who said she went too far:

HE went to far... illegal activities and let her know everything? he was urging her to tell the world the illegal activities he was doing. I mean... if I am doing something "illegal" and my significant other knew details... I'll do whatever it takes to treat him well, so he keep his mouth shut, or, the smart choice was not to let her knew anything about these activities. He was such a dumb.

I am not a fan of revenge. Yes, what he did was illegal but it took you being wronged to say anything. Your not any better in my opinion you knew what he was doing when you were a couple and did nothing about it. To me you are just as guilty.

I don't believe in snitching in general. There's a lot about our legal system I don't trust. However, this is one way to put it to good use I probably would have done the same thing in your shoes. Cheating is extremely damaging and it's okay if you went a little too far getting revenge.

I don't believe in snitching in general. There's a lot about our legal system I don't trust. However, this is one way to put it to good use I probably would have done the same thing in your shoes. Cheating is extremely damaging and it's okay if you went a little too far getting revenge.

I don't believe in snitching in general. There's a lot about our legal system I don't trust. However, this is one way to put it to good use I probably would have done the same thing in your shoes. Cheating is extremely damaging and it's okay if you went a little too far getting revenge.

blah blah you ratted him out. it's not like he was the best person in the world, working hard for the money to be true and support his family or whatever. he's a bad person. he was doing something bad. now, he's not. I think you're sweet to feel bad, because I wouldn't at all.

Technically what he was doing was illegal, so essentially it's your job as a good citizen to report his dodgy dealings. And the revenge is just on the plus side.

What he did was wrong and what you did was wrong. Need I play that cliche? And I know you didn't get any satisfaction out of what you did because in the end, his actions and your hurt feelings remained.

You did the right thing for the wrong reasons.

Ahhhamamahahahahahhhaaa!

get 'em, b*tch! LMAO

look, the 9th Commandment says, thou shalt not bear false witness.

if you told the truth, then you're good.

i wouldn't have personally done it. mostly because if he traced it back to me snitching, i wouldn't want it to get drawn out into some nasty mess (ie, slashed tired, throwin' folks mama off the front porch, etc.).

when i'm done with a relationship, i'm done, you know.
plus, i wouldn't have let him walk all over me for so long.he would've been dumped the first time he f*cked over me.

but what you did was FUNNY. that mutha-f*cka is going down!!!!LMAO

I still don't understand why you were OK with this while you were dating as I said above it doesn't suddenly make you an upstanding citizen because you turned him in. If you were truly an honest person than you never would have been OK with this when you were a couple, you would have stepped up to the plate and addressed it before you become the women scorned (thanks POP).

I think what you did was pretty awesome.

He sounds like a moron that had it coming to him.

You just PLAYED yourself! Do you really think that if this gets dragged out the way you want it to that he won't figure out who ratted him out? You went so far as to tell them things that he personally told you so I'm pretty sure he can put 2 & 2 together! I hope for your safety that his "side business" doesn't include any shady characters because YOU may be looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life! You sure as hell didn't report him for the good of the people so you can keep that bull. By being with this man and knowing what he does you were just as bad as him and you would STILL be with him if he didn't play you like a fool. You accepted being in a relationship with someone who is a low down dirty man who cheated on you multiple times and you even got pregnant by him so clearly you accepted who he was. Don't play stupid either because if the IRS finds out that YOU benefited in any way from his illegal business you could share some blame also! So in the future instead of playing yourself, don't get with a man who scams the IRS with his "side business". Don't stay with a man who cheats on you over and over again! I just really hope this man isn't as shady as he sounds because a lot of "money driven" people would do anything to get the last revenge!

ElizabethRae = totally right on

You should have reported him earlier.

Also, you should have left him earlier. If a guy is cheating on you (especially consistently), LEAVE HIM. Why don't some people do this?

Hotstuff Thank God someone else is thinking.

Nope. He deserved what he got.

Is this a real post?

Absolutely not. Of course, you shouldn't have stayed with him when he was cheating, but that's just a lesson you've hopefully learned. Informing the IRS of his illegal activities is not just about revenge...I strongly believe ANYONE that isn't paying taxes should be reprimanded...We all do it, who do they think they are? Of course, your decision was driven by revenge, but it still pushed you to do the right thing, and as a citizen, I appreciate it!

You should have reported him earlier.

Why? she was too busy making excuses, hence staying with him.

you did the right thing-once an ass always an ass-leopards don't change their spots-he got what he deserved