According to a recent poll done by You & Your Wedding magazine, one in five ladies are so concerned about their bridesmaids letting them down on their wedding day that they would consider asking them to sign a "prenuptial agreement." In response to the magazine's survey, the Telegraph writes:
It found that respondents' biggest gripes were with bridesmaids who put on weight, became pregnant, or changed their hairstyles before the big day. A series of suggested clauses included that bridesmaids should not consume more than 10 units of alcohol, or make any advances towards "inappropriate male guests" — or the groom.
I don't know what I find more ridiculous about this, the fact that a bride would have the gall to present this to her bridesmaids or the idea that her bridesmaids might actually sign it. If I'm being unrealistic and such a contract is necessary, please tell me. Does this seem reasonable to you?
Beyond The Valley
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Bottega Veneta
Hmmm. This is ridiculous to me. I would never ask my close girlfriends to sign something like this.
1if someone handed me a paper like that, i would laugh at them.
2The bride is literally asking for her bridesmaids to screw her over if she gives them a contract. This is by far the most craziest thing i've read on here.
3ha--yeah, if my "friend" gave me a contract to sign, I would immediately shave my head and stuff my face with pizza and ice cream. This is absurd. It's stuff like this that makes me hate weddings.
4This idea is so stupid. Any bride who demands one of these is probably not mature enough to enter into a marriage. You ask people to be your bridesmaids for their individuality and support they have already shown you... don't try to change their free will with a contract at this point.
5Bridezilla? Yes it's an important day, but how enjoyable is it going to be if you're stressed about silly little things like this?
6While this contract is absolutely absurd, I can understand where a bride might find it frustrating...I'm getting married myself and if one of my bridesmaids couldn't fit into her dress it would suck. That said, I would never make them SIGN something!I would just have to deal with it- and I would! Its more important to me to have my best friends up there with me, but yeah- it might be a little annoying.
7If you think your friends are crazy enough to get wasted on your wedding day and hit on your husband, maybe you should find new friends.
Also, being a bridesmaid shouldn't mean you can't have a baby or eat a pizza. I don't get this society thing where people thing getting married is no big deal and antiquated, but when they DO get married, it's the biggest deal in the world and if a tiny thing goes wrong it all crumbles.
Rant? Sorry.
8Aww yea that's mean!
9If I was really THAT worried, I woudl treta them to coffee and just explain how much I am really depending on them to help me through the chaos!
I'm getting married in two months, and all I wanted from my bridesmaids was for them to come in for a dress fitting and to be there at the wedding.
My best friend doesn't fit in her dress at the moment, so her sister offered to wrap her in Saran wrap. Heh.
Cleraly you have to be crazy to ask your wedding party to sign one of these, but who actually signs these things? I'd just resign as bridesmaid.
10This is the reason why I hate weddings and wedding planning and wedding anything that completely displaces the actual reason for the wedding - THE MARRIAGE!!!!! This just so completely ridiculous - the truly sad thing is I can see some brides pulling this c&*p!!
11That is so stupid. I wouldn't want to have a friend like that to serve at a wedding. When it hits the point that bridesmaids can't have their own lives leading up to the wedding, that's just inexcusable.
12I can't even imagine having someone I care about ask me to sign a contract. Women that do that a ridiculous. My friend asked me to be in her wedding and around the same time I got pregnant. She didn't get angry or tell me I could no longer be in her wedding. She was excited and was there for me 100%. I was 6 months pregnant when she got married, I had the same dress as the other bridesmaid and we looked fantastic.
13Wow! This seems like an extreme. What happen to communication with your friends about your feelings and expectations.
14Oh, and a contract saying a bridesmaid can't get pregnant. WTF? I got married a couple of weeks ago and had a pregnant attendant. It was a further cause for celebration and an excuse for me to drink more champagne... on her behalf of course.
15Wow... talk about bridezilla... I don't think I'd have many friends post-wedding if I tried this on my attendants!
16I've heard of this. I think it's crazy, crazy, crazy, crazy. Although, to be fair, you shouldn't have to "sign a contract" to avoid ten "units" of alcohol. If I don't want to pass out on the floor, I will avoid ten "units" of alcohol.
17Reason #450 for why I do not ever want a wedding. I prefer to focus on the MARRIAGE.
18whats with this wedding mania! i got married in november and i was no where near picky or a bridezilla and our wedding was absolutely wonderful. everyoneeee literally had the best time ever. geeez, i just cant grasp the obsession with the "flawless" wedding.
19I've been a bridesmaid 5 times and a maid of honor once. So 6 brides. Only one was a bridezilla, and I have no doubt that if she had heard of such a contract, she would have been looking for all of her bridesmaids to sign one. Things have gone waaay too far when the focus of wedding comes down to this kind of crap.
20If you feel the need to have a signed, written contract with your bridesmaids, why are they your bridesmaids?! I'm in the beginning stages of planning my own wedding, and I've chosen girls that I know will be there for me and will help me. There's no need for contracts!
21totally crazy. if anythign the bride should sign one and promise not to mistreat her bridesmaids. i kid. seriously though like the above commenters said picking a bridesamid is based on previous friendhship loyalty and support.
22This is ridiculous! I wouldn't even want to be a bridesmaid anymore if one of my gf's asked me to sign one of these.
23I think this is a dumb idea. if I was a bridesmaid and the bride had me sigh this I'd rather not be a bridesmaid.
24SO absurd. And obnoxious.
I would never have dreamed of doing this to my bridesmaids. And I would laugh if one of them pulled something like this.
25This actually made me laugh out loud. If any of my friends made me sign a contract that I wouldn't gain weight or get pregnant, I'd end the friendship right then and there.
My wedding is in May, and I could care less if my bridesmaids show up pregnant, with 50 additional pounds, and short hair. Just as long as they show up, wear a dress that fits and doesn't overexpose their cleavage or a thong, and have a good time. I mean seriously, gain weight? Do we pick our bridesmaids based on appearance now, rather than quality of friendship? Not get pregnant? I know someday in the very distant future when I want children, I'm going to have a really tough time conceiving, and I can't fathom being ready to have children and in the middle of a big process trying to have children, and then someone telling me that I CAN'T because they want me to fit into the bridesmaid dress of their choosing.
The only thing I can understand is asking bridesmaids not to get so drunk that they wind up sleeping with a groomsman or "making inappropriate advances towards the groom" -- but if I didn't trust my bridesmaids to behave, I wouldn't have asked them to fill the role.
26I guess I am a horrible bridesmaid, I was a pregnant bridesmaid for two friends.
27Wow, stupid brides. Talk about anal retentive.
28Ugh, I get sick to my stomach when I hear about crap like this. I swear, if anyone ever did this to me, they would have one fewer bridesmaids immediately.
29If someone presented me with a contract like this, I would immediately resign as bridesmaid. I have no intentions of gaining weight, chopping off my hair, or getting pregnant, but the very gall of a woman to ask her friends to sign a contract that they won't live their lives for the sake of her "special day" is absolutely childish and ridiculous. I would have a hard time being friends with someone after that.
30I think the key to never having to deal with this is to have good friends in the first place!
Thankfully I've got wonderful, down to earth friends for whom something like this would be completely out of character. I can't really imagine being friends with someone for whom this would seem like a good idea.
Can any of you really see your friends being this selfish and controlling? And if so, why, honestly are you friends with them??
(Family I understand - cause you don't get to pick them!!)
31Is this a joke? Who are these 1 in 5 brides, because none of these posters seem to know one.
32I think that signing a contract is completely rediculous. My best friend of 20 years asked me to be her maid of honor in her wedding. Her soon to be husband is my brother. The wedding is in Nov, and I just found out that I am expecting. I told her right away hoping she would be happy for me, though she almost seemed annoyed. I will be 5 months along the day of the wedding. Her attitude has changed towards me, she won't call me or return my calls. Should I back out of being the maid of honor?
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