I think I’m out of the loop because I only heard the term frenemy recently. As you can guess, frenemy is a slang term used to describe a person who is both an enemy and a friend. At first I found this idea plain silly; how could someone be both of those things at once? But then I recalled a relationship I once had with a co-worker. While I called this woman a friend, and overtly treated her like one, in reality I actually didn’t care for her all that much. Her “friendly” competition was not what friendship is all about.
It seems like many women feel like they have to be friends with everyone, even if they don’t necessarily like that person, creating a lot of situations for frenemy relationships to grow. Is this term legitimate? Have you ever had a frenemy?
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no I dont. If I dont like you, I have a really hard time pretending that I do.
1I'm with you on that one, allourregrets!
2I'm the same way I don't like to pretend and
if the woman don't get the picture, she's asking for it!
I think this happens a lot at work, where the competition brings out the worst in some.
3I used to have some like that, until I decided that seeming to get along with everybody wasn't worth the backstabbing and general distrust.
4I have a few but they know how I feel about them. I have made it quite obvious.
5I used to have a few...not anymore. Now I only have one. And I HAVE to be friends with her...
6She is my boyfriends brothers girlfriend and yea I see her a lot for family things and we the boys hang at eahc others house...she acts super nice but deep down she is a mega-b*tch and drives me nuts!
The term frenemy is pretty old school. I think many women are really frenemies. How many women say someone is their best friend yet talk about them like a dog behind their backs? Or smile in their face to put up with them but secretly can't stand them. I think good examples of frenemies are Paris,Nicole,Lindsay, and a lot of Hollywood. Everyday people have many frenemies we just don't admit it or realize it!
7my coworker....I have to get along with her cuz she sits right next to me and she's loud as f*ck...
gotta go..she's reading this, me thinks....f*ck...
she's a rat too. and a kiss-ass. and she thinks she knows everything. But I'd rather try to get along rather than to fight with her.
But agree with the first 2 ladies (i didnt read the rest, my bad)....I make it very obvious when I dont like someone. I'll talk sh*t within hearing distance so they feel uncomfortable. Yeah, I'm a bully and I dont care. lol
gotta go!
8I try to give common respect to everyone I meet. And you know what sometimes people just don't like you even though they wouldn't tell you to you're face. To those people I no longer associate with unless I have to work with them. I find this alot with women, which explains why I have more guy friends.
9not anymore, thank god. when i was younger and wasn't as comfortable with declining invitations i had several. just this week someone i ran into asked if i was coming to a baby shower she was hostinjg and i said "no, (shower girls name) and i are no longer friends." i don't like to pretend
my girls have some though and it's so much drama!
10i think in hight school everyone had a couple of frenemies.. but when you get older - you become more comfortable with yourself and lose the whole "gotta be friends with everybody" way of being. I believe its better to be respectful to people but you don't have to be friends.
11i do, although it is more on her end than mine. and, like ash i kind of cant cut her out of my life because she is part of a group of friends i've had since college. i just try my best not to annoy her when i am around her, but i don't think it matters what i do, she finds ways to get pissed/jealous no matter what. she even got all pissy when i got into a car accident once... i like her just fine, but it's hard to be friends with some one who gets mad at you for being you.
12I'm way past having frienemies. There were phases in high school in college when I had them; now I just have my true friends. It involved communicating with them to figure out if they were one or the other. So I just kept the ones that were good and I cut out the toxic ones.
13Anyone who makes me feel bad, in any way, has no place in my life. Period. I'd rather be all alone than have friends who aren't *really* my friends.
14No, I don't have any people in my life as of now like this. I like to be surrounded by honesty, not BS. Maybe, she is not a frenemy but an associate.
15I'm with UrbanBohemian and AKirstin. I used to have a couple of frenemies, but I decided to raise my standard, and got rid of them.
Nowadays, I have only positive friends in my life.
16I don't, no. My time is far too valuable to spend with anyone I don't really like, so except for work situations, never.
17People at work are co-workers not friends unless you take it in that direction.
18I agree. I'm terrible at faking it. My face tells all. No frenemies here!
19No...if someone irritates me, I don't stay friends with them!!
The concept of this is a little confusing to me, I guess.
20can a sister count as a frenemy? I can trust mine as far as I can throw her, but she is my sister.
21I have had an experience with one woman i completely trusted. i shared intimate stories with her about relationships. found out she had lied about every aspect of her life to me and gone behind my back and betrayed my trust. TO another friend we had in common !we still talk because she knows alot and could do damage. but you can bet i have learned the art of lying, TO HER.
22Never heard this term until today! But I would have to say that I have had a couple of "frenemys" in my life time.
23Yes I've had a few but only in work situations.
24I haven't had a frenemy since high school.
25If i don't like you, you KNOW it.
ain't no shakin' and bakin', or fadin' the funk.
and anything i have to say about a person, i have NO PROBLEM saying to their FACE. i don't do that 'behind their back' sh*t.
26no, not really. i guess i have one, same situation as ashcwebb.. boyfriend's brother's girlfriend. can't stand her, but i have to try to!! haha. not because i want to, but because i like everyone else in the family and want to show them respect. i could care less about her! and i really like what akirstin said, that is so true. i am the same way.. i'd rather have no friends at all then to have friends who are talking behind my back about me.. aka people who aren't your friends! if i ever don't like someone who has been involved in my life or i find out someone has disrespected me in some way, i'm just done. i don't have time to play games.. it's too immature and annoying. i have better things to be doing and i am busy enough as it is without having to deal with that kinda drama!!
27I do, but not by choice
28It was this girl I trained at work.. and I thought everything was dandy until she got caught slacking off, assumed it was me who ratted her out for no reason and decided to make me HER frenemy. She's really nice to my face but will run to our manager the second she gets her hands on something she can spin to my disadvantage. I just try to associate with her as little as possible because I don't want to get involved in the high school drama, but when we are together I am *required* to be civil.
I normally let people know how I feel. But in a professional work environment cattiness is just ridiculous and being seen as a b*tch can seriously jeopardize your success. So yes I have one because there is a saying about keeping your enemies closer...
29haha, FRENEMY, the episode from Sex and the City. yes, they do say 'keep ur friends close but ur enemies closer'. that's pretty hard for me to live by. im not much of a faker and it makes me gag when im near anyone unlikeable who pretends to be nice. so most of the time, i just steer clear of them. but if placed in a situation, like in a professional work environment, i'd have to take compazine before facing any 'frenemy' to keep myself from vomiting in disgust.
30i'm pretty easy to get along with and i try to avoid people who are *fake* like that but i've been in that situation before where i've felt like i had to be nice to somebody that i didn't care for. i don't like doing that, if i feel that way about a person i usually try to avoid social situations with them, but if i see them somewhere i'm nice to them.
31This is perfectly possible, if you're competitive in nature.
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I have two girls which I consider two of my best friends ever. But dang, we're competitive. Especially when it comes to achievement in school or career. If either of them achieves something, I feel motivated to do better. And if I do something, they congratulate me with a teeth-gritting smile. I remember telling one of them I got admitted into this really good university. The reaction? "Oh, I've never heard of that school. Are you sure it's good?". Both of them give me snooty remarks when they're feeling insecure. (To my truthful credit, I never do this. I simply smile, go home and express my nervousness to my family and/or loved ones. Ha. I know better than to show my insecurity outside. And yes, this is a tip to all of y'all
But the cool thing about both of them? I know that we understand each other more than non-competitive people ever could, because that's just part of all our natures. I know I could call (especially one of them) in the middle of the night in tears telling them my boyfriend broke up with me and she'd be right over with cookies, icecream & a shoulder to cry on. The other one is by turns snooty and mean, or a great big sister I can rely on for (even career!) advice. Our competitiveness builds a strange bond between us.
32Yup, they're definitely both friends and enemies.
One of my closest friends I sometimes think of as a frenemy. She is a little too competitive and catty at times, and that's where it crosses the line. It causes arguements that happen frequently...
33We all have them whether you know it or not, mine are commonly co-workers. It's better to keep em' close.
34ha ha ha frenemy that's great! chuckles
35hi!!!! ok well i need advice
well i considered this girl my best friend my sister in fact. just recently we were at a club and the guy i liked wanted to dance with her and she followed him they were dancing right in front of me , i don't know if he did it to make me jealous or just cause he likes her but he looked at me ..the sitution is i can't trust her after she did that ...right ???? what should i do with her ..
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