I think you don't have to worry about anything! I'm sure the business will be successful and you'll brush off your insecurities.

I agree w/ almost famous that you shouldn't worry too much espeically that since your bf and his bro are just backing it up financially, I don't think he'll be around strippers all day unless he wants to be on hand about the whole thing.
If anything, I'd be more concerned about the success of the business (you don't want him losing money, you want him to gain money) rather than him being around strippers.

Are there a lot of competition there, because over where I live, they call it the capital city of strip clubs since there is one in every corner. We even have a vegan strip club here, their motto: we put the meat on the stage!

You're getting WAY ahead of yourself here. Your boyfriend's friend MIGHT own a bar or strip club. Then he MIGHT ask your boyfriend to invest with him. Then your boyfriend MIGHT say yes.

Guys like to dream. They all want to own their own businesses, especially bars. Very few actually get the financial backing they need to make it happen.

So instead of freaking yourself out about what MIGHT happen, wait until the business plan has been written and your boyfriend has been asked to write a check. Then, and only if you're engaged or married, your first concern should be the financial risk involved. If you're not engaged or married, it's none of your business, really.

I disagree. I would feel insecure as well and well why not. Ur boyfriend is considering opening up a place for people to olge other girls. Now it depends on how close u guys are and how much you trust him. If you genereally have the same morals and values and he's never given u reason to untrust him then wait and see what happens. like the others said it might not even happen. If you are feel a bit insecure though or are having doubts be upfront and honest with him about it.

It would be a deal breaker for me to be with someone who would invest in this type of establishment. Forget the insecurities about the possibility of being around chicks all day... I believe you vote with how you spend your money (profitable investment or not).

i don't think you have to be too worried. my close guy friend owned a strip club for a few years, and he was very professional about it. some owners like to do drugs with the strippers and everything like that, i've heard.. but if he's got his values straight, he'll own it and nothing more. you know what kind of guy he is. most people i've known who staff strip clubs have actually learned that strippers are only there for the money, not for sex. it's their job and most of them treat it like it is.

this is just what i've heard and my opinion..

i think the most important thing is following your gut instinct and your morals!

I think you should wait to see what happens. A lot of people talk big on things like this and wind up never going through with them.
But if they do decide for sure to go in together on something like that, you have every right to feel uneasy about it. A lot of women would feel insecure with her boyfriend owning a strip club. If it were me, it'd be a deal breaker. I mean can you picture taking your boyfriend to your company dinner and when people ask what he does the message you'll be sending when you tell them what he does. Yikes = /
So you just have to decide for yourself how this club will affect your life by being with the owner. But like I said...this may not even materialize...so don't stress just yet.

I agree with almostfamous and aeschere, there's nothing inherently dodgy about investing in a strip club. I'd be more worried about whether or not it would be financially viable.

Many people hold the belief that strippers are all immoral skanks who like nothing more than to get in every man's pants, but like aeschere said, most strippers just do it for the money and because of the nature of the job and the need to establish and retain their dignity and self-respect, they'll adhere to standards of professionalism even more strictly than your average office secretary.

If you feel that you have real reason to worry about your guy straying just because the opportunity is there, then I'd say it's not just the strippers you need to worry about.

If I were you, I'd just have fun with it! There are probably some great perks to having a boyfriend who owns a bar, and I'd probably end up trying to learn a few things from the strippers themselves.

I admit I wouldn't be excited if my boyfriend decided to invest in strip clubs. I think that I need to feel that we're aligned in what we want to support in this world. I wouldn't worry about his access to strippers so much as what it meant about what he values.

I, personally, wouldn't be able to stay with someone who owned a strip club. Moral beliefs aside, strip clubs just bring trouble. There are two strip clubs in a nearby neighborhood, and BOTH have experienced major fires within the past 6 months. One was just a case of someone not putting out a cigarette, but in the other incident, a patron was kicked out for taking pictures of the strippers and then came back with a tank of gasoline and set a bartender ON FIRE to get revenge. I'm sorry, but I don't need situations like that in my life.

Ok, one argument is that it's just business. This is the argument your bf will probably say to you. Money is money is money, and the business is definitely lucrative.

However, what it really comes down to is you and him butting heads over morals and lifestyles. We shouldn't choose our bf's over what job they have, but when that job is attached to morals we don't agree with, that's a big problem. I'm not sure it's a dealbreaker at the moment but you should wait and feel it out.

I agree with popgoestheworld. I dont think I would be comfortable with this, not so much because I dont trust him. But more because Ive known guys who own clubs, or do promotions for clubs and whatnot. And generally...they are all the same kind of guy...very pompous and self absorbed womanizers...But thats just from my own personal experience...and I dont actually know your BF so I cant really judge him.

I believe that if life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade. And try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.-Ron White

Tough one.

On the one hand, I would object on grounds of exploitation of women. And since I have teen girls, this is not the type of role model I'd want for them.

On the other hand, the economy is tanking fast, and the reality is that this is probably a safe investment. Sex, alcohol, cigarettes... these "sin" items tend to do marvelously well when the economy is struggling.

If you and your bf believe desparate times make for desparate measures, then it may not be a bad investment.

Or perhaps your bf could put his $ into the Green economy? To invest in solutions for global warming and finding alternatives to oil?

Anyway... you see where I'm going with this. Ask your bf why he's doing this. It may be that he has valid worries about the economy and where to put his money over the next few years. He's not the only one.

Alright. On one hand, any worries you feel about your boyfriend investing in a stripclub should be listened to. It's not a very comfortable notion, to think that the one you love wants to invest in pasties.

But I would also look at your boyfriend's investment as a chance for you to vicariously help women. Stick with him, and maybe you can guide his policies from behind the scenes to be as woman-friendly as possible considering the tough situation that many of those women have to endure.

in my personal experience (no, i've never been a striper), strip clubs and bars aren't really an easy business. it's not easy money like your honey and his bro are thinking.

who is the demographic and what is the draw?

i've co-owned a bar before, and it was great for a while. but you do see the shift in the patrons when the economy gets sticky. you pay for more for the beer deliveries and utilities than you make profits.

he would have to be there 24/7, not just be a silent investor. or else they are really gonna have some issues poppin' off. especially when it comes to the business of wrangling strippers.

it really depends on your relationship. if you are so insecure about his intentions and what will happen, you should really reassess the relationship period. Trust can't be conditional. And if he is to be successful, then he can't do anything with the workers there anyways. And when women work in places like that or in clubs/bars, they take to the owners like bodyguards and big brothers. They end up having a very good PROFESSIONAL relationship of protection (like a big teddy bear!) and security, but the women never look at the owners in that way. And plus you could have a presence there too and be respected. Don't think that just b/c a woman strips for a living that she is going to try to be all over your man. MANY of them have husbands/boyfriends/girlfriends and their work is just work!

So give your man the trust that it seems he deserves. Otherwise it will put a rift in the relationship and that will inevitably cause resentment and lead to betrayal or outright separation. That's what will cause men to leave, when their partner becomes clingy and unable to trust them from the presence of another woman. So be confident and supporting!

I would be more worried about his ethics - making money off women who have to do all of the hussling?

lol. i agree with corona528.

when business gets bad, he's gonna put you up on the poles. work it girl. make your man some money.

see, 'cause when that happens, you'll be back on here asking us what you should do.

all the hard b*tches are gonna tell you to get out now.

and all of the softies are gonna tell you to love your man and support him, because you would want him to support you.

so you might as well skip all of that, and order a year's supply of Astro-Glide.

I have been around strip clubs and know people who own them and it's a shady business. I would only be worried about that.

I think you should be up front with him & tell him that you are a little insecure about it. Ultimately the decision in his. It may not even happen so don't keep bringing it up to him. On the other hand if it does happen this will be a major part of his life even if he says he is not going to have much to do with it. If times get tough if the business & they need staff he will be working & spending time in the strip club. Then you will need to figure out if you are going to stick around with your BF. Good luck!

i wouldnt be too worried about the strippers. one of my best friends is one, and ive met a lot of the girls she works with. theyre all decent women just trying to make a living.

Sorry, but I disagree with the last post. I have known a couple of strippers, and they also ran a private 'rub and tug'service on the side. Some of them are also hookers. I would understand your concerns about it. Just be upfront with your bf about how you feel about it.

I am a real estate agent specialized in selling these kind of club and let me tell you they make lots of money, but back to your concern once your boyfriend buy a strip club you will loose him for sure all club owners will find that super hot girl working in to club and if you know us we can’t keep our hands off for long that is, he'll probably be strong for a month maybe a year ,but how long can he hold on, maybe the same day he takes over but the truth is that he will, its the atmosphere in those clubs and human natural , now that being said maybe you can keep an eye on him if you were working there as a manager or something.

If he plan to cheat he'll go crazy if a mention of you working there coming up, but at that time you'll realize that he is not the one, none of the club owners are it a total different life style then the one you want I am sure of it.

now not to be fun tell me the deal on the club and I'll sell it to someone else so your boy friend can't buy it L.O.L. Ghassan Yacoub at RE/MAX GRANDE 800-952-4111

but what I told you is what I see happen to all new club owners.

I hope everything works out for your.