No way. I could never go thru all of that for another person. Sorry.

No way! I don't want a baby of my own why would I have a baby for someone else.

I have a friend who's a surrogate right now. She has children of her own and did this for another couple because she loves being pregnant (she's one of THOSE girls!). Anyway, this topic of if I could do it has come up a lot lately. While I don't think I would be able to do this for a stranger (as my friend is doing, although they're not strangers anymore), but I would do it for my sister, my sister-in-law and/or my BFF. I'm not a mom, so I can only imagine the bond between any baby and it's mother is pretty strong. If I knew I would see this child on a regular basis, then I think it wouldn't be so bad. If I were to give it up at the end of 9 months, and possibly never she it again, I can imagine it would be pretty tough.

Absolutely not. Pregnancy sounds like the worst thing in the world. No way would I give up 9 months of my life for someone else.

The only person in the world I'd do this for is my sister.

I have no children of my own yet- I would have a hard time doing it before I have had my own. But after, if my brother was married and they asked me I would do it or possibly one of my life long girlfriends. But it would have to be for someone I knew I would be close to forever. My mom enjoyed being pregnant and considered being a surrogate, but by the time she had me at 30 and she still wasnt sure she was done having her own children yet by the time she did decide no more kids she was 35 and she didnt think it was a good idea anymore.

I wouldn't want to. I have a chronic disease.

YES..because it is selfless and I am not selfish. Having a baby is a wonderful blessing and many women want that. Can you imagine "wanting" a baby so much and not being physically able? that is the worst feeling in the world...how do I know??? because my sister..who is my best friend...is going through that right now...and we have discussed this. YES I WOULD BE WILLING WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT!!!

No. It would never happen.

As much as I wish I could, I wouldn't be able to part with the child; I would want to raise any child I birth and I don't believe that I could just hand the child over easily.

If I had a sister (I'm an only child) I would definitely do it for her; or if I had a sister in-law. I could do it then because I would be around the child as they grow-up and see them raised. I would be an aunt and could always be a part of the child's life; which wouldn't happen if it was a stranger or a friend that lived away.

I would do it, for anyone. I loved being pregnant! I'd probably even supply some breastmilk too I've thought about this and donating eggs. I couldnt imagine going through life without my children, so for someone that wants kids but can't have them on their own, yea, I could do it for them.

The only person I'd do it for is my sister. Nobody else.

I would be happy to do it for my sister.

It would really, really depend on who it was for and what the reasoning behind it was.

i would, but not as my first pregnancy.. i want my body to change for me first... and then taking off work and stuff would be tough to figure out. but i definitely would for someone very close to me.

I am also one of "those women" ((quoting an earlier post)) who absolutely loves being pregnant.

And I can say, unequivocally, no; I would never ever be able to serve as another woman's surrogate, regardless of her relationship to me.

It is not because I wouldn't be willing to go through all of the difficulties of pregnancy for another woman. I couldn't do it because I would never, under any circumstances, be willing to part with my baby. (I don't care whose eggs they are; if I am pregnant, then I *will* form an intense, unbreakable motherly bond with the baby.)

I have suffered a miscarriage. There is nothing in my life that I have ever wanted more than to have my baby back. I couldn't willingly give one of my children away, even to someone that I dearly love.

This question does not really apply to me, though. No one would ask me to be a surrogate. I've had four (medically necessary) c-sections. I don't know if I can safely have another. Also, I have suffered from secondary infertility, so I cannot conceive very easily or very quickly.

But even if I could easily conceive and safely deliver a baby, the answer would remain, "I'm sorry, but no." I keep my babies, all of them.

NO. However, I have mentioned before that I wouldn't mind hiring a surrogate. I'm pretty selfish, and I don't know how committed I can be to having a baby inside of me for 9-10 months, but if I had the money, I would probably hire one.

On the other hand, I have considered donating eggs because I don't necessarily want mine...Unfortunately, the drugs and harmful things that have to be done to me (i.e. invasive surgery) have been turn-offs.

i'd do it for one of my sisters

I think I'd do it for my best friend, if she really, really wanted me to. She's like a sister to me, so I'd probably do it.

I used to dream of doing this for someone some day. But as I got older and had my own children and the pregnancies were hard on me, I realized it wouldn't be a good idea. It was always something I wanted to do though.

I always said I would do it for my sister because we didn't think she could have children for the longest time. She unexpectidly got pregnant last year and had her little Jackson in December and he is the cutest little boy!! I think for the right price and for the right person, I would do it.

I'd do it only for the right person. I had an easy pregnancy, so I don't have any qualm of getting pregnant again...except for the stretch marks

I'd only do it for two people: my sister, or my best friend. And my sister's capable of having her own babies, but my best friend had cancer and can't have kids now. I would do it for her in a heartbeat.

If it was someone close to me, like my sisters or best friend. I would do it in a heartbeat. My sister has been trying to get pregnant for years and I see the pain it causes her. If she came to me, there is no way I could say no.

I'd do it for anyone. Anyone. Just to see the look on their face when I send them home with that little baby that they'd always dreamed of, the answer to their prayers, the long, hard road of IVF and failed pregnancies, and finally a child has come from it? Oh god, how I'd love to be part of that. It would be every bit worth it.

Absolutely not. Not because of being selfish, or not wanting my body to change...but not wanting to help someone else cheat Mother Nature.

See, I believe that everything is the way it is for a reason. Many women cannot get pregnant...and I know, it's extremely painful and disappointing, to say the least. But to sit there and to go through all of these invasive and illogical procedures to try and get pregnant ANYWAY? Seems unethical to me.

There are so many babies and children out there with no families whatsoever, having their hearts broken every time they bounce from home to home because they feel as though no one wants them. I was one of them.

And then all these women can think about it is, "But I want a child with MY genes and characteristics!" Unforgiveable.

Masqueraded_Angel, I'm with you 100%

A resounding NO!

On the ethics side:
The world is overpopulated enough as it is. And there are so many children without loving parents. And here's a doozy for those who believe human life starts at conception - more embryos will be fertilized than actually implanted. Yes, some will be destroyed. So if you think embryos = babies, then well, IVF kills babies.

Then there's the very real possibility of a franken-litter being created (not entirely uncommon when artificial fertility treatments are involved). If you end up with quintuplets, either some have to be aborted to give one or two of them a decent shot at being born healthy, or good luck with paying the medical bills of five sickly children and let's also hope the surrogate doesn't die from having to birth so freakin' many at a time.

Who gets to decide if it comes down to a "either save the surrogate's life or the baby's, not both" kind of deal? I'm just now starting to wonder about that.

And if the reason someone is infertile is because of illnesses, then wow, way to ensure that the genetic illnesses get passed down to some poor kid who never asked for it. Or, even if the illnesses are not genetic... way to up the chance that the kid will be an orphan before reaching adulthood.

Sorry, but disappointment and sadness at being infertile does not trump all those things.

Besides the questionable ethics, you rip apart both inside and outside of your vagina when you do the whole "pass a watermelon through a garden hose" thing. That gives me pause much more than the stretch marks and the bloating, although those are also unpleasant.

This is all too "Handmaid's Tale" to me. If this keeps up, some day the world will be full of people who inherited the infertile gene from their biological parents, and they'd want badly to make their own DNA replicants, too, because their heads would have been filled from birth with how it's something they MUST do. Then those who are still fertile will be pressed into walking womb slavery.

I would, though not just for any person. For a friend or family member.

if im qoinq to qo through pregnancy for 9 months im sorry it has to be for me, it may sound selfish but they dont have to put on weight and then have to lose it when the baby is born and they dont have to experience changes with their body and emotions, i just couldnt do it

I think it's great that other women do this, but I don't ever want to be pregnant!

I would consider doing it for my sisters after i have had children of my own. It would be very hard to give up the baby but at least i would always be in their life.

looseseal I loved your post and the one above it! and no I could never do this because I agree with that too that there are so many children in the world without loving families why not bring one in and give them one!?

I dunno!
That's a toughie!

I think I would be okay with it if I had my own kids already and went through the whole pregnency thing.

I don't think that wanting biological children makes you an unethical person who is supporting overpopulation. By that logic, anyone who gets pregnant without first adopting all the world's orphans is doing something bad.

Someone who wants biological children but can't have them isn't less ethical than someone who can.

In any case, I feel like I would do this for maybe 1 or 2 of my friends, and my sister. But my sister has already had a child so my guess is it won't be necessary.

I lost the ability to have kids when I was 19. I would do it in a heart beat only because I know of so many people that are willing to do it for me whenever I am ready to have my own kids. It is heart breaking for me because I would love to know what it is like to be pregnant, but it would also kill me to not ever have a child of my own.

i couldnt do it...i cant even foster a kitten without getting overly attached!

i couldnt do it...i cant even foster a kitten without getting overly attached!

My old boss asked me to do this for her and I told her for no amount of money would I be a surrogate.

I would only ever do it for my sister. I love her so much and would do anything I could to make her happy. If she ever needed this, I would be happy to help her. Otherwise, not a chance, not even for money. As much as I love my friends, it is way too much of a sacrifice to make.

I would only do it for someone extremely close to me like my sister.

Wanting bio children isn't that bad in itself, maybe a tad bit vain, but hey, no biggie, it is a rare person who doesn't have any vanity.

When someone is so enamored with their DNA that they pretty much become obsessed with the idea of creating their DNA replicants, to the point of spending boatloads of money, cheating nature and turning a blind eye to all the inherent risks, that's... really something else.

I'm kind of disappointed that my boobs aren't that big, but I'm not gonna get a boob job. Not that getting a boob job would make me EVIL or something, it just seems wasteful and unnecessarily risky to me, to go to such extreme lengths to chase after some ideal that doesn't actually exist. Same principle, really.

I have heard that adoptions can be difficult and time-consuming - but guess what else is difficult and time-consuming? Parenthood.

And I'm sorry, but I'll never understand people wanting to "experience pregnancy". Makes about as much sense to me as someone declaring they want to "experience getting their leg cut off with a bone saw".

the only person i would do it for is my good friend. but unfortunatly i had problems after the birth of my last child and ended up having ablation surgury. so i can't now. if i could find a way for me to still carry a child for her, i would.

I also want to add that in my boob job analogy, at least there's no chance I would be responsible for making a whole new person who have no choice in the matter of whether he/she would be born with genetic problems and/or other assorted surprises that goes with the territory of IVF. So boob job... not as bad as IVF. Just to be clear.

Being that my sisters have 7 kids between them, my answer is no.
I wouldn't do it for anyone else.
Honestly, I don't know if I could do it al all.

At first I thought no way. But if my sister or my best friend asked me to, then I would. But I couldn't do it for money, or for a stranger, I imagine it would be really difficult to hand over a baby and never get to see it again.

looseseal ~

Your declaration that the desire to have biological children is a manifestation of vanity is astoundingly stup!d. (In my opinion, of course.)

So, other than an essentially flawed premise that discolors all conclusions drawn from it, what you wrote was just fine, I s'pose. ((shrugs))

But, again, that's only my opinion.

To each their own.

Honestly, I don't know and don't know how to know.