Guys and girls are so different, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. Since we are very emotional and nurturing souls, we show someone we care by kissing, hugging, and being affectionate. On the other hand, guys show they care by doing things for their partners — fixing things and solving problems. You see for guys, all that mushy stuff we crave clicks on a switch inside them that says it's time for sex. To his brain and body, affection leads to sex. Perhaps that's why guys rarely hug and kiss you just because! This can be really frustrating for a woman, and can make her feel unloved and unwanted by her man.
So how can you get him to give you a little loving during the day without you two ending up naked? Click here to read more.
Guys aren't mind readers, so it's important to communicate your needs. If you want a guy to hold your hand, reach over and hold his hand. When you're needing a hug, ask for one. If you want your man to make an extra effort to kiss you at other times besides when you're lying in bed, tell him. Just be honest and say that it's important to you to feel loved all the time, not just when he wants to have sex. You may have to remind him a few times since this kind of innocent affection doesn't usually come naturally for guys, but if he knows it means a lot to you, I'm sure he'll come around.
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Thankfully I do not have this problem. My Baby gives me hugs and kisses quite often and is very affectionate.
Maybe try to initiate it more yourself. Stop and give him a quick passionate kiss if you are just walking by. Maybe he'll get used to it and it'll make him want to be more affectionate.
1Um... I don't think this applies to all guys. My boyfriend is very affectionate, sex or no sex.
2I am with the above posters...
3he's affectionate sometimes without wanting sex, but most of the time he's trying to do some boob groping. He cant hug me without reaching for them or dry humping so i have to hold his arms while he hugs me.
4you cant really change them so u just have to deal with their annoying habbits
Mine is too...especially when he has bad days...
5He just cuddles up close to me and tries to get a back rub or scratch...and how can I refuse!
no, my hubby's not naturally affectionate, unless we're in a really lovey dovey mood for some reason....
but regular day to day, im the one to reach over for his hand and tell him i want him to hold me or hug me... =)
but when its bed time, EXTRAAAAA AFFECTIONATE!!!!
haha what a cliche
6I don't have this problem with my hubby. He's very affectionate in or outside the bedroom. I'm more of the 'wham-bam-thank you-ma'am' type and I'm not as affectionate as he is , unfortunately.
But I think I'm not that affectionate because my ex-fiancee with whom I've been with very long, was not affectionate at all. So I kind of turn into unaffectionate person
7i've never really had this problem. i guess i have always attracted guys who liked being affectionate.
8my boyfriend isn't very lovey dovey or touchy feely.. it's not how he shows affection.. but i wish it was! i could use more cuddling hehe.. i let him know this all of the time, but i can't change who he is
9"Guys and girls are so different, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. Since we are very emotional and nurturing souls, we show someone we care by kissing, hugging, and being affectionate. On the other hand, guys show they care by doing things for their partners — fixing things and solving problems."
Really. I had no idea we were so limited to these narrowly defined characteristics.
10My boyfriend is definitely the more affectionate one in the relationship. Sometimes I'm the one who doesn't want to cuddle.
11oh, and not just when he wants something.
12That's never been an issue for us. My husband loves being affectionate whether or not it leads to sex. He also leaves me a love note every morning before he goes to work..
13I'm lucky enough to not have this problem
My guy is very affectionate! He is always
wanting a hug or a kiss. When he wakes up he wants a hug, when he gets out of the shower, comes home from work! It really is so very cute 
14Of course he does try to grab my boobs or butt sometimes, but that doesn't bother me!
When my boyfriend gets stressed, he gets extremely anti-affectionate. When *I* get stressed, I look for affection. So when we get stressed out from school and such, things get very tense.
It absolutely drives me insane, because I look for physical contact to make me feel better - just a sense of comfort and love - and he hates it. It SUCKS!!
15hes only affectionate when he wants sex?
thats redonkulous!!!
My man gives me kisses in the middle of the store.
I think he should show you affection even if it doesnt lead to sex.
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16GUYS ONLY EVER THINK WITH THEIR PENIS'S, ITLL NEVER CHANGE.
17I have the opposite problem. Married twice to good women but women who give and want very little in the way of cuddling or small talk but were willing to have a normal sex life. Frankly I love snuggling and even over a 33 year relationship never lost that desire. My wife asked me when I would tire of these things and I didn't have an answer. Go figure!
18Tom
This is a HUGE problem for me. Mine gets an attitude whenever anything is mentioned and he shuts down. So it has never and WILL never be resolved. He just does not care. He even wakes me up while I'm sleeping.. AND I HAVE A 9 MONTH OLD WHO DOES NOT SLEEP WELL. I even told him that I was burnt out and tired.... Guess what.. he still has the attitude... Ladies, marry someone who can communicate with you without taking everything so personally; and with whom you can discuss any and everything... Because you will SUFFER!!!!!!!!
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