When you were little, I'm sure you probably had that oh-so-embarrassing and uncomfortable sex talk with one or both of your parents. I remember feeling so squirmy and disgusted, and I actually didn't believe what my mom was telling me until I heard it again at school.
Now that I'm older, and obviously sexually active, every once in a while my mother tries to bring up something about sex, but I just can't bring myself to talk about it with her! Our opinions about sex and relationships are just so generationally different that talking about such intimate things is just too weird. Plus, it's really not fair to the guy I'm with to share those kinds of details, or gripe about my sexual frustrations when she views him as a possible future son-in-law. So what about you? Maybe your relationships are different. How do you feel about sex talk with your parents now that you're an adult?
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My mom knows I have it...and that's about it!
1my mom pretends she doesnt know i have it
2and we would never talk details
we joke about stuff at our house, just not ever about ourselves!
Never even had that sex talk with my parents. Mom never even had to say it, it was just heavily implied; my sisters and I only had to know one thing: "ABSOLUTELY NO SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE." Strict traditional types, they are
So no, don't think I'd fancy a talk with mom.. and vice versa really
3I think it would be TMI for mom (dad's deceased)to handle.Anyway i'm married with a child so i'm pretty sure she's figured out that i'm having sex.
4Absolutely not & like KadBunny, I never had the original talk with them. I moved in with my ex a few years ago (against their wishes), so they know I have it and once I had a super awkward conversation with my mother about where my ex's parents were going to stay when they visited us (uh, a hotel, we only had a one bedroom) and then she "guessed" that we only had one bed. Yeah mom, it's the 2000s and we moved in together before marriage but then we got two twin beds like it's the 1950s.
5Not really. My mom will occasionally bring it up and try to get me to talk about it but it's still weird to me. So, I joke it off.
6We always talked about it. We both waited until we got married to have sex, so sitting around comparing our conquests was never an option. But general talk about sex has never been off limits.
Now that I'm married she's very respectful though. We joke about sex but she never asks anything inappropriate.
And I never found the sex talk awkward at all. It was probably more difficult for them than me. I remember always being fascinated by life - but sex never weirded me out.
7Wow, I guess I'm a bit different from most of you guys lol. My mom was always open about it as a kid, but no real 'talking' about sex when i was a child/teen. Up until I got a real boyfriend and she was where thing were headed, and just looked me in the eyes and said come to be before you have sex and we will put you on birth control...you have so much going for you and we want you in college, not taking care of a kid.
Nowadays, we are more like best friends (well actually I'm more like the mom!) and we are so open about our sex lives and relationships. It's a natural part of life so why keep it hidden away? Maybe it'd be weird if it were both of my parents, but she's been dating for years (off of 2 marriages) and I'm usually the one pushing her to date, and she comes back and says 'you'd be so proud, we waited even though it was SO hard' after a passionate date #1/2. It's quite funny.
8nooooo! im so close to my mom and everything, but nooooo
9i dont even speak to my dad, let alone have a sex talk HAHA
Lord no!
10nooooooooooo no no... I work to avoid that talk.
11I have never had the talk ever. She knows I am having sex, as during a pregnancy scare I cried and told her I was scared...haven't talked about it since, haha.
12My mom gave me the sex talk when I was about 10. It didn't make me uncomfortable. I don't talk to my mom about sex but we have before in the general sense, nothing super personal. There's things that should always remain private.
13Nope, I never had the talk with my mom either.
She is a strict Catholic... well as much as a divorced person could be a strict Catholic, and was probably a little disappointed when I moved in with my BF, but we never even hint at the conversation.
I watched the 40-yr old virgin with her, and it was totally awkward.. I think I was 27 years old at the time too.
Just not a topic we EVER chat about.
14No. Never even had "the talk" when I was younger.
15god no. My mom is cool and everything and we joke about lots of inappropriate things and stuff, but I don't want her to know details of my sex life. She knows I have it and that's as much as I want her to know.
16Nope. Nooo way.
I AM still a teenager, though, and I'm pretty sure she knows (we've been together for 2 years, he's visited me at school several times this year, where it's pretty obvious we both smooshed into my twin bed together, she accidentally found a condom wrapper in my drawer once... she never mentioned seeing it at all, but there's no way she could have missed it), but we both pretend like she doesn't and I like it that way.
I think she's trying to make our relationship "grow up", as she's been swearing around me and telling me dirty jokes lately. But I don't think I'll ever want to discuss that particular aspect of life with her.
My boyfriend's mom has talked to me about my sex life with her son, though. Now that was awkward.
17Hellz no! Never had "the talk" growing up. And never will talk about it.
18I was once at a department store cash register with my mom and we were acting the fool with each other. The cashier said "wow, it looks like you guys are really close." My mom said "yeah, we talk about almost everything, except when I have sex with my husband (my dad...gross right)." I turned to her and said "well do you want me to talk about when I have sex with MY husband?" She looked at me and shut up instantly.
19oh lawd no!!!!!!!!!
20Serves no point in talking about that with her.
21That's a big ol' hell no, lol. Even though I am 25, my parents are very conservative and believe that sex should be saved for marriage. Actually, my mom never brings it up, so I wonder if she knows I have but just doesn't want me to confirm it...
22I've talk with my mom about it occasionally. My dad, no way. Even if he's already envisioning grandchildren from my husband and I, the topic of sex is off limits with him.
23We have talked about sex philosophically, as in Darling, sex is something special between two people, and it's a beautiful thing, but not something to throw around and only to be shared with someone you care about. I know she pretty much assumes/hopes no sex before marriage. But details? No. Eeuw.
Talk with dad. NO. double eeuw.
24Never.
Actually, when one of my friends got married, her mother decided to suddenly try to act like a friend, and would constantly try to start conversations with me about my sex life and oral sex.... very bizarre!
25ElizabethRae- that is EXACTLY how it is with my mom. We both waited too. You put my thoughts into perfect words.
26I'm only 19 and I've never had a serious boyfriend, so it'd shock my parents (I think) if they found out I have indeed lost my virginity.
27My mom tries to talk sometimes, but that's one topic I refuse to discuss. Worse was when I was talking to my grandmother about being married for 50+ years and she brought up things I didn't want to think about. My family is waaaaay too open for me.
28I was talking to an older friend of mine once who has a college-aged daughter and she said that her daughter told her when she lost her virginity. I said, "I'm married and my mother still doesn't know I've lost my virginity" and my friend cracked up.
29While my mother and I don't necessarily talk about it -- at least not totally directly -- we don't really avoid it either. We allude to it, and I'm not at all uncomfortable thinking about her and my father having sex. Their relationship is so strained right now because of work and finances and paying for two children to go to university that they don't have any sort of chemistry anymore. I'm sure that once I'm married and it's more acceptable to my mother that I'm having sex, I'll talk to her about it if I have issues, problems, or whatever.
30I never had a sex talk when I was younger. I did, however, overhear my sister getting it (she's 4.5 years older than me) when she was around 16/17 and I remember thinking both "HAH! and "eww.." She got her sex talk while she was dating her first and only boyfriend (and now husband). I never had a serious-seeming boyfriend when I was her age, so I never had a sex talk. I did wait to have sex until my current boyfriend when I was 20, though.
I've been serious with my boyfriend for over 2.5 years now (at almost 23) and my mom skipped over sex talk and instead jokes about how I wouldn't have to change my initials, since the boy's last name begins with F and so does mine, heh. I do talk sex with another family member; my cousin, as she's also my best friend.
31No not at all. That is just weird. Maybe if we'd both been on the dating scene at the same time. Her and my Dad got divorced right at the same time I met my future husband so we didn't exactly have a chance to compare. I think it would have been kinda fun to hang out together and meet men lol but I'm sure she'd get more men than I.
32My mom is a Christian and wants me to wait until marriage. As a matter of fact, I promised her I was still a virgin. My boyfriend always jokes that he'll "slip up" and mention how much of a great lay I am or something to get me in trouble.
33god no!
34god no!
35Absolutely not! My mom is the very traditional type, the one who always implies that sex before marriage is wrong. I'm the complete opposite, so I choose not to go down the path where I tell her.
36im 15 and i still didnt get the sex talk but i know wat it is sooo idk wat my mom thinkin lol but im a vigin to so u know im bout ready for that talk cuz im gettin horny and sh*t im scared to tell her when i loose my virginity if im 15 or 16 but ima have to tell her one way or another
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