You’ve been with your current boyfriend for just over a year, and although you do love him, times have been rough recently. He’s been going through a difficult period after an unexpected loss in his family that’s really taken a toll on your relationship. You’re actually relieved to have some time to yourself when he heads to Vegas for a guys' weekend.
You're completely shocked when you get a phone call in the middle of the night from your boyfriend — he’s calling collect from jail. It turns out that he and his friends decided it would be fun to sneak into one of the nicer hotel pools after hours and steal drinks from the bar. You’re completely shocked at his immaturity, but he’s begging you to help bail him out. He sounds really upset, but then again, so are you. How would you handle this?
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I would have been in the pool with him.
1well if this hypothetical situation included my husband (who was my bf at one point), no matter how angry and disappointed i am, id def bail him out.
2I would do it for my man. He's my guy, and I love him a lot.
3If I was in a sticky situation he would do the same for me.
We all have our ups and downs and being there for each other and supporting each other is what makes you stronger as a couple.
4I would bail him out and I could see my BF actually doing this!
LOL
5Um, I think its a huge turnoff when a supposedly grown man acts like a 12 year old.
Id leave his ass there.
But then, thats just me...
6I would tell him to call his parents.
7I would kinda expect something like this from a younger guy.
8However, I usually date them a bit older. I'd say around late twenties to early thirties... If he's still up to these shanangins, then I have no choice, but to shame the hell out of him!
haha, cubadog, that's what I was going to say. I'd tell him to call his mother, because I sure the hell am not dating some punkass kid.
9i'd bail him out. people make mistakes and do stupid things they wouldn't do normally.
i would hate to be a guy with a girl so uptight that she can't just relax and deal with it. i'd still tell him he really f*cked up, but good people just do silly things sometimes.
10I would bail him out and we would have a good laugh.
11Bail him out and then give him hell, and, a few weeks later, turn it into a story I'd use to relentlessly mock him (lovingly, of course) every chance I get!
12Good friends stay with you through thick and thin. A good friend would be there for you no matter what, and wouldnt judge you for making a mistake.
13i would tell that loser to to find his own effing way out and not to call you ever again...may sound harsh but TRUST me, if your boyfriend is stealing beers from a hotel and getting arrested in the act it won't work out anyways. besides if he's dumb enough to get caught he deserves to sit in jail.
14everybody makes mistakes..and I am no one to judge myself. So, I'd bail him out and laugh it off.
15If my late-20s years old boyfriend (crazy grammar, I know) broke into a hotel pool and stole alcohol and got arrested, I wouldn't bail him out. I would laugh and say I'm sorry my love, but you made your bed on this one.
16Just because I wouldn't bail him out doesn't mean I would scream at him or dump him... I just wouldn't bail him out!
It's not like he got arrested for murder or rape. And, there are mitigating circumstances, considering he's still reeling from a death in the family.
I *would* bail him out - but I'd first make him promise to commit to some therapy to find a more productive, mature way to deal with his grief.
17If my boyfriend went to vegas I would be with him!! Not only would I want to be- but I think he would want me to go with him- I really do...but if he went alone and got arrested etc...I would bail him if I had the money.or I would probably USE HIS MONEY TO BAIL HIM OUT. And even then he would kinda always owe me big!!
18what?
i don't accept collect calls. . .
his a*s would've been stranded.
you think i'm gonna bail your stupid a*s out of jail when you did something like a f*ckin' high schooler????
you know you can't f*ck around in Vegas.
19I live in L.A.
so you want me get out of my bed and drive up the f*ckin' Cajon pass, not to mention fill my car with gas, go to an ATM at night and get money to get YOUR a*s?? AND drive all the way back to L.A with your sorry a*s talking about how sorry you are and how you're gonna pay me back??????
you MUST have life f*cked up!
20i'd leave him in the jail-if my boyfriend did a 180 and did that, he probably needs to spend some time in there to figure things out. after he'd get out, i would then discuss a few things with him. no matter what the loss is, that's not an excuse for an adult to act like a complete f*cktard.
21First of all, I would die of shock if my oh-so straight and narrow boyfriend ever got arrested. Or went to Vegas. Of the two of us, it would WAY more likely be me making that phone call than him lol.
22I'd take the Jude C approach - bail him out, yell at him, then later, mock him, particularly as he served whatever community service or whatever he needed to do. Let's just hope this is a rare lapse in judgment. Obviously if not so rare, then that would have more serious ramifications on the relationship.
23I'd be totally annoyed by this and I certainly wouldn't be rushing to bail him out. Immaturity isn't a turn-on to me.
24yay emalove! i so totally agree!
25i'd laugh and think it was a prank..then tell him to call his parents as well...if my boyf had an unexpected loss in the family he would probably get arrested but not for stealing drinks from a hotel bar!!!
26I would bail him out after a few hours of time. Let him think about his dumb choices.
27HA! Been there...bail him out and don't let him forget about it.
28I agree with those who wouldn't bail him out. I'd tell him to call his parents or something. I don't think hitting a rough spot in your life is an excuse to act like an idiot.
29Been there... boys will be boys. Bail him out.
30I'm not up for immature pranks whatever the reason........ id leave his a$$ there.
31I'd bail him out with HIS money.
32Melizzle:
"Been there... boys will be boys. Bail him out."
yes. boys will be boys. but i don't deal with children. i date grown men.
boys do stuff like that when they are in high school and on spring break.
even in high school i didn't date the guy who ran with the crowd of ding-a-lins. my BF was trying to get scholarships, so he knew he couldn't f*ck around.
so i just don't understand the concept of accepting a man who does stupid sh*t. (shakes head)
33I will never bail a man out of jail. If I got arrested, my man is not the person I would call. I would call my parents. I had a bf in college who was a huge pot smoker and I always told him don't call me from jail, I did nothing to get you there, I will do nothing to get you out. My money is not for that. Sorry.
34I would help him. For one thing, the crime wasn't as bad as they go, and another thing is that in order for me to be with him for a year, I'd probably be very much devoted and in love.
35I'd make him think I wasn't going to bail him out and make him think about what he did. Hopefully when he gets home he'll realize what a catch you are and try and make it up to you and if not I'd dump his ass.
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