It seems we've hit our first disagreement as Newlyweds.

This is the short version:

1) His mom agreed to pay for the traditional groom responsibilities (some of the flowers and the groom's cake), and told my mom just to send her the total. Which my mom did...

2) We opened a few of the cards from the wedding before we went on our honeymoon, and a few of them had cash in them, which I put in my wallet (but did not spend on the honeymoon). I THINK I wrote on the outside of each envelope the amount of the gift.

3) My mom told his mom just to make the check payable to me, since the money for the flowers and cakes had come out of my savings account.

4) My husband calls me today and asks me if I knew about the email my mom sent his mom....I said yes, I knew his mom had wanted us to give her a total...he read off to me what was itemized on the total...then made some comment about the check being made out to me...then said he was going to deposit it in our "joint account" (which to my knowledge, we don't have yet) and keep a large portion of it for himself....then he snickered and said he was kidding.

5) Then he said his dad asked him if we'd gotten a lot of money at the wedding...he told him that no, we didn't, and his dad said he'd started to TAKE OFF HIS SHOE AND PASS IT AROUND...to which I replied, "Thank GOD he didn't" which kinda made hubby upset...and he went off about how our wedding was the first one where there was no hat/purse/shoe passed around for the guests to put money in - then he indicated that he had been a little irritated about that but hadn't said anything.

6) Then he asked me if I'd kept a record of how much money we'd gotten in cards...which, honestly, I haven't. At various showers, we've kept a list of all the gifts, but most of the money was in the cards we opened. I told him yes (which is probably a mistake).

So now I have a dilemma. I have spent some of the cash. But not much, and I'm not really sure what I spent it on. He will FLIP out if I tell him that. He's extremely tight when it comes to finances, and if this topic comes up again, how should I handle it? We've had some pretty heated discussions before about money; but we weren't married back then. I know money is one of the main sources of arguments in marriages, so if any of you married girls want to offer advice or share how you handled a similar situation, that would be great.

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