It’s happened to all of us, right? You meet a great guy, and although you’re not attracted to him like that, you just adore him as a friend. Then suddenly, you get the vibe that he's feeling a bit more than friendly towards you. You want to nip any fantasies he might be having about the two of you in the bud but you don’t want things to be weird. Though some might say you can’t be friends with him if he’s into you, in most cases I beg to differ. To check out my tips on how to handle a situation like this, read more.
- Unless he comes out and says that he’s into you, don’t directly say that you’re not into him. This will only create a horribly awkward moment, and make him feel embarrassed and emasculated.
- That said, you do want to make sure that he understands that you aren’t considering him for any romantic openings in your life. If you have a boyfriend, mention him, but don’t go on and on about him. If you’re single, stay away from topics like sex and past relationships. They’ll undoubtedly send the wrong signal.
- If he does refer to his feelings or the possibility of you guys being together, I would recommend the joking reply, like “oh we’d never work. I’m way too argumentative for you.” Keep it lighthearted, and change the subject ASAP.
- Most importantly, if you don’t want things to get awkward then don’t let them.
Unless he’s desperately in love with you, these tricks should work. And if he is in love with you, it couldn't hurt to consider him!
Juicy Couture
Pilgrim
Galeries Lafayette
This is great advice, since I'm leaning towards more guy friends than female...
1I did this recently with a guy that told me he likes me. I kindly told him that I had a BF but that we could still be friends.
2Great advice Dear. I've had to use these tips before.
3great tips
4man, I wish I would have known this a while ago. I used to have a really good guy friend, we hung out all the time. I could always kinda tell that he liked me more than that, but it never really came up...until he just tried to kiss me. It made for a horribly awkward moment, and after that we didnt really talk very much anymore. Now we dont talk at all.
5Too bad I didn't consider this earlier.. I've lost a few possible friends this way :[
6Too bad I didn't consider this earlier.. I've lost a few possible friends this way :[
7GREAT POST
8Great post, I have some really great guy friends. This was right on the money.
9I think you can be as direct as you want, it just depends on the person you're talking to:
i have a friend whom i met during college that wound up liking me. nothing was said in regards to that, but i could tell because of the little things he would do for me-fixing my computer, practicing instruments together, walking to DND together, etc.. once i realized what i was going on i nipped it in the bud by saying "i know you like me, but i dont like you that way." he seemed to be pretty cool about it and we're still good friends (that was 3yrs ago).
10Great tips! I've been in awkward situations like this even with a boyfriend...
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