well then again, to be fair, i never had sex with someone i wasnt in love with =)

Absolutely!

Love + Sex = amazing sex!!!
I have the best sex wiht my boyfriend cuz we are so in love

DEFINITELY!

Ive had sex with people I didnt really care about, Ive had flings, Ive had relationships but not been in love with the person, and Ive been in (a) relationship where I loved the person deeply. And I would say that the sex is definatly better with someone who you are in love with. I dont think its so much the act of having sex that is so great, (dont get me wrong, it is!) but I think its more about knowing that he will be there when you wake up. Knowing that if you dont want to have sex that night he wont never call you again. Knowing that he wont run as fast as he can in the oposite direction when he sees you in your sweats and no makeup. Knowing that he knows things about you that no one else knows, and loves you anyway. And I dont really understand the "no way its all about physical chemistry" answer because...well it is. And when you are in love with someone the physical chemistry is SO much stronger than with someone who just think is cute.

Oh yes.

I've never had sex with someone I wasn't in love with, so I don't know if it was fair for me to answer this!

I have the V-card, so I put undecided.

the v card? viriginity?

sex when you're in love is so much better. i'd never want to have sex with anyone i wasn't in love with.

It depends what you mean by better. The best sex I ever had in terms of it physically feeling good and the height of the desire was with someone I couldn't stand out of bed. But, I prefer the sex I have with my boyfriend because it's like I have emotional orgasms as well instead of just physical ones...if that makes sense.

I think that sex if way better when you are in love. I love my bf very much and before we was together I had a one night stand and it was pointless. I think that the connection makes better loving.

wasn't this a topic last week?

i need to cut back on the sugar....

okay okay maybe not LAST week, but recently?

erratic...I thought I remembered this question being asked not too long ago, too.

yes yes and yes. it adds another layer of intimacy that maximizes every other aspect of the relationship.

i will never have one without the other ever again

I think it is.

Love just accentuates the physical chemistry. It's the best of all worlds when you're in love with someone and have intense, fantastic sex with them...

Yes, for me, it does. I couldn't otherwise have sex if I didn't love my fiance.

Well, I guess it depends on who you're in love with, and their skill level...

Of course.

I have to say it depends. Yes, the sex is absolutely AMAZING when you're in love. It has only gotten better & better for my & my boyfriend! But, honestly, sometimes it's all about physical attraction & I'm not gonna lie about that.

**me & my boyfriend. Oopsies.

I haven't had sex out of love so I can't actually make a comparison... but I imagine it's better. =)

I have had great sex with people I didn't love. Even before my boyfriend and I were "in love", the sex was amazing. But there is something unique about having sex with the person you love...it's in the way he holds me really tight and the way we look at each other. It can be just as rough and crazy as it used to be, but there is an added element of comfort and sweetness that brings it to another level.

allourregrets, I couldn't have said it better myself.
I think, When it's with somebody you love it's more than just a physical connection, but a spiritual/emotional connection as well if that makes any sense.

i never have done one without the other.

yes! def!it adds so much more intimacy to a relationship!!

Personally I say YES! LOVE makes it sooo much better!

I can't even imagine feeling comfortable enough to have sex without love!

It's definitely on another level with someone you love.

Are you implying there's no physical chemistry once you're in love? That's crazy! You can still have great sex with someone you're in love with. Sure, it's easy to fall into a rut, but it's a choice made out of laziness to let your sex life lag just because you're in a loving relationship.

wasn't this the main point of "the 40 year old virgin"?

I answered undecided because I have had sex with guys, I have had 1 night stands and they have been wonderful. And then I was with my ex for 2 years and when we first hooked up the sex was great...and then it just died. I don't know if it was because I no longer cared about him. I don't know but I know that with the guy I am with now sex is great, and I do care about him alot, whether or not that is love I dont' know that either, but I know that it is fantastic if you care about the person, and if you don't care or just want a quickie it's not all that great.

I fall in love with people whom I have great sex with even if I wasn't in love with them at the time of sex. If the sex's not good, it's very hard for me to fall in love.