I hate how this act has such a negative connotation to it. It's generally objectified in porn etc and so made out to seem DIRTY. I quite enjoy pleasing my man. What I don't like is him ASKING for it. That makes me a bit uncomfortable. Now TEASING HIM and making him BEG for it is a whole other story!

its just something that brings people close. It means alot to know your guy is smiling from ear to ear because of you and not someone else:)

when it's with the right person, it's amazing.

lol I know what ya mean kiddy* If the guys asks for it, it's usually, 'hey, wanna suck my d***?' and that, to me, is what makes it sound nasty or dirty., and sounds desparate too. HINT; hey guys, you really don't have to 'ask' for it....that is unless you have a woman who loathes doing it to you....but anyway, most of us hate it when y'all ask that way. Just let it happen...btw I'm confident and enjoy every minute of it

i have a strict rule of if i give, he gives; if he asks or does the head push thing (anyone else get that?), he doesn't get it for a long time.

i'm confident and enjoy every minute of it.......

hey boxem: that head push thing is a big no-no for most of us. the kerner article-link has a tip that helps prevent it, and it works (in my experience). if any of you find it doesn't work, stop what you're doing & try saying "uh-uh, mister. there's a lot of things you can do with your hands, but that's not one them. now, shall i resume?" if you like a more straightforward approach & communication is good with your fella, tell him that makes you very uncomfortable but want to know what it is that it does for him, so you can figure out a way to meet that need without the pushing . . . as there won't be anymore pushing.

Most women I know do not have a problem "giving" as it was so delicately put, myself included. However, I do have one friend who has said that she never (NEVER) gives her BF a BJ because she thinks of BJs as a "one night stand thing". I've always personally thought that was really weird. I think due to the intimacy level involved I could see someone NOT wanting to do it during a one night stand. So my question is - does anyone else feel like she does or know of anyone else who does? I'd just like to know their reasoning because ever time I ask her all I get is a "I dunno" or something to that affect.

SuprGr: That's an interesting question. Curious to find out what the ladies here say. A very good number of the women I know actually try to skirt oral sex during casual encounters, as they think of that as a particularly intimate and important part of the whole sexual communication thing.

Well, I have heard that girls think of it as not EXACTLY having sex. I remember in High School that girls would give a BJ instead of "going all the way". It was kind of like a way to do it without DOING it. Once past that age tho, I don't think it holds the same. Just my two cents...

I think it's really intimate too, but I guess everyone is different. I personally wouldn't do that to someone I didn't know. Oh and the 'push' thing, why do guys do that!!!!!?
I know I can't stand it! I don't have to deal with that anymore because my husband totally understands me, but in my past I've encountered that and I was like, 'dude, I was on my way there, ya know I've got to get worked up enough too to want to go down there~what's the rush!' It's usually the more inexperienced guys that do that anyway, almost like they think it's what they are suppose to do cause that's what that 'guy on the porn movie did dawg!'

I never really "enjoy" this per say but I do it most times that he wants it. For one I have a small mouth so it's not always physically comfortable. For another I think this "act" requires you to be in just a certain kind of mood and you can't force that. I don't really think this poll represents what most women think. I think a lot of women don't consider this their favorite thing but somewhere along the line guys got to just expect it and I don't mind doing it if it's what he needs. As long as he reciprocates;)

I really enjoy it.

I only do it to make him happy, even then I just don't like it. Frankly, whenever I do I get that feeling when you accidentally brush your tongue with your toothbrush, and it makes me want to gag. Sorry if that's too graphic but that's just me.

I love doing it for him, and I love making it part of foreplay...amazing how he can suddenly get aroused and "grow" in my mouth LOL TMI I know but its just so cute and it sort of has the texture of marshmallow before he gets hard... I only hate to swallow cos it tastes awful!!!!!!!!!

I enjoy almost anything with my Husband.

I don't like it, but I'll do it. My lips always start to get raw, and my jaw muscles begin to hurt. This just adds to the unpleasantness, so I jsut try to avoid it.

i feel the same way that a lot of people feel: it hurts really bad. it hurts my jaw because it has to be locked out for 20 minutes, it hurts my lips because i'm trying to shield my teeth from his thingy so i don't hurt him, it hurts my neck and back because of the position he likes to be in (laying down), my feet and legs start to go numb because i have to be sitting awkwardly, and i start to gag if i get too deep. the thing is, i try to do more than the bob up and down thing, like licking like crazy and being sexy. but he doesn't like that as much. he wants me to work it up and down really fast so that he can orgasm, whereas i would rather (and like to) do it to get him wanting intercourse. he gets mad because when i get oral sex, i always orgasm and when he gets oral sex, it's as a primer for intercourse. i feel so bad because it's not that i hate giving it, it's just that i feel he doesn't like it because it's not leading to him orgasming.

and don't give me that whole, "when it's with the right person, it can be great!" so my "right" guy then, according to this logic, has a small penis (probably two, three inches long and one and 1/2 inch in diameter in order to be comfortable) and doesn't like to orgasm. yeah, that's not happening. try walking around with your jaw completely locked out for 20 or more minutes and you tell me how comfortable that is. i really do love him and want to make him happy and satisfied, but i also want to enjoy what i'm doing. if i knew he hated giving my oral sex because it hurt him or he wasn't getting any pleasure from giving me pleasure, i would want him to stop.

katie225, I don't think anyone should do anything sexually that they dislike as much as you seem to dislike performing oral sex. There are plenty of other ways to give pleasure, so do those instead.

I'm confident and love it too gives me a sense of empowerment in a way... hehe.. i just love the fact that i know i'm in control and that i'm rocking his world for those minutes... oh, and teasing him is the best part! there's nothing wrong with a little playful suffering, as long as you deliver the goods in the end, of course!

I don't mind giving it at all. I like doing stuff that makes my man happy. And he's the same way, he likes doing stuff that makes me happy. It's obviously something that not everyone does or likes, but I don't mind because it's with the man I love

Brooke Shields, during an interview to become spokesperson for a federal anti-smoking campaign
Smoking kills. If you're killed, you've lost a very important part of your life.

That was suppose to be my signature thing, sorry about that....

i dont mind it, but i'd rather get mine first... or at the same time! cause with men, sometimes once he's done, he's done. lol

I feel akward sometimes b/c I know he's had it many, many, many times before he met me and I always wonder how I compare.

I've only given once... But from his response I did a very good job... It was so funny cuz afterwards when I told him it was my 1st time he didn't believe me... eventually he accepted it was my first time and he said, " You were a champ!" and gave me a high 5.... haha... I love that man b/c he is crazy....

I'm a guy and my oral sex life is nonexistent.

Rocky

I find that pleasing him gets me excited for more.