see your doctor-there are new meds out having to do with pms-can't rememver the name but just saw it on tv-good luck

I agree with angel go see yor dr.abouts meds try even praying it helps.

I would talk to a doctor or a therapist because this sounds to me like more than pms. A lot of women get mood swings during their pms but your behavior is extreme

Although meds and doctors are one course to take, you may want adjust your diet. Cutting back on sugar can lessen irrational irritability. Say that 5 times fast! If you think you need immediate help, like you might cause harm to your daughter, then go the medical route. Counseling and having friends you can vent to without judgement also will do wonders! Have you had episodes like this before? Do you recognize any signs before they happen? Sometimes if I'm feeling extra emotional, I'll put on some good music and just let myself absorb the "good vibes". Good Luck

- La Fiora

do you think it is just pms, or are you having this anxiety all the time? i agree that talking to a doctor or therapist is key to getting help, but what makes me worried for you is that you say you are all alone and have no one to talk to. your feelings could be a sign of some sort of deeper depression or just the stress of being a single mother building up over time. these mood swings could be helped by birth control pills and anti-depressants to help regulate your horomones. and seeing a therapist to talk things out and getting help with your daughter is nothing to be ashamed of, being a single parent is probably one of the hardest jobs in the world.

and if you are ever feeling anxious like this and have any thoughts of hurting yourself or your daughter please please please seek help immediately at your closest hospital.

this doesnt sound like pms. it sounds like a case of control issues and borderline child abuse. if your kid is not eating something for over an hour than just take it away they obviously dont want it. i dont know where you would get it in your head that its okay to do that. i used to have a babysitter that would slam my face into the tray if i didnt finish all of my food. i was 3. I STILL REMEMBER. Please get help for this.

and you are not an awful mother, everyone goes through hard times at different points in their lives. just make sure you get the help you need to keep yourself and your daughter healthy, safe, and happy.

one; this is not okay. that child is 4 and your actions are terrifying to her. next time you are angry put her in her room and walk away or go outside for a few minutes. thinking about doing something is very different from acting on it. i have a disabled child so i understand the frustrations of not getting the behavior you are looking for but seriously, you need to find an alternative action next time you are upset. if you tell this story to anyone it will get you reported to cps. two; onward and upward. it's a clean slate from here on out. go to your doctor and tell him the anxiety you are feeling. many, many women go on something the week before their period. give yourself the "okay" to get help. there is no weakness in asking for help. third; children are very forgiving. tell your daughter you were wrong, that mommies are just like everyone else and sometimes make mistakes and you are going to do better from now on. then do just that.

I have this too, and despite what you may be feeling at the moment, you are not an awful mother. I would recommend going to see your doctor. If you're into more holistic alternatives it's worth looking into St. John's Wort and Agnus Castus. I tend to get aggressive and irritable just before and during my period. Agnus Castus helps with all symtoms of PMS. At the moment I'm taking it everyday of my cycle to balance out my hormones. But like every medicine, seek advice before you take anything. Good luck with everything.

I have to agree that your actions were out of line. But I don't think you are a bad mother maybe you're just over your head. I would talk to a dr. and no matter how emotionally charged you are come on think before acting- for the sake of your young daughter.

TINA!

I feel very bad for both you and your daughter. September & Valeri are right that the way you behave around your child is definitely terrifying to her and she will always remember it. Please try to make this incident the last one she has to remember before you get some help. Admitting things have gotten beyond your control is the first step, so now is the time to quickly to do something about it. I would see a Dr. as soon as possible and explain that your mood swings are making you feel out of control. There are many ways to work out hormonal issues, but remember also that treating your daughter poorly may have become a habit that you will need to actively work to change. Home should be the safest place for a child, where she feels loved and is treated with kindness and patience. Imagine how much happier and less stressful life for you to can be with some help from Dr's and counsellors? It's not too late to be the mother that you know you can be.

I am so sorry you are going through this difficult time. I have mood swings and have gotten back on the pill to try and curb them. My husband isn't even able to have babies anymore. Maybe that could help if you aren't on the pill already. Remember we only get our babies for a short time of their life, they run off before we know it. I have a 5 year old girl and when I run short on patients I remember those poor amish girls and how that could happen to our children and how much I appreciate her and everything she provides me with. That is what gets me through. God can call them home anytime and we only get 18 short years as it is. I hope you will find the help you need.
~~~ Niki ~~~

If you're doing something as extreme as dunking your baby's head into its porridge then you need more help than any advice we have to offer. You need to talk to health professionals and look into PMS medication.

Some women have very EXTREME mood swings during PMS - there is medications that can really help you with this. also, lafiora is completely right about the sugar. for example, if you are diabetic and don't know it, having too much sugar (or not enough) could cause behavior like this!