You're acting like a horrible dirty little you know what!

Ho go home...LOL
Just nasty! Will she be reading this? If so, you're nasty!
Sorry had to just say it.

I have no sympathy for any woman who knowingly sleeps with another womans man. Why the F should it even matter what you or even him wants? What about HER, dont you think that if she knew about you, she would leave his ass? just because you dont want him to leave his wife, doesnt make it ok.

oo u sound so selfish!!!
u dont even love the guy enough to want him all to yourself and stop these games? u want ur cake and eat it too..jeez..if your not completely and madly in love with someone (which still doesnt make it better but at least I would begin to understand) why would u do this?!?!?

"what him wants?" wow...i need to go back to grammar school

UGH!! I think any person that does this is horrible, so I have no sympathy either. Stop it.

Fun and games? Totally not forgive. Homewrecker.

Why is your confession that you don't want him to leave his wife? Shouldn't your confession be that you're having an affair and lying to multiple people to take a few days for "fun and games"? Is Eliot Spitzer not teaching you ANYTHING?

Homewrecker Ho!

Ewww you're gross!

OH LORD, SO NOT FORGIVE. HOW IN THE HELL IS ANY OF THIS OKAY ? EITHER IF HE TELLS HER OR NOT, THIS IS ALL WRONG. WOMEN NEED TO STICK UP FOR EACHOTHER AND NOT DO THIS SORT OF THING...IT'S IMMORAL.

awww well rnt u a little saint, how sweet, u dont want him to leave his wife...
ur a wh*re
u dont want him to leave his wife so he wont be a disturbance to ur "marriage"
wh*re wh*re wh*re

I'm not sure what we're being asked to forgive here - that you're having an affair, or that you don't want him to leave his wife? It sounds like we're bing asked to forgive or not forgive the fact that you don't want him to leave his wife for you. Who the hell cares?! You're having an affair! Either way, unforgivable. Ho bag!

Wow, you're a sad person. Your mother should be proud! I don't think you should be forgiven. Especially since I can't figure out WHAT exactly you want to be forgiven for? Making it worse? It's not like you were saying........"I had an affair and went away with him, he wants to leave his wife, I want to end this immediately and I feel bad, should I be forgiven?"

WTF???!!! What kind of sh*t are you on?

Wow, talk about having absolutely no respect for anyone else or the institution of marriage. If you and this guy were madly in love, blah blah blah, I might be able to dig up some measure of under- standing,but to have a sordid little affair with a guy you don't even really want? What's that about?

Has it occurred to you that you can do exactly the same thing you're doing now with a guy who's single and no one else will be affected by your shallowness? Just a thought.

Im going to come sleep with your husband and take him away for the weekend, and then tell him "ya know its really ok..you dont have to leave your wife" Im sure by me saying that you would be completely ok with the affair, huh? Actually, im sure you probably would be becuase you obviously dont give a sh*t about anyone but yourself

I try really hard to not be harsh in my comments, but this is just insane. I don't care WHAT we're being asked to forgive--the entire situation is absolutely, 100% in NO way forgiveable.
Hi, you are not the only person in the world. Learn that, please. If both of you aren't in open marriages, and from your asking for forgiveness it sure doesn't sound like you are, then why why WHY are you doing this?? So. Disrespectful.

nothing is "fun and games" when cheating spouses are involved. get out immediately, you aren't being fair to anyone in this whole situation. do you want your husband to leave you? do you want to feel guilty all the time? do you want everyone around you to get hurt? probably not. stop.

LOL. I'm in the minority here - Forgive.

Basically, you're screwing him for sport. Nothing more, nothing less.

Just be careful because you're playing with fire. God forbid, you may fall in love with him, or him with you. The lovesick person may try to sabotage the other person's marriage by coming out to the spouse. Are there children involved? Children could be affected.

Also, this is taking place in the workplace? Who's the boss of who? If your shenanigans are found out, there may be professional trouble.

I don't know how good he is in bed, but I truly hope it's worth. You're risking A LOT. There's personal and professional liabilities.

housewrecker! (I got the word from a fellow member)

not forgive. horrible.

This is downright wrong. No way of getting round it or justifying it.

Ugh, what she's done is pretty darn low, but is there any reason to jeer at her "wh*re wh*re wh*re"?? That's disgusting behaviour in my opinion, online or not. I love how perceived moral superiority makes people descend into plain old nastiness.

As for the affair, be VERY careful. There's a lot at stake and it could easily blow up in your face. But I like to think that goes without saying.

Hey guys, I know everyone has strong opinions when it comes to cheating, but as always, do try to keep in mind that there is a real person behind this post with very real feelings.

What exactly are we voting on "forgive or not forgive" for here? The attitude or the actions?

If you want fun and games on the side, there is a moral way and an immoral way to get that.

You can either try to establish an open relationship with your husband, or leave him and establish one with someone else - or, you can just continue sleeping around on him.

Anything is is just cheating and you probably already know that it's wrong and will end up hurting the people around you.

You are playing with fire. You're having an affair with someone in your office which could, potentially, cost you your job. On top of that, you're putting yourself in the position to wreck two marriages and any sort of good reputation you might have. Are there children involved? If so, you really need to think about what your 'fun and games' will do to them if you're found out.

Looks like it's already escalated into something a bit more naughty ... I say end this "relationship" while you can! You don't want to be gossiped about by all your other co-workers; your reputation (or what's left of it, anyway) and marriage are on the line. As for the forgivable/unforgivable options, your confession honestly doesn't sound very remorseful, so I'm going with the latter for the time being. It's never too late to acknowledge the wrongdoings of your actions and to do something about it though.

What the hell? Are you seriously even asking this question? You tell us this story like you two are doing absolutely nothing wrong..."Fun and Games"!?! If you weren't done having these 'fun and games' you shouldn't even be married!

Not forgive, not because you don't want him to leave his wife, but because you're hurting your spouse every time that you do it. I feel really sorry for your husband.

Totally a way of patting herself on the back as a way to ease the guilt.

Why is sexual fidelity so important to all of you? Isn't there a lot more to a relationship than that?

rosey....if this woman was sleeping with ur husband, what would ur sentiments be???

i wonder?

I've been cheated on before Sun_Sun. I never called the woman "wh*re wh*re wh*re" or anything like it. Being hurt doesn't justify stooping that low in my book.

Besides, this woman's situation has NOTHING to do with you or I personally. So it's not the same as asking what *I'd* do if my husband cheated on me. Some people just love to jump at the first chance to judge and belittle others. Especially from the safety of their keyboards.

I think this woman gets the message that the majority don't approve. No need to call her horrible names to communicate your thoughts - most of the other posters managed it just fine. Backing up what you say with rational arguments gets a point across better than semi-coherent insults. I usually just skip posts like that anyway.

What in the Wide World of Crack Wh*res are you talking about?!

LMAO.

i have never heard someone sound so ridiculous.

damn, i understand that sh*t happens (i DO NOT approve of cheating), but you're suppose to ATLEAST pretend to feel guilty about it! LMAO.

let me just say, that you're gonna get caught.

office relationships always leak, some way, some how.

and it's one thing to say you're working late when you're really at the H*-House (the motel), but to take mini-f*ck-fest vacations?!?!?

next thing you know, you'll be on here talking about how you got knocked up by him, and you husband doesn't trust you anymore.

by the way . . .have you heard of this place called Hell. i heard it is hot as . . . well you've heard that one.

NOT FORGIVE! Jeez! Not forgive for not wanting him to leave his wife. NOT FORGIVE for having an affair in the first place! I'd hate to be your husband.

oh, we're suppose to forgive or not forgive?

opps. my bad.

well in that case. I don't care what you do.

but if you mess with my man (or a close friend's), be looking for a Mercedes coming towards you at about 70, maybe 80 MPH. or do you prefer a hammer???

i mean, maint. is already crazy for a Benz, and i don't wanna have to explain the big dent in my car . . .you understand, right?

I really don't see the point of this post.

From what you say you obviously know that what you're doing is bad (in respect to his wife and your husband, providing they're not cheating on you guys, too) yet are not interested in ending the affair.

And chances are you know that people here won't encourage someone who says she's having an affair.

So, do you actually want to know what people think? I don't understand how you can ask for 'forgiveness' since the post is not about the person saying she's doing something wrong; shouldn't this be a 'DearSugar needs your help' post, about whether she should end the affair or talk to him to keep it an affair for instance?

I think it's forgivable as long as you let your husband sleep with his wife Or any woman he wants!

How about just having an OPEN marriage with your husband and he with his wife? BE FAIR, if he got this one free ride w/ you, the least you can do is ask your husband to service his wife, right?

Spouse Swap!!!

Always be sexually protected, by the way, I hate the thought of you guys spreading STI to each other's spouses.

Anyway, I Asia's comment as usual

If I were in that co-worker's wife position...ahh...I have so much repressed anger in me, my spouse will suffer the consequences

P.S. Like Asia said, things LEAK, and if you don't get caught now, you'll get caught later and good luck with that. I just hope I don't have to watch y'all on some People's Court...but wait, maybe I hope so too, it's good entertainment.

This really isnt a forgive or not question. So I picked nothing It just a confession from another website Bad choice but thanks for the effort.

They are both scumbags who are cheating on their spouses so now what....

You are gross! Does anyone believe in marriage vows anymore? How would you like it if some one was sleeping with your husband? You are ruining some one elses marriage and your own. I hope your husband finds out and divorces your skany ass.

Sorry i know this is a real person but they deserve it. If you didn't want to have sex with one person for the rest of your life then DON'T get married!

Geez, people make me sick!

is this about the thrills for you? going away for the weekend takes it to the next level in the risk of getting caught dept too. seems like maybe you do want something more from this.

not forgive because you think it's okay to cheat on your family and the damage that will do to them. selfish.

You are really selfish...do you realize that you're hurting two people here? Just for your pleasure? Grow up!

NOT FORGIVE.

i don't see the point in the post.

i think she just wanted to say;

"Oh my gawd. I'm sooo married and i get to bang this hot guy at work. and it's all sexy and stuff because NO ONE knows about it. and my husband is soo stupid. and my lover's wife is a fat cow, and oh my gawd. the sex is PHENOMENAL. and he likes bangin' me soo much, he's taking me on a little get away. and oh my gawd . . ."

that sh*t ain't cute. so stop going around telling folks.

"Why is sexual fidelity so important to all of you? Isn't there a lot more to a relationship than that?"
Marseeah, there are many contributing factors to maintaining a healthy and long-lasting relationship; trust and fidelity just happen to be the two factors that contribute in keeping you and your significant other satisfied. Besides, relationships aren't about sleeping around with people and coming home to your original lover, it's about monogamy. Anywho, I agree with rosey_y, calling the woman a wh*re isn't going to solve anything.

How could someone cause this much pain to an innocent person? Or people? You really disgust me.

If both of your spouses know of and approve of having an open marriage/relationship, I think whether or not you guys stay committed to other people is fine. If you guys are destroying the trust of two or more people that love you, respect you and are faithful, then I say you two are in the wrong. I understand monogamy is not everyone's thing, but if you can't allow your partners the opportunity to have some extra fun on the side like you and your office crush, then you guys are just being unfair and immature. You can't have the cake and eat it, too.

i feel bad for the spouses. i'm not one to judge but when you get married you're supposed to be committed to only that one person. Also I'm not sure what you want forgiveness for. You don't seem to be sorry that you're having an affair, which is what you SHOULD ask forgiveness for.

I would like to know how you sleep at night.

Wow, holy cow. Like *none* of the people who commented above never cheated. Granted, they might have cheated on a boyfriend, like I did, which is an entirely different kettle of beans.

You know you're hurting three people in his, in the long run, your career will take a dent should this be discovered...You know all of this. I *sort* of admire you for not being foolish enough to believe that he'd leave her for you, and if there are kids on his side, I believe there is some merit in being practical. Remember, posters, THIS MAN WOULD CHEAT ON HIS WIFE ANYWAY.

On the whole, though, I think you should speak to your husband and try to fix things up. I choose forgive, but if you can get the good hot boning you need from the man you married, wouldn't that be best?