Uhhh no. Some people really need to learn to separate.

I don't get to see my girlfriends as much as I used to so when I do get to see them it's about OUR time.

If its girl time, no way do I bring DH along. I have dinner occasionally with some girls from high school and the only boy that ever shows up is one girl's one year old son, and we arent worried about him.

There are certain events that I would automatically assume he is also invited, like weddings and such, now that we are married, but I get very annoyed when girl's drag their boyfriends along everywhere they go- or when it gets cut really short bc they cant stand being away from their man for one second longer. Give me a break.

I think it's always rude to bring a guest who wasn't invited... regardless of whether it's a girls night or not. You should always ask the host if it's okay to bring someone.

No, if it's a girls night out, then it's a girls night out. I've been lucky with my friends/ boyfriend; it's very rarely that an uninvited guest pops up, and if someone extra is tagging along, the person that's bringing them calls the person hosting/ planning to check.
Earlier this week, I was at a Pink Tea hosted by the Women's Collective at my university, and it was understood that this was a girl's night out and while guys weren't officially uninvited, they weren't really welcome. However, one girl showed up with her boyfriend, and the poor guy sat alone in a corner looking terrified.

I also think it is incerdibly rude to show up with an uninvited guest. To assume it is OK without asking the host is just tacky. I would never show up at a wedding with an extra person unless the invite clearly said just my name.

Uninvited guests are called that for a reason - they were not invited. She should have left him home.

My fiance and I are ALWAYS together so it's nice when my girl wants to hang out and I leave my him alone with the pooch...or sometimes I'm not always game to watch him play bball, so I kick it a home.

Even when I visit my family, sometimes it's just me.

But the best part is when I come home and he's there

We're usually invited to everything together, but I would never bring him along for a Girl's Night. That kind of defeats the point.

Yes, this is just really ridiculous. I can't even imagine why the boyfriend would want to come! Whenever my girlfriends and I decide to do something we think our boyfriends might enjoy, like going to a baseball game, I always specifically mention to my boyfriend that the other guys will be there, so he understands the nature of this situation.

I know what you mean about guys killing the atmosphere. I went on a roadtrip with a friend from high school to visit another friend from high school, and she brought her boyfriend with her! So it was three girls from high school catching up....and having to hang out with her boyfriend that we didn't know, so ame.

The reason I said what I did about weddings is bc its considered very poor taste to invite a married person to a wedding and not invite their spouse, Im not talking about bringing some random person just so I have a date to a wedding, THAT is tacky.

I dealt with a LOT of uncomfortable list trimming when I got married, I went a got the Emily Post guide to weddings, she said you are only required to put "and guest" for people who are married, engaged or living together.

I just threw that in my previous answer bc that would be a situation where I would assume my husband would also be invited, the only reason I could think of that he wouldnt be included on the invite would be someone who wasnt aware that I had gotten married- the post was about girls night out.

There must have been some gap in communication, because I can't imagine any of my friend's bringing their BF's to a girls night...especially without checking first! That would not go over very well. Our girls nights are so few and far between that it is important to have that time together without the men-folk around.

Well I guess i grew up in a laid-back area because this is kind of over-reacting to me.

If the invitation isn't explicitly for both of us, I always ask if it's a couples party, or girls only. And if I knew it was a girl's night, there's no way I would bring my husband.

My girls and I try to get together every other week or so, and since I am with my boy everyday, he understands that is my time with them. Its always hard to manage friendships and a relationship, but giving them each their attention at their own time is the best way to go.

Yeah, tacky to bring a guy when it's girl's night. Guys are supposed to stay home watching the kids for us!!

Unless you specifically ask your friends ahead of time. Maybe you want to show him off and introduce him around.

My DH doesn't join girl's night out, but he will sometimes show up late near the end of the night, to escort me back home.

Hopefully the guy didn't invite himself out because he didn't trust his girlfriend...

I will say I have one friend who's hubby will incessantly call her all throughout the night... so annoying.

Nope. And, luckily, my SO wouldn't want to come anyway.

With my group of friends we don't really do anything that is closed to anyone. Everyone is always invited with or without your choice.

BUT if it was specifically a girls night out, it's different. I think it's funny he would even have wanted to be there. My BF wouldn't want to be sitting in the middle of a bunch of women listening to them yap about a bunch of crap he could care less about.

He's constantly surrounded by women (we have 2 little girls) and then when all my girlfriends come over, he scrambles for the door as quick as possible if they didn't bring their significant others.

Well if it happened just once, it shouldn't be a big deal. Maybe she misunderstood. I've had times when my girl friends tell me they are bringing their guys, and then at the last minute they make it an all girl's night, without notifying me! Don't take it so personally.

I actually had to stop being friends with a girl bc her husband just wouldnt back off. He always knew what we talked about, nothing was kept just between her and I, he would interject himself into situations between she and I that had nothing to do with him. He insisted it did involve him bc anything that had anything to do with "HIS wife" had to do with him as well and he would get involved if he d@mn well wanted to.

He was such a control freak, honestly I dont think they have any friends left bc he is so overbearing no one wants to deal with him, even his cousin was sick of him. When we were friends he would email me constantly all day, and if I didnt answer fast enough I would get emails wanting to know where I was and why I wasnt answering him. When I worked with his wife he would email and call her all day, if she didnt answer the email he would call her office phone and her cell and if she didnt answer those he would email and call me wanting to know where she was, Im like, dude shes at the copier CHILL OUT!!! I miss her terribly, but it would be impossible for me to be friends with her while she is married to him. He would be the guy that would show up(insist on going) to girls night and truly not understand what the big deal was that he was there.

Are you sure she knew it was a girls' night? I can't imagine intentionally bringing my husband to a girls only thing.

Truthfully I think it's inconsiderate of any friend to just assume that their SO is invited to something. I wouldn't have my fiance go with me to a girl's gathering. We do almost everything together and most of my friends probably wouldn't mind if he came along even if it was girls only but come on you have to have a little independence right?

i ALWAYS ask but you can usually tell when it's inappropriate. When I'm having dinner or drink with a girlfriend or a few girlfriends, no way. if it's a small party he's usually expected to be there considering we share a lot of friends.

My group of friends (the close knit ones) are pretty mixed. and usually whoever you're dating or currently married to is invited to things too.

but if i'm goint to an event and it doesn't say "plus guest" on the invite, or i KNOW it's just the gals, then no, i don't bring my boyfriend.

that's rude.

i mean, i'm a b*tch, but i got SOME manners. GOSH!

if i brought my dh to a girls only thing he'd leave, lol! that's so odd that she brought him, must be something else going on here.

I agree that there are times when it's just YOU who is invited, and not your significant other.

It's frustrating, because my best friend always includes her boyfriend in everything. I guess it's kind of like a package deal if you want to hang out with her...

i do think it's rude to bring along an uninvited guest.

but what drives me more nuts is the whole "no ring, no bring" approach to weddings. i think it is rather rude for people that you invite to your wedding to not be able to bring a date, unless it's a small wedding. but i've been to weddings with a few hundred people invited and i have not been allowed to bring my bf (who i've been dating for quite a while) just because we are not married. therefore, when i get married, nobody is allowed to bring their spouse. kidding, but seriously, i hate that.

I think it would depend on the type of outing and who had initiated it. If it's something like my roomates and I deciding to go to applebee's because we're all too lazy to cook, I might invite my guy along - we have a lot of friends in common anyway.

If it's something another friend put together and invited specific people, and did not include him, then no, I wouldn't.

Snarkypant - that happend to my cousin and his girlfriend with our other cousins wedding. My cousins wife didn't want our other cousin to bring his girlfriend (even though they were planning on being married in the future, and now have a child together) to their wedding because they weren't married/officially engaged. He almost refused to go to the wedding until my aunt talked him into going.

ohhhh nooo If I'm having a girls ANYTHING, I tell my girls upfront NO BOYS ALLOWED! That's usually in the title i.e. 'No boys allowed dinner at el patio'

we usually do things in a group, but if its strictly a girl thing or a guy thing then we respectively dont join in ....common sense, hello =)

If it's a girls night out, my hubby understands that and so therefore I don't bring him. If it's a function other than a girls night, I bring my husband with me.

Hell no. Parts of my life (including a part of my social life) is independent of my husband. The same goes for him, too. This works for us.

Personally, I can't believe that woman showed up with her uninvited boyfriend either.

Thats annoying, and very bad manners, if its supposed to be girls night, then I would want it to be. Its rude to bring any guest who was not specifically invited or that you haven't at least asked the host if they could come.

I agree with snarkypants too.

I don't have that many girlfriends in town, therefore not that many girls nights out. so if I am hanging out with my friends and my boyfriend comes along, it's not like he's the only guy. He doesn't live in the same city either, so I usually mention it to my friends before we go out. It would be strange for them to say he isn't invited b/c that would mean I wouldn't go either. It's not like I can leave him at my apartment to go out with my friends when he's come 700 miles to see me. But if he really wasn't invited, then no, I wouldn't bring him there.

No, not if he wasn't invited. That's pretty rude.

Most of my friends are married and/or in a serious relationship though, so when we hang out, our men are usually there too. We still talk about girly stuff too...the guys are used to it by now! And they usually go off and watch sports or play pool anyway.

not if its a girls night- then its strictly a girls night! if a friend calls up and says he a few of us are going to the bar tonight, come out- then its more an open invitation and i'll invite him out. but i'll usually check who's going first- cause if they list all girls, i'll leave him home!

like pretty much everyone said, if its a girls night, then obviously nobody should bring their bfs. but if its just random like hey lets do something with a bunch of people, then i would.

Nope, it's just plain rude, I wouldn't bring a boyfriend to a girls night out, but to other events you should always ask first.

My boyfriend and I don't really have the same friends, so when we go out, we don't hang out together. I like to give him his space to goof off with his friends, and he likes me to do the same. I've never had a friend bring her boyfriend uninvited...I think most people understand that's awkward for the boyfriend who will be surrounded by a bunch of women, and for the friends, who are constantly watching what they have to say.

No. and I don't always bring him when he is invited either. I always asses the situation, and make sure it is appropriate for him to come.