You did nothing wrong. She was probably really embarrassed when she saw you, as she should have been. If you made sure she got home safe, you didn't abandon her. And if you were no longer interested in her after your date, I don't think you had an obligation to call her either. It sounds like she acted like a fool in both encounters. Forget about her!

Forgive. What a stupid girl. I applaud a guy like you for not taking advantage of her drunken stupor. You were, by no means, obligated to call her. She probably was like girlgreen said, embarrassed for her behavior and for being rejected. You don't need an idiot like her in your life.

Ignore her. You were a gentleman and should be applauded.

Forgive, but I think you should have called her back

Forgive!

I would add that if something like this happens in the future, it's not a terrible idea to call back, if you really liked the woman. Even smart people occasionally do stupid things, and perhaps she was calling you to apologize for acting like a fool and to thank you for your good behavior. Who knows, if you like the person enough you MIGHT give her a second chance, or at least hear her out.

That being said, if you are turned off by someone's behavior you don't owe that person a THING (after a first or second date anyway)and she certainly proved her foolish behavior wasn't a one time thing by flipping out at you when she saw you again!

Silly boy! She's obviously got a lot of baggage coming into any relationship and sounds like you dodged a HUGE bullet! You didn't take advantage of her and drove her home...you are by most women's standards quite respectable at this point. I could understand if she was a close friend or you two had gone out several times before, or you both had gotten more drunk than you had planned, but she went on her own and got that hammered on your date, then that's her problem and she has no right to be upset.

I would be thinking she's a bit off if I were you and not even considering the fact that you may not be 'forgivable.'

Now...go find yourself a great woman:)

You don't owe her anything, that's just my opinion.

I think you're kind enough to bring her home safely and not take advantage of a girl who's so drunk. It's like damn if you do (since she'll tell all her friends you took advantage), and damn if you don't (since she got upset because you're not staying over or call her back). Oy!

IGNORE her. Just be thankful you know about her abrasive attitude and her tendency to get tipsy (or way too tipsy) on the first date.

I always thought that first dates are all about first impression anyway, if you want to take it to the next one. And she flunked by getting too drunk.

Maybe next time you should just answer the phone even when you're not interested and let the girl know in a short, polite way that you're not interested anymore and thank her for the 'date' (regardless how bad of a time you have). But in my opinion, that's not even necessary. I'd think people take the hint when his/her date doesn't call or reply their call. It's been done way too much already for someone to not take a hint.

But to play the devil's advocate, if she's been a long time friend of yours and she's so drunk and you left her without 'tucking' her in, SHE probably thinks that she's got an excuse to get mad at you for not 'sticking by her side' when she's that drunk. Plus with the not-calling back thing.
But whatever, just b/c you're good friends, when you're on a date (esp. the first one), you don't get that drunk.

Good luck to you.

There is nothing to even considering forgiving here. You did absolutely everything right and nothing wrong. The audacity of her to scream at you, in front of a party of people no less. Consider yourself lucky she showed her true colors on the first date rather than getting more involved and it coming out later.

And I just hear her complaining to her friends: Why hasn't he called me?

What a ninny! You would have been totally justified by defending yourself and your integrity by telling her what a trashy drunk she turned into and how you fulfilled every obligation in seeing her home safely.

I applaud you for your restraint and your good taste!

Forgive! She sounds like trash from the drunk to the freakout. Don't even let it bother you.

She got mad at you for not taking advantage of her while drunk? You're not her keeper, and she should be apologizing to you for the way she acted! I'm impressed by your morals, and applaud you for doing the right thing.

It may have been sweet of you to call the next day to see if she was ok, but that would have given her false hope that you wanted to see her again. You made the right choice, obviously she's a little psycho...

you did absolutely nothing wrong.

like someone said you deserve a really great woman.

Why forgive? You were never wrong to begin with pal.

Wow. Where do I start?
I applaude you for not only being gentlemanly, but unwavering on your beliefs by not taking advantage of her (as I think most guys would). It's an admirable quality that she obviously can't comprehend (let alone appreciate!).

Approaching you at the party and creating a scene only proves her immaturity. It seems that she only wanted to create a dramatic scene to try to make HERSELF look like the victim.
She's an idiot. I wouldn't feel any guilt over someone so childish and irresponsible.
Next time, take me to the party with you!

You acted like a gentleman that evening - many guys would either have taken advantage of her and her behaviour, or just bounced once the date wasn't going so well. But you gave her a safe ride home, and were clearly not attracted to her - you were classy, she was not.

Hahaha, her behavior is hilarious. Would she have rather you come upstairs and taken advantage of her? I mean, seriously, what a load of crap. You absolutely did the right thing, and she is a moron. If I was the girl and I saw you at a party, I would have been humiliated because of my behavior that night, and hidden in the corner. If someone gets so drunk that they "can't see straight" that is their own fault, not yours!

There is nothing to forgive. You acted like a gentleman, that´s all. Moreover she is an adult and she should know what are the consequences of boozing so much. Like Jovianskies told, next time I´ll be glad of being your date.

Forgive. I can't tolerate drunks.

Forgive... she was probably pretty embarressed and rejected that she wanted to blame someone for it. ALTHOUGH you probably should have called her back or gave some kind of explanation, I can kinda see why the nod would tick her off, like as if nothing had happened.

Forgive. You didn't abandon her, after all you brought her back home, and you were a perfect gentleman by not taking advantage of her in that state. Bravo!

It's totally her fault, and you're just lucky you didn't end up with a drunk like her. You never know how many other guys, week after week she meets and has a one night fling with. You don't want to be with a girl like that.

forgive; she sounds like a brat, you sound like a gentleman.

Gawd this chick sounds like a disaster! Agree with others that she was probably embarrassed and took it out on you.

You did nothing wrong, and everything right. Please do not think about this woman for one more second!

Don't even think about it; there's nothing to forgive.

You didn't abandon her, you saw her safely home, and didn't think twice about the appropriate thing to do regarding an inebriated date. You did the right thing.

She's the one who behaved reprehensibly.

Besides, the fact that you're even questioning your behavior is a good thing.

ITA with everyone here...nothing to even forgive. Kudos to you for being gentleman.

I would be really interested to hear the seven people's opinions who said to not forgive...

Unforgive. I think it was a good thing that you brought her home and didn't take advantage of her. She was obviously misbehaving.
But.. you should have called her back. You left the girl wondering and that's why she was so upset. If you were honest and a real man you'd tell her the truth.
I don't understand why everyone is so amazed that he didn't take advantage of her. That's not a reason to think he's special, that's the way it always should be.

Forgive. You did nothing wrong. That b*tch is psycho. You don't date immature trash.

Nothing to forgive here. She's a grown a$$ woman behaving like that. Not cute or attractive at all.

You did nothing wrong.

It would be more interesting if she were asking here if yelling at you at the party is forgivable.

I don't know anything about "dating rules", but I don't think you had to call her back. It was pretty clear how bad the date was.

A few people here voted "Not to forgive". I wonder why (there is just one comment supporting this position).

Shes pissed bc you rejected her, you did nothing wrong and Im sure all your mutual friends would agree. I imagine she felt really stupid the next day and that on top of being mad that you werent interested made her lash out at you trying to make herself out to be the victim. (if anyone was actually buying that crap I imagine you would have mentioned it in your post)

Personally, after so many years of dating jerks and then FINALLY finding a guy that is a real gentleman like you (and marrying him) I think you should be applauded for being a nice guy- dont give that trashy drunk another thought.

There is nothing to forgive here.. which makes me wonder why you are even asking....

Poster of a Girl--yeah it made me kind of wonder if the guy asking just wanted some congratulations for being a nice guy.

The person who voted not forgive and commented-good point about the whole we shouldn't be so amazed at the guy for not essentially date-raping her. Very good point!! It's sad how much credit he gets just for not being a scumbag.

I think a lot of people got confused with this question, it was asking whether or not to forgive him for not calling her back, not for not taking advantage of her. I mean, still, I don't think you HAVE to call someone after such a very bad date though! That's why I would say forgive. I would not call a guy back who had acted like that.

Forgive. She sounds like a b*tch.

Yeah, it is a good point that what he did is what all men should do but let's face it, the amount of men out there who wouldn't take advantage of a woman in that situation is somewhat of a rarity. The actions the OP took is becoming less of a norm. And thus, I will stand by and praise every gentleman with good character. An average man would have just gotten himself laid because he could.

Ick how embarrassing.. not for her FOR YOU! I despise girls who drink and get retarded like that. It's likely she was just getting over someone else and that's why she was throwing herself at you.. Regardless.. it's tacky and she didn't deserve a good boy like you

never met a man that would turn down sure chance sex. if you'd called her back it would have been when she was sober.
never met a man that gave not calling a woman back a second thought, never met a man that would need to talk abnout it with a bunch of women.

3 strikes dude. think about it.

Don't think you did anything wrong. Actually, considering that you seem to feel guilty about not calling the crazy lady, you sound like a very nice guy.

Forgive.

I agree that calling her back would have given her false hope. You had your mind made up about her. Even if she was calling to apologize, you don't owe her a second chance.
And even if you called her back to explain yourself, it's likely that you still would have had that confrontation.

You just dodged a bullet. This girl is a nut, and just keep as far away as possible. Make sure your close friends know the full story, so they can defend you if she starts spreading her crap on to people around you.

There are a ton of great girls out there, who can behave and know how to drink responsibly. Don't fret another second about this one.

you didn't do anything wrong! you did exactly the right thing. If anything she should be on here asking for forgiveness

Forgive!!! I completely agree with the above posters!!! I would however add that if you told her that you would call then it's just polite and good manners to call - but if you did not mention it to her then she really doesn't have any reason for being upset. It does sound like you have very good judgment!!! Good for you for being a good judge of character and being responsible.

Dating is the worse!!!

My friend constantly reminds me though, that dating is one of the really horrible activities that has the potential to go really really well and possibly find the one person who you will share the rest of your life with and in the meantime we keep going on dates and eliminating those who we definitely do not want to share our lives. Good Luck!!!

DONT FORGIVE.

she should be flattered that shes met a half decent guy who isnt going to take advantage of her like 98% of guys would in that situation.

get rid of her and find a decent girl.

Ops, TFS.
The guy is asking if he should be forgiven for not calling the girl.

In my opinion, you didn't do anything wrong.

ignore her. she was a drunken mess. You did the RIGHT thing.

You really shouldn't be asking for forgiveness because you did nothing wrong. In fact, you were a 100% gentleman and you're a rare breed. You didn't take advantage of the situation and you made sure she got home okay. Good for you. Don't worry about it.

You are the one with more class here! She is the fool! Good job! Not many men would be so well behaved as you! Kudos!

The only thing you did wrong is not call her. Your behavior the night sounds gentlemanly. She was probably calling to explain why she behaved that way and because you didn't call back probably making things worse, maybe you could just apologize for the fact you didn't call back it wouldn't be good if she becomes bitter it might just have more side effects especially if you have the same friends. good luck

Like someone else said, it sounds like you dodged a huge bullet with this one. She doesn't sound like the type of girl you'd want a relationship with. Not just because she got drunk, that's forgivable. But the fact that she caused a scene at the party, that's a huge red flag. Even if she felt wronged, she should have spoken with you in private about it.