Females have always competed with each other, it's just our nature, but it's a real shame when jealousy and insecurity get the best of our friendships. Jessica Brinton who wrote a recent article in the Times (UK) said it best, competitiveness is "an awesomely sophisticated game of one-upmanship."
This notion got me thinking about Hollywood friendships. We see celebrity duos all the time, but are their friendships based on support and general admiration for one another? In my opinion, Hollywood is a breeding ground for competition so ladies, tell me, do you think celebrity friendships are legit or do you think they live by the motto "keep your friends close, but your enemies closer"?










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Yes. The 3 prime examples I would have used are up there in pixs.
1I think they are!
2We I believe once you've been around a few different girls for a while, you began to have (sometimes maybe) similar interests other than being an actress.
3I think that those 3 that you have pictured are genuine freindships, but really..you cant say they all are or all arent. Its just like in real life...we've all had our real friends and we've all had our friends that we are only friends with because it benefits us somehow...I dont think its any different in Hollywood.
4Those friendships are really strong supports for the 'Yes' side.
Nicole and Naomi are both leading women from Down Under who choose to take the strongest roles they can, regardless of the amount of publicity it will get. The two even gamble together on Clooney's lovelife.
Jen and Courtney worked together for ten years. And then proceeded to smooch on television. You don't do that with someone you secretly resent.
And Cameron and Drew've known each other *forever*. You can't hate on any of these three pairs.
5i think that perhaps they start out of convenience, ie, they work together for long sets of time, but then become true friendships. that's how it works when you're in school, why not for celebrities?
6that's like saying you can't become friends with coworkers...
7yes, you can be rich, famous, and beautiful and have good friends. i would think it says more about you if you DONT have any friends. For instance, does Angelina Jolie have any friends? besides her brother, or Brad?
8Just because you don't read about them doesn't mean they don't exist, KrisSugar.
9As in real life, I think people in Hollywood can form real or fake friendships. It totally depends.
10Some are real, some are much harder to convince me of (Paris Hilton and oh, anyone else she is 'friends' with). The Aniston/Cox one, yes. The other two pictured, yes. Some others, no way.
11I don't believe this is a yes or no question. I'm sure that celebrity friendships are a lot like real-life friendships - some of them are for real, and some of them are very competitive and fake as hell. You may have to work harder in Hollywood to keep a friendship genuine, but I believe that they do exist. I think Jennifer Aniston and Courtney Cox are the perfect example of a real celebrity friendship, but on the other hand, you have friendships like that of Paris Hilton and Nicole Ritchie ... which has an intense degree of competition and a fake air to the relationship.
12I don't think their friendships are any different from any us. Most people have real friends and faux friends. In the time of need you can tell who you're true friends are. I wish ppl would stop putting celebs on a pedestal, they really aren't that different from the rest of us.
13The ladies pictured above all seem to have legit friendships going back many years, vacationing together, etc.
Celeb friendships that go beyond the press push for a movie or TV show strike me as more "real" than those that you only see together at premier parties.
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14all girls need other girls to lean on, even if they have a perfect guy on their arm.
Sometimes the friendships are genuine and strong, and sometimes they aren't, just like for us non-celebrities. The ones you've pictured are definitely good friendships that have stood the test of time. I'd love to have a friendship like Courtney Cox and Jennifer Aniston's. I don't have a friend like that.
15the three examples you used I feel do not show the norm of celebrity friendships. I think the examples of real friendships growing in spite of them both being celebrities. To me when I see other celebs hanging out, prime example, Paris and anyone she's with (except Nicole and Her sister), is only for the photos/papers.
I don't believe Madonna and Gwyneth are friends, maybe associates that you say hello to and invite to the large parties, but not that you call when you need to talk about something important in your life.
16I was an "other".
17I think that some are real, others arent.
The examples you gave were good examples, but there are plenty that aren't for real - ala- Paris & Nicole, Hilary & Lindsay, Paris & anyone. I think a lot of these as well as some Hollywood "relationships" are just for show and for publicity. You just have to see if they stand the test of time!
i think those ladies up there are good picks, dearsugar, for genuine friendship in Hollywood.
Nicole and Naomi met when they were teenagers in Australia trying to get a start of their acting careers. While they could have viewed each other as competition, they supported each other. I think when Nicole is making it big America, Naomi wanted to and so Nicole allowed her to stay over her place while Naomi auditioned. I think this was all going on when Nicole was married to Tom.
Goodness I sound like I"M actually chummy with them.
AND else411 i agree on your comment about Madonna and Gwyneth. I think they are just friends when it is necessary to be friends with, like when promoting something.
AS far as competition, I hope it didn't exist. One thing I admire and something I look for in a friendship with fellow females is the willingness to have sister-like bonds with other females. No cattiness. No jealousy. But just good ol' fashion sincere friendship.
18I agree! I think the 3 examples shown are great examples of strong female bonds.
19Some are, some aren't. The only people that really know are those involved.
20Yes... u make friends with ppl you work with.. they are essentially co-workers... and dont you have friends from work? Plus they have shared stress with being in the lime light.... so they can help support each other...
21I think they are, everyone makes friends with the people they work with, and you make lots of friends if you keep moving from job to job. I think celebrities share common pressures of the media and their jobs, so they bond through that aswell. But I don't think all of them are built to last, especially with young hollywood. Why no pictures of Brad and George, or Matt and Ben!!
22Yes! Especially the BFFs you show in those pictures.
It's natural to make friends and "bond" with people you work with and who have similar lifestyles.
I'm sure some of them are more friendships of convenience, but some I believe are true friendships.
23Is it so hard to believe that, like the rest of us, they need support and companionship? Fame and money alone can never substitute for the advice, comfort, camaraderie, and happiness that genuine friendship provides.
24I completely disagree with the statement that it is 'just our nature' to 'compete' with each other as women. It's a social construct that women are 'naturally' catty and competitive. If the argument is that we're 'competing' over men, well firstly - all women? That's a pretty heteronormative assumption. Over any sex/romantic partner? Well what is it about women that would especially make this so? Wouldn't this mean that both men and women are competing in all sorts of combinations for that 'natural' oneuppersonship? How come friendship exists at all if this is the case? How could we ever possibly function in a trusting relationship with anyone?
I think it's quite obvious that the idea of female competitiveness is socially constructed, but let's think for a moment about another feminine assumption; that we are 'naturally' nurturing, more open to friendships, bonding, being physical with other women than men are with other men... isn't this just another social construct? And isn't it one that is in absolute contradiction to the 'competitiveness' one?
I don't doubt that in the world of celebrity where your private thoughts, feelings, fears and sexual acts can be bought and sold by those nearest and dearest, that the idea of trusting, solid friendships can be a hard one. And when there are only a tiny proportion of jobs for those out to get them (even - or especially? - for the creme of the elite who are the 'A list'), a professional competitiveness is almost inevitable. And when women are pitted against each other by society's looksim, agism, sizism and general misogyny... then yes, competitiveness is going to creep in. But that's part of the social world of those professions, nothing to do with anything 'natural'.
Perhaps those friendships quoted above are 'rare' in the world of celebrity - maybe they are not. Do all friendships have to be so visible for us to know that they exist? It may come as a shock but things exist outside of the scrutiny of gossip and paparazzi 'proof'. Perhaps they are borne out of a need to relate to those in a similar situation (like romantic relationships between stars) and perhaps they are not. I don't think it should be surprising that celebrities - women or men - find friendship. Perhaps the question should be why we find this so surprising and wouldn't trust that they were genuine. But most of all I would hope that we could question why we make gendered assumptions all the time and label these things as 'natural'.
25I def agree with the examples you have chosen. :]
26Yes, the 3 pairs above are friends. However, I wouldn't consider friendships that Paris, LiLo, Britney and other immature celebs make true friendships. They simply don't last like Nicole/Naomi, Jen/Courtney, and Cameron/Drew.
27i think most celeb friendships are real
28those 3 pictured above i believe are real
29most are real i guess.
30oh come on of couse they are not real!!!!
31i think the pics you have put up are friends but many celebs friends aren't really but a good few are fortunatley!!!
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