YES-My ex was like this.

I say YES. I know people are gonna argue this but hey! I think 6 out of 7 is proof enough for me!

I think that if you cheat, AND you don't feel bad/affected/etc, then yes you are a serial cheater. BUT if you did it once and felt terrible afterwards, then no I think you learned your lesson.

There are some serial cheaters out there. But most people DO grow up at sometime during their life.

I think in alot of cases, yes its true. If you can do it once and feel no remorse, then you will do it again. But I think there are people out there that learn from their mistakes (I am one, I cheated on a guy I was dating in college and felt so horrible about it, I couldnt even look him in the face, it was a HUGE mistake and the guilt was killing me so I fessed up to what I had done, and havnt cheated since)

From experience on both ends of this, I say No. Of course it all depends on the person though. I think it's nuts to think that no one that makes a mistake can do it just once and learn.

I chose other. I agree with ashcwebb. I think this adage is true in most cases, but I know I cheated on a boyfriend of 3 weeks in high school (I kissed a crush!), but that was silly. I felt bad, we broke up, and I never did it again. I think some people grow up to realize how childish it is to cheat. I definitely KNOW that there are serial cheaters. And those people are the basis for this saying.

No.
No person is ever "always" anything. Some either mature, change, grow tired of the game, lose their extra opportunities, or find a partner who they do not want to risk losing. Either way, they eventually stop.

I know many decent people who have cheated in the past, and I know they would never do it again. It totally depends on person.

All depends on if the guy uses you as a personal toy or cheats because he thought his girlfriend or wife cheated. I know that one seems far fetch to a few of you, but so many men cheat before asking their spouse if they cheated.

With that being said I chose, the third one.
I however, still do believe once they cheat they will do it again. I never forgive anyone that betrays me the first time.

I think it depends.

but if i went on a date with a guy and he told me that the reason why his last relationship ended was because he cheated, i would lose his number.

It depends on WHY they are cheating...if you cheat in "relationships" b/c you never really cared all that much about the person you were with, or never saw a meaningful longterm development, or a future as a marriage, then yeah I absolutely believe that you can change when you find the person you truly want to be with. Now if you cheat on that person, then no, you're effin always gonna be a cheater:)

I was a cheater. I cheated on two different boyfriends. But that was a different time in my life. I am with my fiance now, and could never imagine cheating on him.

I have also had boyfriends cheat on me. I don't talk to any of my exes now, partly because I moved to the other side of the country, but I would hope that they aren't cheaters anymore.

Totally depends on the person I think.

Its a game to some people, and those are the people you have to watch out for. Everyone makes mistakes, and most of us learn from them. But its those people who just want to get as many notches on their belt as they can, that you steer clear of. Unfort, its not always that easy to tell, cause usually those are also the "nicest", "sweetest" guys. (if they have mastered thier game,anyway) My last bf was one of those. I always had suspicions that he was cheating on me, there was always something...a phone call that he wouldnt answer infront of me, not coming home because he "got too drunk", etc. Well, the relationship ended. (not because of the cheating, as I still wasnt for sure, I left because he became abusive) but after we broke up I ran into a girl that he had worked with and she told me all the little dirty details, including the fact that he moved her into our apartment after we broke up (he was trying to convince me to let her move in while we were still together, but I said hell NO) Anyway, so I finally knew for sure he was cheating on me (not that it mattered at the time) And he found a new girlfriend who had a kid. When I found out that she had a kid I thought it would be wise to warn her of his abusive cheating ways, but alas she didnt believe me. They were together for a while, then out of the blue one day I get an email from her thanking me and apologzing for not believing me. Aparently he cheated on her with ALOT of different girls, and even got one them pregnant, made her get an abortion...and gave the new GF an STD....anyway..my point is...people like that will never change. He has no reason to because he gets what he wants from women (sex) and then moves on to the next, and thats fun for him.

I am going to say no, and i have personal experience with this. Like someone said before me you are never "always" anything. I believe in forgiveness, and by that i mean true forgiveness not the " in the back of my mind, its always there" kind.

I'm gonna say yes - because I believe that 99.99999% of the time that is true! I'm not gonna say people NEVER change but in my experience cheaters are always cheaters!

I put yes.

But indeed the answer to this question is really "it depends."

It depends.

There are habitual cheaters ('players'), for whom the statement holds.

Then there are people who make a one-time mistake, maybe because they are bored with their long-term relationship (even though they love this person) and want that one time escape which they might really regret afterward. Or, it could be a particularly weak moment emotionally, which makes them make one big mistake.

I wouldn't call the second group 'always-a-cheaters'.

Interesting, a recycled topic. Answered it already a little while ago.

Yes. I understand that there are people that learn from their mistakes however 90% of time they don't.

Of course not. Just because some, or even most cheaters are repeat cheaters doesn't mean everyone is. Nothing is absolute.

Yes and no, some people cheat multiple times, others just once

I think some people will always cheat, but there are others who realize their mistake how much it hurt people and will never do it again.
It also depends on the situation. If someone cheats because they are missing something in a relationship, but then get into another relationship where nothing is missing they won't feel the need or even desire to cheat.

No, it's not always the case. Some people will cheat all the time. They suck. But other people make mistakes in judgment, feel awful about it, and never do it again because they realize the pain they cause and the general wrongness of doing that is not worth the momentary gratification. It just depends on the person.

meh i dunno i think that 90% of the time thats true but there are always exceptions to every rule. HOWEVER. that being said- if someone cheats on me i have a really hard time getting it out of my head that they might do it again.

This *is* a recycled topic! Thanks for confirming my suspicions, Meike.

I cheated on my first boyfriend--I was at uni, he was still in high school, and the boy I cheated on him with is my now boyfriend of nearly 18 months. When I broke up with him, we promptly agreed to just be friends...by making out in the back of my car. We had a couple more make-out sessions, then I focused on the better man.

I don't really regret cheating. I guess my deal is that I'll never cheat on a man that loves me.

agree with leeluvfashion

i agree with ashcwebb. i finally grew up, i just didnt love the other people that i cheated on...granted i was like 18. When you love someone and are truly committed you dont cheat.

i think it definitely depends. as someone said above- if they do it once and are full of guilt and remorse and such, that might be enough to make them never do it again. i cheated on a bf once eons ago and i haven't done it since. even at the end of my last relationship when my bf and i were on the verge of breaking up any day and i had the opportunity to kiss a guy that i had a huge flirtation with in years past- i chose not to and to wait until my relationship was officially over before i kissed another guy. i just know what it feels like to be the one cheated on- it happened to me in the past, so i would never do that to someone again.

If you want a really good story...come hither. I was wrangled through a twisted tale that I never thought possible. After calling the woman who I was suspicious about, a truth that I never imagined revealed itself...a cheater is a cheater for life.

YES!!!! People have problems changing...it is human nature..

Depends on the person really...I answered no, because i've cheated on a guy before and wouldn't do it again.

... I put yes.. because people function in patterns, they learn something and then they do it repeatedly whether it works or not. I don't know why..
If someone has chosen this as their avenue to deal with a dull relationship that is going nowhere and they feel "ignored" or like they were "never really in love" or just plain unhappy, chances are next time they have the same problem they will do the same thing. And they will justify it in a million different ways, and every time it's "different" or "the biggest mistake and will never happen again". I'm sorry, I don't buy it. Change is possible. But it's definitely hard. And I'd say, much more often than not, once a cheater is always a cheater. Or at least a repeat offender.

When I first met my boyfriend's ex, she could not wait to go on about how he had cheated on his last two girlfriends with her. She failed to mention that this was when they were in high school, and when she said it we were juniors in college. My bf and I hadn't been together for six months.

I'm assuming she was trying to make me jealous, but in the grand scheme of things, I am by far better than she is... I think she was just jealous that he had found someone, that's the vibe she gave off, and his mother had even said to me that she was more than likely really jealous.

She's got that type of personality, I guess, where she wants to make people feel inferior or insecure.

Whatever, he hasn't cheated on me, and I highly doubt he would, especially with her. I trust him, I'm sure he's changed since high school, and I've never worried that he would do such a thing in the two years we've been together.

how you win them is how you lose them, so if you get with someone who is cheating to get with you, expect to lose them the same way in the future.

Dude, didnt we already do this poll only like a month ago?

Sometimes men don't think they "cheat". They are just not commited to single relationship! They always have an excuse why they would cheat......and once done, it's never going to be the last.

Yes. You either do the right thing 100% of the time or you dont. theres no compromises.

I did it in high school...and I felt terrible afterwards...during was great HAHAHA...But now...I could never imagine cheating on my fiance. I guess it depends on the person...also, if other selfish qualities in the person is evident, theyre possible cheaters...
Ppl grow up, however if theyre in their 30s, its not a good sign.

I used to feel it wasn't true, depended on the person - and then it both happened to me and my best friend started cheating on her guy (not the same boy), after she had always been in my corner about cheating as a deal breaker.
I don't think it has to be, but like so many things, once it happens you can rationalize to yourself.

I agree with thise who talk about feeling bad afterward!!! Some people have no regard for other peoples feelngs and those are the ones who usually serial cheat . I am no angel by far, but I hate to hurt peoples feelings. The first time I cheated, I felt horrible, it happened one time. I did not get exposed, but then he cheated on me and that was worse for me!!!!Not because it happened, but because it was an ongoing thing. We broke up for a while then got back together - no more cheating on either end. Then we split up again for some years, have always remained friends. Now we are back together, have been for almost a year now and it seems that since we have grown up so much (we started dating 12 years ago) that we have come to accept the things that we had done to each other in the past and have committed to each other that if the feeling should arise to see someone else, that we would be honest with each other and tell the truth. I am thankful that we got to spend time apart because we each dealt with other people during this time and come to find out that we complete each other in more ways than we ever imagined. We communicate, act silly, have srious time, fulfill one another sexually and both are willing to compromise for the sake of our happiness. So no, I don't believe once a cheat always a cheat - it depends on the type of person you are.

I really don't believe in .. "Once a cheater, always a cheater". I, myself cheated once. Honestly .. I had no regrets. I'm not saying cheating is the right thing to do because no one wants to be cheated on. Some people have different intentions and reasons. Some cheat because of the many options they have, Some for lust, and some to find what is it that you are looking for.

I cheated on my previous boyfriend with my now, husband. I just couldn't find the guts to tell him. The hardest thing I've ever learned in life is having to break someone's heart. I never loved my ex but I thought maybe I could grow to love him. BUT.. it couldn't happen. The nicest guy in the world but still, I'm not happy. Instead I feel in love with someone who has nothing, nothing to offer me, but LOVE. He is my husband, who is currently incarcerated. What a story of a cheater huh?

In .. Dear Poll: Is love enough?
I explained my reasons .. my reasons why .. I cheated.

continue from comment above...
I fell in love with my husband while he was incarcerated and currently he has another 2 years to go.
I don't believe, I KNOW that LOVE will be enough and if it's not in the end.. I will have no regrets.
My husband is everything that I want in life, despite the fact of where he is right now.

I am at the end of my journey to find what it is that I want in life .....

To love .. and to be loved.

Yes I believe that to be completely true. if you had the courage to do it the first time what will stop you the next time. and don't say will power, love or commitment, what happen to them in the beginning.